By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S and Stefanie Carnes PhD, CSAT-S
In a nationally distributed study published last week, a group of researchers argued that what is often termed as “sexual addiction” could be better understood as a pathological variation of “high sexual desire.” After the publication of this article, a multitude of media outlets suggested that the conclusions of this study demonstrate that there is no scientific basis for the diagnosis of sexual addiction. This has occurred despite the study being the first of its kind, riddled with methodological errors, and at best inconclusive with its findings. Nevertheless, it continues to get a lot of media attention, most likely because it addresses problematic human sexual behavior, which is always a media attention-getter.
Today is officially my birthday. I'm 37. The past three months have been AWESOME....I couldn't be more stoked. I have not fapped one single time in 90 days and I feel GREAT. I have gone through an amazing transformation. My ED is a distant memory. I have muscles!?!??? I have a pretty girlfriend!?!??? I'm getting laid. Everything is beautiful.
I visited NoFap and saw the 90 days on my counter, something I thought I would never see. My story is similar to most people here - male aged nearly 25, started masturbating at 13, overdid it for a decade or so, blew so many opportunities with women because of ED and to some extent PE, and haven't had a girlfriend in a few years because of this and low confidence.
Once you've been in this thing for awhile, you realize that you don't gain super powers, you are just are what a normal man is supposed to be. I have been doing this for about 10 months, and I thought I gained super powers, but what I really got back was my natural built in ability to attract women quite easily.
History: I am fit and healthy with no medical conditions. I started using high speed porn before becoming sexually active, I am therefore one of the 'younger ones' as talked about on YBOP. This resulted in chronic PIED in every sexual encounter I had ever experienced.
I have always had this belief of giving back more than you have taken. I remember reading a handful of these inspirational posts that impacted my life significantly. They have changed my life and it is my turn to write my experience and impact someone, even if it's one person. Below I have written a guide of everything I have tried, every technique, every thought, every piece of advice I can think of that will help you on this tough journey.
This is my first post and I've gone 44 days without PMO. Like most people I started watching porn at the age of 13 or 14. Since then, I've watched porn many times a week, sometimes masturbating several times a day.
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