External Rebooting Blogs & Threads

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 Just a few of the over 1,000 forums we have seen discussing porn-related problems:

Personal Blogs:

  • CrazyJourney - blog follows my journey with my boyfriend to get through his porn addiction.

  • Free Yourself - Blog about addiction to sex and pornography (Polish)

  • Just had Enough - Wherein I explain my embarrassing addiction, and my journey out of this twisted circle.



I am two weeks off my addiction & feel no loss for porn and really proud that I think I have Brocken a 27 year addiction. The most devastating fact is that I have hurt my partner so badly from lying and I just want to support her and try and rebuild the relationship if she will allow me to. Do you have any web sites that can guide me how to talk to and communicate with my partner to try and-
1 see if it can be repaired
2 understand what pain she is going through from my addiction and lies

you will find a variety of sites geared toward healing relationships. Some may be helpful, others not so much.  This guy has a really helpful book - Love You, Hate the Porn, and is focused on relationships



Interested did this relationship repair? And do you still need any advice from a womens/partner perspective?

First off i congratulate all you men on this site because you actually have the sense to spot something damaging and at least are trying to take control of your life/dick back.
Personally i knew something was not right, my husbands attitude changed alot and i knew something was not right he started to tell me he thought he had depression, something i had never heard him say in 11years of being together , late nights on the comp, i would ask if we could do stuff together and there was no interest. His whole attitude continued to decline even negative comments on my figure (Im not vain or no porn star but im a good looking real life women). I not religious and never been against masturbating but when i caught him masturbating it pissed me off only because i wasnt getting any sex from him so i asked if he could come to me first. few months later not much changed and caught him again checked phone and my world crumbled.... completely. The shock i was in at the discovery was nothing compared to the months following. And im not going to blab on about how bad porn is, im writing this for any men in relationships who want a perspective from a womens point of view and that their wife or girlfriend is not crazy or jealous but normal reactions. I also understand how fucking addicting this porn is on men i mean i get it i do but i can also see how marketing is controlling mens sexual minds and dicks and its destroying basic connections with people. I feel so sorry for young men bought up on this. I mean no women is ever going to be as tight as your hand. My vagina was never going to match up to my husbands working hands. I dont know if you guys can see this but you are the future game changes just like cigarettes were cool until people realized what it was doing. Can you imagine if you are struggling to get of this internet porn what its going to be like for future boys bought up on 3D porn? They will be hooked real life connections will struggle to compete unless men start sharing thier effects. Anyway i found this site and couldnt believe it was causing effects on dysfucntion but looked up and found marketing with images of young men for ED, like steve jobs said, join the dots. Even pharmacuticles are making money out of you well hopefully not you lot. Anyway as for relationship i feel porn destroyed alot but fuck you porn im gonna get it back. spending time together doing fun stuff again. Booking in a babysitter and actually finding time together. One thing we found with all the questions is that he thought i didnt want sex, but i always wanted sex i love my husband just like im sure your wifes love you but we want to fuck you, i want to be his dirty bitch without some fucking computer telling him how i or he should be. Whats itimacy thats intimacy. Dont bother with a sex therapist if your in a relationship, i really dont think they have a clue what porn does on the brain. Before this turns into a novel if anyone has any questions please fire away. Im honestly truthfull. If your just coming out about this be honest about EVERYTHING straight up dont wait for her to ask you questions i know youll want to lie to save hurt or thinking it doesnt exist but honeslty it makes a HUGE difference to just come clean about it all. And then be prepared for a million of questions! Its funny in someways i feel sorry for him now eduring all the questions of how who what when. And be prepared to repeat repeat repeat everything. Do not get angry at her it only makes susspission worse. Goodluck to everyone on here, i hope you take control of your sex life and in general whatever else its wrecking. x

I am on Day 3 of the cleansing cycle and on the road to be completely free of pornography and masturbation all together. Thank you for this awesome site.

I am also refraining from all sexual images ( I don't watch TV at all actually), in magazines, in public etc, I really REALLY want this and reading these accts on here inspire me so much! Cant wait for 3-6 months down the road.

I have pickle tho…I workout a lot and love it. But sometimes, working out at the gym guys catch my attention. I immediately will look away but it seems to follow me. I know everyone here is saying to eliminate areas of your life that are bringing the wrong imagery, but the gym?? I love to stay in shape and I really don't want to not go there bc of this….what should I do? any suggestions? I work a 8-5 job so from now on I will be going in the morning at 6 am as to avoid the mass of attractive men that may be there in the afternoons after work.


"I vow to be a different man"

artificial sexual stimuli, not real-life sexual stimuli. By artificial this really means eliminating the pursuit of artificial sexual stimuli. Have you seen this faq - What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot (did I relapse)?

That said, some guys avoid too much staring, and avoid placing real people into sexual fantasies...or porn based fantasies. It's a good exercise.

But the goal is to be aroused, naturally and normally, by real people - and to find porn boring and a waste of time. Also see - What about fantasizing during a reboot?

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