I was masturbating and "addicted" to porn, I started in middle school probably around age 12 or 13. My guess as to why I started and why porn gripped me so hard was the fact that I was scrawny and weak, or as some call it "beta". Due to that, many boys disrespected me and picked on me, and girls always ignored me or rejected me. I never realized it as a problem because I was young and thought everyone did it every day like me.
I am proud to declare that I have reached 90 days! I started NoFap back in July and in these last few months I've really been able to fight the urges like never before. So how has my life improved? I'm 30 lbs lighter than I was a year ago and I am making progress in my weight lifting and pushups. Exercising has been a huge help in fighting off urges.
So the reason why I started: I've always tried to stop masturbating. For many reasons. The main reason was that I could not cum for the life of me when I was with my girlfriend. If I got lucky, I would cum during intercourse but it was a rare occasion, getting rarer. Don't get me wrong, everything felt great, buy just couldn't get me there.
Report: As I mentioned in the past, I used 'Learned Optimism' 's technique of Disputation to kill my urges. Based on my findings from other NoFappers, I found more visual flashbacks and vivid ones as well creeping into my mind of late. I believe this has to do with me feeling alone from time to time in the GF department.
I don't think NoFap gives you something MORE. It powers up your mind. When you can set goals like NoFap, and fight back urges, you're actually training your mind to do whatever the fuck you need to do and especially you WANT to do. This is the power of NoFap. You can set a goal, and reach it.
I started this whole NoFap thing about 6 months ago, and I can honestly say that I have noticed real changes in my life outside of the obvious that I do not masturbate or watch porn any longer. But there are some things that I have come to terms with throughout this experience that I thought I should share in the event that these experiences are common ones. For the first few months of NoFap, things were smooth sailing.
PE 100% gone. I've gone from ~30 seconds to about 3-4 minutes. Still not exactly where I want to be, but definitely an improvement. I'm taking this as a process. I did have one experience where I had a BJ that lasted 10+ minutes. Remember that the average guy lasts about 7 minutes, so every increased minute counts!
Day 1000 - My life now is almost free from Distractions, I maintain an A+ average throughout my Masters degree. This is talking about someone that got into University barely with a D average in Highschool. No I wasnt smart, What is smart and What is dumb my friends than but a perspective at looking at the same thing? We all have the potential in ourselfs to become the greatest there ever is but it is choice whether for us to realize that potential or not.
Today is my 4th birthday. It was 4 years ago March 25th that I watched porn, and masturbated, for the last time. Seriously: The. Last. Time. Back then I was 47 and overweight. I always had plans to get up early and exercise, but getting up early and doing anything typically turned into getting up early and looking at porn.
I am 34 and have been using porn about 4-5 times a week for about 20-30 minutes per time since I was about 15. The frequency never really increased that much but the impact it was making on my brain and outlook definitely increased over time. The dysfunction increased over time for sure even though the frequency or duration stayed the same.
I'm 17 and I've been doing this for nearly 2 years now. This is my second time getting to 90 days and you definitely feel better. My friends may think it's stupid but I'm certainly glad I chose to start.
One-two months ago I realised that I can't get it up without porn, so I decided to fix that. One of the things I have learned through experience is "research before doing anything", so I started reading articles about lifestyle, exercising, sexuality, healthcare and more.
Been reading all I can about PMO harmful effects for almost a year...porn free for about 10 months, nofap for 44 days..this after being a disgusting porn addict since the 80s...stories I could tell...but never thought I could live without PMO at least several times a week, if not daily. Approaching 50 years old I have a new life thanks to this community.
Have you ever tought if there are long benefits of PMO? Let's rationalise guys, there is absolutely no benefit, it's not like it's a neutral thing lIke you do it and it's fine, it only destroys you and it destroys the best form of you that is waiting to go outside and impress everyone, even yourself. Trust me you will be admired about what you will be able to achieve.
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