I, too, understand the superpowers members of NoFap claim to feel. While I am naturally a confident intellectual type, pornography and regular masturbation sapped me of self-esteem. I began comparing myself to the ripped, huge dick-swinging men in porn and I felt like shit.
What exacerbated these newfound insecurities even further was that my girlfriend is super hot and spends a lot of time at the gym with guys that look like they do porn. These are men who train for triathlons and drink protein in their sleep.
And then there’s me, a little guy. I’ve never, ever been concerned with my height or size or strength; in fact, I lift boxes for a living. But porn was warping my brain. I felt like I had to fuck like these guys on video, super aggressively and look like them, super ripped.
So here’s what I learned after I quit porn and almost daily ham-slamming:
- Most girls seem to be attracted to me as I am a healthy weight. They say I’m pretty or cute. My girlfriend’s nickname for me is actually Pretty Boy, for reference.
- My girlfriend doesn’t give a shit if I have abs or not. Though she is in great shape, she doesn’t have abs and was shocked when I accused her of being into the ripped type. She said she was into me, she loved me. My body type doesn’t matter, which is exactly how I felt about her.
- She didn’t want overly-aggressive porn sex. She wanted to feel an emotional connection, to be loved and wanted more than anything. When I was on porn, I was physically incapable of giving her this, despite being super attracted to her. My body was trained for porn and it was tired from all the jerking off.
- Since I’ve quit porn, I’ve been having the best sex of my life with my girlfriend. We have sex 3-5 times a week! And it’s hot, loving, emotionally fulfilling sex. If that isn’t motivation to quit porn, I don’t know what is.
TLDR; Quit porn! Have real sex with hot women!
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