Having stumbled onto this subreddit by accident (something I am highly grateful happened) I immediately felt drawn to the positivity of this community. My backstory is similar to many of my brethren here. Grew up starting to masturbate at age 12 and quickly got into PMO. Entering the rabbit hole came with darker P and many fetishes were born from this.
I just wanted to start off by saying thank you to everyone on this sub. I've battled my addiction to PMO ever since the young age of 11. I've tried quitting before on my own, never succeding, always failing. Then I found NoFap. To be honest, its changed my life. On to the good stuff now.
Excerpt: "The current study was the first to test for directionality using nationally-representative, longitudinal data. The findings provide qualified support for the notion that more frequent pornography viewing—rather than simply being a proxy for participants’ dissatisfaction with sex-life or marital decision-making—may negatively influence marital quality over time."
I found this subreddit a year ago, but wasn't so into Reddit so I never really engaged. After being curious about my level of self-control, I decided to try for 1 week to not masturbate, look at porn, or anything like that.
Hi guys! After making up to 26 days in May, and relapsing like shit for almost a month, I am now in my second best streak which is 21 days.
A lot of things have changed during this time; I was really low and hopeless, was forcing smiles but was deep sad inside. I suffered from anxiety, I even collapsed in public and was trembling during conversations. My voice was really low and actually I sounded like a pussy. I was always sleepy, could sleep 10 hours or even an entire day and feel restless when waking up.
You might be wondering why the best thing that has ever happened to me? When I discovered I am porn addicted I was devastated. I never had a clue that something like this even exists and I definitely didn’t want to become addicted. Who would like to? But when I discovered am addicted I knew it was all my doing and it is also my responsibility to beat the addiction as well. Nobody will do that for me.
I am on 54 days of a lifetime of no PMO. I went 34 days hard mode and then tried to have sex. It wasn't perfect so I waited two more weeks and tried again and it was a success! About a week ago I felt the switch back to being normally aroused by a real woman.
I'm 29, and there have been some amazing changes since my journey of rebooting. Here's a are several good symptoms that have resulted from No porn or masturbation.
1. Sex with my wife is better than it has ever been in 8 years of marriage. To explain; I used to do exactly what turned me on with Viewing porn. Many things I liked to watch my wife would NOT agree to participate in. Such things as, anal sex, facials, aggressive speech, or the misconception that she should do anything I wanted her to as what in portrayed in porn. I now longer have that mentality during sex, nor do I have it when not intimate.
Today is day 61 completely PMO free. I don't think I've ever had this long without P or M since I started by porn career at about age 13; I'm now 58. I don't even want to know, if I was able to add up the hours, how many complete days or weeks of my life have been spent indulging this addiction. I've also been trying to stop for almost as long as I've been doing it.
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