Gary's TEDx talk - "The Great Porn Experiment"

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Since dopamine is paramount for learning what if the problem isn't porn but our shameful forgetting of it. Working memory studies show thickening of d1 receptor walls, you need that for sexual technique, even for masturbating. How often do we think about masturbating and porn indepth away from the cpu, never. What if the problem is a separation of self?

fear and aversion. And D1 and D2 sometimes have opposing effects and sometimes complimentary effects. On this site I discuss the role of dopamine role in salience, motivation and addiction.

When comes to the brain, it's not really about neurotransmitters or receptors, it's about which circuits are activated opr deactivated - which are functionally altered - as in learning and addiction.

I don't feel like a sex addict but when I get on the internet I feel like looking at everything. I know that makes me sound like a voyeur, gay, pervert, or whatever else but I get curious about whatever people put out there. Youtube, on line tv, and facebook, blur the lines and you think xvideos, youporn and pornhub are all the same. Then you start to think that when on these sites it's just like channel surfing only putting in searches. It's crazy but it has happened to me. I come here instead now and am looking for support to stay off internet porn.

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I've got 11 days NoFap, now on Day 12, but I've got porn playing in my own mind. My own fantasies - I can't stop them.

This FAQ has a few suggestions - How do I cope with porn flashbacks?

I strongly suggest you post on forums where ther are guys going through the same things you are, such as this forum - http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/

Get advice, thoughts, and support.

The fetishes and compulsions had been melting away, but I was getting more and more agitated and aggressive with my new girlfriend. She knows about the program and I told her maybe she should cut me off, block me online etc. I woke up at 3 AM with tears in my eyes - I hated who I was right then, so I masturbated - enough's enough. At 5AM I sent her a message saying I had masturbated twice, and now she and I are okay.

I still don't look at porn, I'm still recovering well, but now I have sex with my girlfriend - and I last forEVER! (It also helps that she seems to cum quickly and repeatedly). In any case, she's one of those instinctual women - she knows I was telling her the truth even when my head was muddled by hormones, she knows I'm alright now.

One of the fetishes came back a little, but like John Nash (A Beautiful Mind) I engage in a diet of the mind as best I can. I masturbate, but I avoid porn, and dammit - that's enough for me.

At about day 14 or so I gave up the NoFap - I just couldn't take it anymore. The person I was turning into, the way I was acting - it was upsetting to my girlfriend, and more so to me.

Now on Day 27 or so the problem is: the fetishes are coming back, the porn is in my own mind, I can't stop it, not completely, and I don't WANT them to come back.

I'm not sure what to do. Maybe if I limit the Fap to once a week, or Fap the day before I see my girlfriend - we always have sex anyway.

I'll have to discuss it with her. I'll HAVE to. She knows about this program and has been understanding, but I've got to let her know before I chose to turn back into that guy again. We have to talk about it.

Seriously, that's the best way man. Masturbating and having sex while rebooting is not rebooting at all. You need to cut everything for at least 9 months then you can do that.

How can I control the temptation/Urge To Watchin porn

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Read tools for change and follow whatever suggestions seem appropriate. Need to change many aspects of your life, and habits, and replace porn with other activities. Join a forum.

This should be broadcast everywhere so that people know what is happening to their brains and that it is not a safe alternative to TV!

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Hi Gary! I just started a german VIdeo Blog for the german NoFap folks, can you please promote it somewhere?

Here is the youtube channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/NoFapTV

Thanks!
David

GERMAN NO-FAP YOUTUBE CHANNEL:
http://www.youtube.com/user/NoFapTV

German Resource:
http://keinemachtdemporno.de/