The Debrief:And that sex without any assistance from porn was more than a little nerve-wracking…
It’s been a year since I gave up porn. I’d just escaped a tragic on-off relationship and I kept on finding myself in bed at 2pm on a Sunday having done nothing with my day other than watch people plunging whatever they could into each other’s orifices.
HEYO! Just want to share my success story. I've always noticed how I just couldn't get a 100% erect or not at all when trying to have sex from ages 17-21. It didn't bother me too much because I figured out that if I stopped masturbating for a week prior to sex, I could get it up no problem.
In February 2012, upon turning 18, I went to the doctor’s surgery after discovering a lump on my testicle. I had always been aware of the lump, but I failed to consider that the lump could have been anything harmful. I failed to connect the dots two main reasons:
Over a year or two ago now, I sat down in front of my computer after work, fired up facebook and resumed the all-familiar position that I had become all too accustomed to for the evening. Relentless scrolling, browsing, masturbating, everything I could do to distract myself from the monotony of what my life had become.
Guys, I'm no long consecutive streak winner at nofap, never was. My best was maybe 21 days. Then relapse. 14 days. Relapse. 18. You get the idea. I never gave up. But I learned many things while trying to finally break the addiction that after a year of trying it out. I am doing a lot better now in spirit and soul. And I think girls can tell that. I've slept with 3 girls on the first dates. I want to first state that sex isn't the holy grail here (I want sex= I get sex).
I have been doing nofap for about 2 years now and this has literally been a life changer from a guy who had extreme social anxiety to start feeling normal again. This has been a long journey but it was totally worth it because its helped me become more comfortable with myself.
It wasn’t that long ago that the world’s eager young wankers could happily jerk themselves into a state of exhaustion without a care in the world. But for some time now there's been a growing level of consciousness of something that should probably have been quite obvious to anyone whose blood hadn’t all been redirected away from their brains.
Ok, so I'm just one day away from 100 and it feels like I reached that number all of a sudden, without even paying any attention to it since day 73 when I broke my previous record. This is by far the longest time I've been without PM (or any masturbation to visual stimuli) since age 12 or so.
So I consider myself successfully recovered by now. I am 42 years old, sexually not very experienced and have been recovering for 11 months. During this time, I went from not being able to get an erection at all to having sex without ED drugs.
Finally. I've reached 90 days without fapping. It is great to have control over my life and actions again. Without being caged up in PMO all the time. To anyone reluctant about trying this, just start.
I've been abstaining from PMO on and off for a year now. I was in a long relationship previously (almost five years) and it was my first experience with sex. Unfortunately, I became addicted to PMO about a year in. I didn't realize it at first, but it began to slowly affect my relationship.
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