One of my main triggers after giving up porn has been these damn fantasies, some of them would last just a few seconds, but others when my brain is "idle", like when trying to fall asleep, and often involved long detailed fantasies.
I just wrote this advice into my own journal , but felt it might be worth sharing as a success story and advice too. This advice is really only suitable for married guys or guys in relationships with a SO.
For a period of about a couple of years I fapped myself into asexuality - I was only really interested in fapping because I was bored and lonely. I had weird fetishes, a crush on a cam girl (mature foreign lady), PIED, DE and little interest in real human girls.
I'm going to keep this brief, I'm really just writing because the success stories have kept me going during the hard times so it's time I shared mine. I've been a PMO addict for about a decade now (fapping compulsively for even longer but not with porn).
I am a 26 year old female. I was in a pretty fruitless long term relationship where I was able to utilize porn to pick up the slack. After the relationship ended, I definitely increased my porn use to every day. I met my now fiance and we have sex pretty regularly.
I honestly really don't even know what to say right now. I'm super excited I've made it this far; I remember the days when I literally used to imagine and dream about this. I feel obligated to share my story and motives before getting into how NoFap has affected me.
Wow. I can't believe I did this. 180k is a lot. That's just a bit less than Harry Potter 4, just to give you an idea. Sure, I got a big correction to do now, but I've created something out of simple words.
[www.rare.us] Under-40 Poll: Porn is ruining our sex lives? More young people than not say Internet porn has no effect on their real-life sex lives, according to a new Rare poll. Forty-eight percent said they weren’t bothered by it, while 33 percent of young voters said porn was having a negative effect. Nineteen percent were unsure.
Status Quo (For Now). In mid-July I published a blog discussing a recently released fMRI (brain imaging) study showing that the brain activity of sex addicts, when they are shown pornography, mirrors the brain activity of drug addicts when they are exposed to drug-related imagery.
I want to start by saying that I feel to be somewhat in the minority here, since I am older and married 18 years - that's more years than some of you have been alive. I'm not doing this in hard mode, and I am trying to have sex as often as I feel comfortable doing so.
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