Hey guys! I just wanted to share my progress and overall experience thus far with NoFap!
Before about 20 days ago or so I’d been watching porn, PMO, just about daily for 7 years or so. I was in a long distance relationship 4 years ago and when we’d see each other things were fine sexually, even though I was watching hella porn.
We’ve since broken up, 3 years ago, and since then I hadn’t had any sort of sexual relationship with anyone. I wasn’t really feeling or noticing any problems from continuously watching porn so I never thought to stop really.
Over the last two years I’ve gotten really close with a girl who started off as a close friend, it slowly progressed to be more physical. Since I met her I’ve always been ridiculously attracted to her and always lowkey wanted more than just friends.. she was (and still is) “out of my league” in the sense that she really has a choice for just about whoever she wants.
After many months of going to parties and getting drunk and casually making out, it progressed to grinding on each other, lowkey fingering, etc, but I was always nervous to push it. I’m mostly confident in myself, but as things progressed between us I began to lose my confidence, I became very self conscious of my body and it’s all I could seem to think about when things got hot. I enjoyed what we did but I couldn’t fully disengage from my thoughts and just enjoy the moment in its entirety.
One night, she asked if I wanted to try and have sex, and it really made me nervous, I knew the moment would come someday and she was of course waiting for me to make the move but I never would.. so we tried. I almost immediately lost my erection although I did really want to have sex, that was an extremely awkward night for both of us… and she was leaving for the summer the next week; it was a very awkward place to leave our relationship at.
This was when I tried to figure out what to blame it on; the fact that I was high, or just that I couldn’t get nervous thoughts out of my head, and porn.
Being by myself here, without her while she was away for summer, I continued to watch porn and didn’t really care. I began to notice my erections were getting much weaker, I was watching porn just cause I was bored, and sometimes I could barely get myself hard enough watching porn. This was bad and I realized I had to stop. This was 20 days ago.
I came across nofap a couple days after stopping, and it’s helped me really solidify my desire to stop and since I stopped I never really had the urge to PMO again.
I actually ended up flying out to visit her and I was extremely worried about sex, especially after what had happened, but we talked and joked about it and she was willing to just sorta forget it ever happened.
So I fly out there, and we’re all over each other, and after a couple nights we try to bone.. and THE SAMS SHIT HAPPENED. I couldn’t help but worry the entire time “I really hope this nofap shit works even though it’s only been a few weeks” and this constant worrying killed me. I couldn’t get hard.
This happening twice… really bothered her. She thought it was her, I didn’t really know what to say and I didn’t want to mention that I watch hella porn lol… but I decided to give her the full story..
I told her how I’ve essentially had a porn addiction and I’ve been able to stop but it’s still affecting me. I mentioned nofap, and pretty much just felt super embarrassed and awkward telling her all this, but it felt SOOO GOOD to not have this weird secret to myself anymore. It was weird for her but she understood and although we didn’t have sex that night she was glad I told her we fell asleep together on a good note.
The next day, woooooooooaaaaaahhhhhhhh the next day, I felt great. It was awkward, and I was worried about sex coming up later that night again, but having told her I felt so much better about myself, and if I couldn’t get hard she would know why. Well… idk wtf happened but I was CURED lmao! I was rock hard and just got straight to boning her even tho I haven’t had sex in like 6 years, totally accidentally lowkey came in her and had to cop a plan B. After we finished I was just blown away, I realized my problem was maybe 20% physical and 80% psychological.
So I finally had sex and it felt great, I was so into her and it felt unreal, such a different experience than porn, obviously, and it makes me think of porn in such a different way now.
So if there’s anything to take from this, I was posting on here like 10 days ago asking for advice, describing how I was worried, and hers I now am with a cured dick. Stay optimistic, stay positive, focus on yourself, and if you’re having urges to watch porn then you haven’t truly been able to convince yourself mentally that porn isn’t what you want. You have to know you’re done with porn and you’re done wasting your time on that shit! Not only did I “bone” but I had great sex, I genuinely enjoyed being physical with someone else and not my fucking hand lol..
Good luck to you, and just know it’ll work out! I can’t describe how truly worried I constantly was, but you gotta realize what it’s gonna take to cure YOU aside from what anyone else on here suggests. The advice I’ve received on here was great but you have to understand everyone is in a different situation.
edit: let me also mentioned since I stopped watching porn I’ve really started improving my physical health although I would consider my previous self pretty healthy. I ate even better, worked out harder, read more, and it’s all helped in my opinion.
LINK – NoFap really worked for me.. took less than a month!
by YellowTent
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