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I want to thank you for establishing this site. My wife found it (too long to explain) Readers Digest Version,I was caught "Sexting" and had an affair with someone I had contact with on-line. As I look back on it after reading some of your site, it all makes sense. It seems I have had this addiction sense early teens, I have an appointment with a Psychiatrist to work on a bunch of issues that all may be attributed to Porn Addiction. After reading your site I seem to be a "Text Book" case. All started with magazines, parents were divorced when staying at Dad's every other weekend when he would go out, I would sneak around trying to find his magazines, if not his my older brothers. There was adrenalin surge as well as masturbation. I became a chronic masturbator, at least once a day, could not get to sleep without cranking one off. Then came videos, did not discover the internet till about 12 years ago maybe, found free sites, but let me back up, blew a whole lot of money on "Free" phone sex, dropped that for internet and strip clubs. So now with free sites on Internet, was loured on to sites that charge money to talk to live women in your area, yeah right, anyway, was looking at porn that should be disgusting just to get off. Started chatting on-line with a work aquantence, which became the ultimate fantasy, even video chatted and jerked off for her. Met up in person at a business conference and guess what... Could not get hard enough to put a condom on?? Go figure. Thought it was my B/P meds. Well now that I have stopped internet porn, dropped the other woman, no sexting, and following some of the reboot advice, (rebooting with wife) I does not seem to be the B/P Meds. The site is absolutely 100% correct. I can not believe how addicted I am. The wife is out of town and I am fighting the urge to go on line and look at porn. This is as difficult as cigarettes, what a roller coaster.

The house to yourself
a super fast connection
you open the site
of your chosen predilection
over stimulation
unprepared by evolution
your neural pathways
embrace the confusion
multiple partners
too many to count
yet never satisfied
by any amount
dopamine release
the key to addiction
ensures this past time
will remain an affliction
you've opened the doorway
to desensitisation
reboot now
or lose the sensation
this is not religious
or moralistic
open up your eyes
to the impotence statistics
a dystopian future
of solo voyeurism
two dimensional love
and compulsive onanism
the population controlled;
a new generations
reliant on porn
for its sexual relations.

First vivid sexual dream last night where I woke up with good erection. Not sure what will happen next but glad to see a positive sign. I am 64 and my wife is 65. She has no desire for sex but will "service" my needs when I ask. I have previously used this as an excuse for porn, not realizing I was only hurting myself. But now I am determined to be porn free so I can have a real sexual desire for real women. So glad I found this site so that I can understand what has really happened to me!

i am 16(i know very young) i went 4 months without porn prior to making this a permanent account. Stress from siblings returning home restored the battle between my gf and porn. im going to blog on this page for as much as i can. please give me support. an thank you.. peace and one love

I've finished Day 6 and now I'm in the midst of day 7 and I sent a text message to a friend of mine:
you know the only thing that's worse than day 6? DAY 7!!!

And it's hard, ah-hem, I mean, "difficult." But you know something, I went for a walk, like I always do, and I noticed more things. Nature seems more beautiful. I'm starting to get erections thinking about my girlfriend's body whereas a week ago she'd be touching me and not much would happen.

It's WORKING! So help me it's actually working!

My only question is: Can I have regular intercourse, or will that mess it all up? - please tell me I can. I won't see her again until day 17... and I'm not sure what'll happen then.

Not even to my worst enemy I would wish the hell I’ve been living through since I’ve diagnosed myself with porn-addiction. The fact that I am homosexual (one who has nevertheless had a long experience with the opposite sex) and that I’ve been for more than 15 years a heavy porn user makes me want to share my story here, in case there are other people of the same sexual orientation as mine, suffering as much as I am. So far I haven't seen any report from gay men here. However, regardless of one’s sexual orientation, the brain is always the same, so are its mechanisms.

I started consuming porn by the age of twelve. My father would buy me porn literature, magazines with naked women, heterosexual porn photonovels and videos of naked models (early 90s). Slowly I stepped into the world of video pornography, having bought many VHSs and DVDs whose scenes I still recall vividly, even when masturbating nowadays. By the age of 16 I started consuming Internet pornography in the form of pictures (late 90s). One decade later I discovered the artificial paradise of online porn videos (early 2000s). I can still remember perfectly my masturbating ritual : I would watch one only video and that would be enough. It scares me to think that about some weeks ago I was masturbating in front of the computer screen, with both Safari and Google Chrome open, each one containing 6 open tabs with videos paused at the « perfect scene » that I would choose for my orgasm. Then, from « vanilla » porn, I entered a world of heavy fetishism such as gang banging, baraback, pissing and finally fist-fucking. Even hetero and tranny porn, which don’t match my sexual orientation, excited me. I don’t judge people’s orientation or sex phantasies: I would just like to emphasize that I gradually moved to different porn with heavier images that I usually didn’t like and had never interested me at all. Even heterosexual sex videos were appalling to me! It just happened that a so called sex-normality didn’t excite me anymore. I would masturbate 5 times a day. Staying home on a Saturday night wanking in my room was definitely more attractive than meeting real people; "too complicated!" I would say to myself. Finally I noticed not only that it took me really long to reach an orgasm in real life sex, but also that these orgasm were not as half as intense ad great as my solitary moments in front of the screen.

But the saddest episode came one month ago : I found a person that I really liked, and my love was being corresponded. Our first sex date was amazing. Nevertheless my porn adiction and anxiety of doing my best to impress this person with my sex performance lead to my penis not working. Today, after some dates, we’ve finally talked about it to each other. Sadly I see no hope in our relationship anymore, after a few frustrating tentatives of sex. (Even the idea of writing this report makes me cry, blush and get angry with myself, and that’s something that will help no further when recovering from porn). Shame and desperation, though for me inevitable, have only worsened my problem.

When I was still unaware of my addiction, I tried exciting myself with porn videos where actors who looked like my beloved partner were starring. Getting an erection was becoming more and more difficult, even in front of my always available screen. When meeting my heterosexual brother, with whom I get along very well and openly speak about sex regardless of our different orientations, he confessed to me that he had the same problem. For many days that was our main talk. Thanks to him I got to Yourbrainonporn.com. I can’t thank him and this website enough for having helped my understanding of the problem.

I am currently at my 3rd recovery week. It feels like shit. I am depressed, crying all the time, mourning a fading, promising love story because of something so infimous, capitalist, addictive, unnecessary and dangerous as high-speed porn. Moreover I've been unable to concentrate on my work and – worse – I can't stop blaming myself for jeopardizing a relationship with somebody really cool, beautiful and great in bed whom I’ve just met, but who just can’t excite me. I honestly don’t know if this person really understood my problem. I can only hope and wait. But at this moment, I have to think of myself and be prepared for a long, reclusive phase of recovery. Erections have gradually come back in the morning, so have some sex tries with other partners. It worked out ok, as I was not in love with them and had no expectations about this. I even had orgasms. But with the one I love, I just can’t get a hard-on.

What I can say in short about this brief, but intense and sad experience of mine is that not only heterosexual men suffer from porn-induced ED, as heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals have the same brain and nervous system. Most importantly I would like to warn people about the difficulty of coping with yourself and others around you during the rebooting phase. I haven’t been working properly for weeks. Important delays and commitments have no meaning. This flatline is simply desolating. Nothing excites me anymore and it doesn’t seem to have an end, even though deep inside I know it does. Activities like yoga and pilates have been really helping me along with my rebooting period. But again I would like to thank immensely Yourbrainonporn.com for making me understanding what’s happening to my brain and for helping me through with rebooting instructions. I hope studies about this unexplored field will be more and more developed, as high-speed porn addiction is, unfortunately, a recent phenomenon that constantly increases. When one realizes it, it's already late, but, I insist, it is never to late to treat yourself or seek professional help.

I'm not going to go too deep into my past sexual life. I'll start off by saying, I've been masturbating since age 11 or 12; I am 20 years old now. Started off with Playboy at age 11 or 12. After I got tired (or unaroused) with playboy, I went to pictures of porn stars (age 13). It didn't take long for me to jump from porn pics to porn videos(from age 13 to age 20). So here I am 8-9 years later (with a girlfriend) and I'm just now realizing that my penis isn't working 100%.
I wake up sometimes to either a flaccid penis or my morning erections are like 40-50% strong. & whenever I try to have sex with my girlfriend, it's one or two things: my penis is semi-hard when I'm dry fucking her but as soon as I drop my pants, it goes soft again; or it doesn't get hard or hard enough to penetrate. At 1st I thought it was because I wasn't taking care of my body right (late nights, smoking a little marijuana, and the drinking). But recently, ever since school started, I've been getting my good nights sleep. I have cut my smoking entirely down. & the drinking is mostly for the occasion. Some people do hardcore drugs such as coke, crack, meth... and still get it up. I even went to the extent of telling my doctor about my ED incident and he told me with someone my age, it is mostly psychological. He even prescribed me Cialis.... unfortunately, still no luck. Not even "the pill" worked. I've had sex before in my youth with no problem (I guess that's just because I was in my early days of using porn). I dIdn't feel anxious when I tried to have sex with my girlfriend. & I want to have sex with my girlfriend. I have just recently started getting anxious whenever I try to have sex with my girlfriend. Every time I attempt to have sex with my girlfriend now, I ask myself whether I should even make a move because my penis is won't cooperate.
After getting anxious and worried for a while, I started doing my research on ED. Then I found the topic "Porn-Induced ED." Never did I think my porn use would affect my ability to get it up. I'm not going to lie. I have tried twice now to abstain from porn & masturbation. The first time I tried abstainence lasted about a week or two. My second attempt had lasted me about 3 weeks. Now this is my third attempt. This is Day 1 for me all over again. I'm sick of tired of not being able to please my girlfriend. I am sick and tired of having a low self-esteem. I hate not being able to please her, as sometimes I think she'll find someone else to please her. I feel like if I don't cure or "reboot" my brain now, I am going to miss out of a lot of opportunities to have sex and meet new women. I feel as if I am going to miss out on my youth if I don't get myself fixed. So here I am, Day 1 of no PMO. I'm willing to take the 90 day challenge. I'm trying to go the extent of waiting 150 days of no masturbation. I am determined now that porn will not be a part of my life anymore. I guess the only questions I have before I start my road of abstainence are: Should I stay away from fantasizing? If I look at a lady sexually in person or on TV, am I messing up my progress of rebooting my brain? Will making-out with my girlfriend disrupt my recovery time? If my girlfriend wants to try to have sex again, should I just wait it out a while or will me attempting to have sex with her only hurt me more during my recuperation process? I will start updating this blog every 10 days to inform and keep track of how I'm doing. Any answers or comment to my following questions and this whole comment itself would GREATLY be appreciated.

It´s not so much the porn addiction that I want to battle, but more how I let myself be stimulated by sexual images that are distasteful or morally wrong. I was so shocked at how my moral sense was tainted by my passion for pornographic images. Sometimes I enjoyed mysogenic material that had little to do with equality between men and women. I managed to avoid direct images of rape and physical abuse over the years, but the moment when I did watch something close to rape (and it aroused me sexually....) I knew that this couldn´t be a path that I´m willing to follow. It made me feel very guilty at my own hypocrisy. How can I be firmly against any abuse towards women and let myself be stimulated by images that do just that? What frightens me most is how everything (even forbidden material) is so easily accessible and out there in the open. I´m not against pornography or free sexuality at all, but there is something profoundly wrong in the accessibility of sexual material. The biggest filth is just a few clicks away and it´s so hard to withstand your own sexual desire once you are sexually stimulated. But I do feel that it´s my own responsibility to stay clear of that side of the internet and that I must work on how to experience sexuality in a healthy way.

I am glad you started this site. I have seen myself from an early age get turned on by porn. At first the girls nipples were covered up by stars and that was still enough to get my heart racing, then as soon as I found out that there were videos, I started downloading. After broadband came around i moved completely to videos. After thumbnails and streaming content became more prevalent I began spending more time online. I never had a steady healthy relationship during this time- only several different partners. I also began using marijuana. It may not be what this site is about.. But I'm mentioning it anyways.. Because I see PMO in the same light as marijuana use. It felt almost the same to me since I was doing them together. I felt I rarely showed my true face anymore as I was mainly focused on sense pleasures. It is healthy to find joy in each moment like breathing air and interacting with people in my own way.. But I had moved to being a darker person each day and while online I was searching for slime, and anything to do with many many partners having sex. I had become a bit desensitized to what I used to be in tune with. This super concentration of info in the form of drugs and visual stimulation was not the best thing for me. I had more desire to see the a pair of flopping around boobs or butts with several other participants' bodily fluids dripping off than actually believing in a real face to face interaction. I've seriously cut back and I've noticed that I have a desire to change. My eyes seemed dark, my eyebrows seem furrier and my heart was rarely beating fast unless I had spent a while searching for a fantasy online. After doing that my body turned red as if I was continuously blushing and I felt weak in the mind and weak in my will for constantly relapsing. I felt embarrassed to go out in public, so I just would go out in an altered state, almost deconnecting from my true self and instead I turned into a less intense version of myself and I would not be present or aware when I left the house. This could be just me describing depression. I have now cut back to once every few weeks. And I haven't used marijuana in several years.. But I don't feel that's a healthy level of involvement with porn right now. I only have ever enjoyed porn in the moment and I rarely would look back and say "that was a really good wank session and I feel so deeply connected with the girl on camera". I actually felt connected with a girl once but it was only because I tricked my mind into believing she was also connected with me. As I continue to stay away from porn and any drug I have felt my real fiancé become more in tune with me and my desires.. And I with her.. I pledge to not become involved with porn again for at least 60 days.. During this time, my interactions with people and my fiancé will turn me on more and more as I experience a disconnect with the collective cyber men/women and their toys. I will experience my life as a more constant exciting interaction rather than using porn as a way to love. My desire to see visual stimulation on the screen will go away unless it is a pic of my fiancé. My desires in the bedroom will come back and I will have more intense emotional/sexual connections with my fiancé. I can see clearer now. Porn was just like a drug and the user will normally want more and more until it destroys them. I must've had a high threshold to keep things together for so long, because I've been very unhappy with my choices. I'm thankful there are now millions who see porn as a harmful drug and want to restore the real healthy relationships back to their lives.

So I ventured into tranny porn and realized I was either turning gay or something was wrong. (Not saying something is wrong with being gay, just was never attracted to chicks with dicks fucking other chicks with dicks). Soooo I found this site and realized that my ED was stemming from over indulgence in porn. Anyway, I went fapping 2-3 times A DAY, to every other day. The problem is, Ive been stuck at every other day for close to 2 weeks. And by the end of every other day, I'm so horny I can fap to anything (bikini chicks, tits, whatever). I wanna say thats a good thing that I am no longer at the extreme, but I wanna be porn free; its seeming near impossible. Ive installed porn blockers on my browsers, deleted my massive (and I mean massive) archive of categorized porn. Still I find a way to see tits and fap on my phone!! Am I gonna have to dump my iphone and downgrade to kick this habit??? Someone talk to me... I'm desperate. Im 26 and I cant ejaculate when having sex with my wife... Its downright depressing...

I dated a man for 1.5 years. Most times he had to stimulate himself to get hard. Many times during sex he could not keep it up and it was always hurry up and get it done. He refused to have any fore- play, no oral sex except if I performed it on him. My pleasure was out of the question, told me it was too much work and took too long. He also has narcissistic traits. He began to blame me, it was my weight(I am not thin but not fat), then it was the expectations of my wanting my needs met, then it was I am a nag.
To this day he still says its normal, he's 41 and believes all men watch porn and masturbate. Really, 4-6 nights a week? He's been doing since he was a teen. He was married for 7 years, wife left for another man. She too complained about their sex life. He also, told me that he like porn because it makes him feel good and I don't.
Of course the reason we broke up wasn't the porn, its because of my complaining about it.

Tried to stop Masturbation to porn quite some time now, but with little success. Managed to be away from porn the most 26 days. Motivated to beat this now. I try to post here once a day to remind me of my addiction.
I really want to be a person statute abuse, I feel bad every time I abuse. Also know how good you feel when you passed the 14 days really want to get there again.