I have finally reached six months after trying nofap for about 2 years! Today is also me and my girlfriend's five months. I'd like to thank nofap for giving me my personality back along with a little extra charisma that allowed all of the things that have happened in the past year to be possible.
Some Background: 16 y/o male. Started PMOing around 14, so around the time i entered high school, maybe for 2 and a half years I've been PMOing. I already had pretty low self-esteem entering high school.
This post is basically to summarize my whole experience so that it may help others. The amount of information in this forum and in yourbrainonporn.com helped me solve a lot of my issues so I'd like to give back.
I realise I'm quite a distance beyond my 180 day report. The fact that I'm so late in posting this is something that I'm actually proud of. Don't get me wrong, I love these forums and if I had more time, taking part in this community on a more frequent basis would be something that I'd enjoy doing.
As many have said, once you get going the urges disappear and you don't count the days. I got a girlfriend a few weeks ago and am no longer a virgin (I'm in my mid-late 20s, so it feels good to have this off my back).
I'm 57 and until I first got on the internet in 1997 I never really masturbated that often. But since then it's been a minimum of twice a day. For about ten years it never caused me any problems but then slowly I started to develop ED with a partner. But was still masturbating all the time, some times on a day off from work I'd do it 4, 5 - and once in a while six times. But it was getting difficult to orgasm with a partner and often times even to stay hard.
(90 days) I started out watching soft-core porn when I was 9 (Friday/Saturday nights on Cinemax, also known as Skinimax). I started masturbating a year later however, when I was 10. For the next few years, that was my PMO experience (little did I know, I was getting some of my fetishes hardwired into my brain already, namely with certain types of shoes and body hair).
A lot of the time I see people saying they want to go for 90 days. Well, I hate to break it to you, but it's not an end all be all number. The journey goes on. Is making it to 90 days a big accomplishment? Absolutely. Pat yourself on the back, however; you may feel somewhat disappointed when you get there if you get your hopes too high. That being said, everyone is different.
Comments: The long-awaited Voon study highlighted in the UK documentary "Porn on the Brain" is finally out. As expected, Cambridge University researchers found that compulsive porn users react to porn cues in the same way that drug addicts react to drug cues. But there's more.
Compulsive porn users craved porn (greater wanting), but did not have higher sexual desire (liking) than controls. This finding aligns perfectly with the current model of addiction, and refutes the theory that "higher sexual desire" causes compulsive porn use. Drug addicts are thought to be driven to seek their drug because they want – rather than enjoy – it. This abnormal process is known as incentive motivation. This is a hallmark of addiction disorders.
The other major finding (not reported in the media) was that over 50% of subjects (average age: 25) had difficulty achieving erections with real partners, yet could achieve erections with porn.
Finally, researchers found that younger subjects had enhanced reward circuit activity when exposed to porn cues. Higher dopamine spikes and greater reward sensitivity are major factors in adolescents being more vulnerable to addiction and sexual conditioning.
I am a sober alcoholic fapstronaut and I wanted to impart some of my experience, strength and hope about NoFap and most any abstinence program. First off, my experience: I was a fapper and a budding addict/alcoholic from a young age and took many to the extremes.
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