11 Months - Girlfriend (no longer a virgin), end of procrastination, increased confidence

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coupleI've been fap free for almost 11 months now. I started my current run last July. I am making this post for a couple of reasons: 1) I hope that seeing someone make it almost a year without fapping will inspire some of our new fapstronauts (my story is somewhat inspiring, I hope) and 2) I have seen a lot of debate about whether or not wanting to get laid is a legitimate reason for starting NoFap.

I know many people start this thinking it will give you "superpowers." The thing is, it will if you are really addicted to masturbation. My NoFap journey started for a couple of reasons, but the main one is that I was ashamed of my unrelenting need to masturbate. I would do it at work, at friends houses, even at my grandmother's house. I was disgusted with myself and my need to ejaculate ruled my life. It didn't matter what I was doing, if I got the urge it wouldn't go away until I had fapped. So I set out to correct it.

Yes, I had never had a girlfriend or sex before NoFap, yes I desperately wanted both of those things, and yes that was one of the reasons I started my Fapstronaut journey. However, it wasn't until I realized that I had a problem and I needed a real lifestyle change that my NoFap tendencies stuck. I relapsed four or five times over the course of June before I committed myself to working out and pushing thoughts of sex from my mind. Any time I got the urge to masturbate I would immediately get up and do some physical activity: basketball, lifting, running, biking, walk in the park, playing with my dog, whatever I needed to do to get my mind off of it.

I also decided to tackle my procrastination, and this was one of the real keys to my success. Any time I was feeling too lazy to do something, whether it be yard work, working out, homework, writing a song (I make music as a hobby), or just getting up out of bed in the morning I immediately jumped up and did it. I didn't let my urge to be lazy override what I needed/wanted to do. This is important. This is the mind set you need to not relapse. You have to be of the mind that you won't allow yourself to do something you don't really want to do. Be the master of yourself, don't let anything control what you do other than your own will to do it.

Using these methods I was fap free all summer (no small feat, considering my family had just moved and I had no friends in the area which meant constant boredom), and I returned to college in mid August. I met a woman (my neighbor) a couple of weeks after moving into my new apartment. Now, normally I would have been too shy to talk to her, too scared to make the first move. But this is where the supposed "superpowers" kick in if you hold off of fapping long enough (this includes edging, don't cheat yourself). I talked to her and got her number from my roommate who had gotten it (they were both smokers) and invited her over to watch our school's football game that weekend. She said yes! Long story short, we kissed that night and now I am no longer a virgin and I have my first girlfriend. We have been together ever since, and she is absolutely amazing. She loves the fact that I don't masturbate. She's told me so many times that she thought she was just going to have to accept that she wouldn't be the only woman getting her man off, but with me she knows she is and that means the world to her. I love her. We just moved into our first apartment together, and I'm going to propose to her as soon as I can afford the ring.

Thank you NoFap, you have changed my life. I met the love of my life because you gave me the confidence to conquer my addiction. This can be you new fapstronauts; it might not happen as quickly, but trust me, if you put in the work you will get out of it the most amazing quiet confidence. This is because you know you are the master of yourself, that you have self control. That you can overcome your addictions and inadequacies. But you get out of it what you put in. I am a firm believer that you cannot edge if you want NoFap to work for you. Don't look at porn. Don't allow yourself to sit and think about sex. You are in control, don't ever forget that.

LINK - Eleven Months In

ago by JarJarB