After about a 9 month NoFap journey, I'm here. I'll keep this post fairly brief, and just state the most important things i have learned along the way. About 6 months ago i hit a 48 day or so streak, saw a YouTuber that I watched was also a porn star and relapsed. That sucked. But, it was a big wake up call that triggers really can be devastating.
I was skeptical about ever going back on this site, as I wasn't a member very long and also didn't want to jinx myself, but I just remember when I was having PIED problems and I needed to hear/read success stories to bring my spirits back up. So I'm back hear to let you guys all know that my PIED is no joke damn near 100% gone and non-existent.
I can remember the days as a teenager when my desires for girls consisted solely of kissing them, "cuddling" with them, and at most, having oral sex and penis-vagina sex. I would see attractive girls and simply want to "be" with them, and not want to degrade them in extreme sex acts. But then I fell down the deep, dark chasm of porn addiction. It has taken nearly two decades to painstakingly climb out.
Wow, kinda surprised i made it this far. Definitely one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. I think I still have a ways to go but I'll summarize what has been good, what has been bad, and what helped me along the way.
So last night for the first time in a long time my wife and I had great sex. I won't go in to details, but I am so thankful to the nofap community. Yes it does work. My problem was I couldn't even get an erection, not even with porn. That didn't stop me from fapping with a flaccid penis. I needed the high. So I gave up fapping and porn in January.
I want to thank Reboot Nation & YBOP for my 90 day milestone and victory over porn. Thank you for your wealth of experience, knowledge, and success along with your profound sharing and honesty. Your experience along with the science based information was what I needed for success.
Well, I’ve hit a 60 day milestone in being PMO-free. The first 30 days were very much focused on figuring out an effective path to discontinuing PMO, and the last 30 days I’ve been able to focus on rebooting my marriage - in general and our sex life.
I went downtown yesterday to deliver some papers somewhere and I had a pretty good time. I feel a lot more confident now, more aggressive, flirty and talkative. I still have a long way ahead of me, still have to change lot of things, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I finally did it! I did 3 months porn free, with a few relapses and hiccups on the way, but nonetheless, the progress exceeded my expectations. I've been PMOing for the past 11 years mostly daily. As a result, I suffered from PIED for the last 5-6 years without really knowing what was going on. I was also a HUGE edger! I had plenty encounters with attractive women where I wouldn't be able to get hard, and this led to sexual anxiety.
NoFap is SOOOO much more than about cutting out porn and keeping your hands off yourself, it's a tool to get you to get your life in order by forcing you to make changes to your life if you truly want to improve it. One of my biggest faults over the years was being stubborn and afraid of change, getting into a comfort zone and refusing to get out of it. NoFap has taught me that in order to be truly happy I have to push myself out of my comfort zone and accept that I may be approaching things the wrong way, and that it's okay to admit it so that I can grow from my mistakes and become a better person.
At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it.
I never really expected super powers because I started NoFap just to test my self-control. But it turned out that I did actually experience many positive effects. Not super powers per se but definitely improvements in overall life quality and health
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