I want to share this unique story to motivate others. I’ve had real sex once when I was 17 years old, being mildly drunk. A one night stand. EVERY SINGLE ATTEMPT FROM 19-21 has been a total failure, due to ED in bed. Like many others, my fetishes grew very insane, but had no idea that porn was the problem till I turned 19.
Still I miserably failed. It may sound like I had a bunch of attempt, but it was just three. The first one was a girl I was dating, and I had ED in bed with her when I was 19. The same year, I found a girl I really grew a good tone with. By the end of the year actually. We talked for a long time before she took the long trip to stay over for 5 days. I had ED all the 5 days, and I truly felt like shit. I don’t want to go over to details how she acted and was, but let’s just say that there was nothing more between us after that.
When she left, I was really depressed, and surprised over this. (I still didn’t know porn was the problem for my ED at this point, even though i had heard of nofap). I tried to fap when she left, and i had my life’s biggest erection, and the sickest dopamine rush of all time. At that point, i understood that porn was the problem. So i did a bit of research, and also got it confirmed. Back to nofap agin.
But i ended up relapsing, relapsing, relapsing…. Relapsing… And my confidence was just nonexistent anymore. Even though I’m a pretty decent looking guy, and heavily into weightlifting, i was the biggest form of beta male you could possibly imagine. Nobody knew how insecure I actually was, but i was just good at hiding it. I actually started AVOIDING seeing girls. Even when the chances was there. There had been several times where the sex part has been an opportunity for me, but i made excuses to not go in bed with those particular females. I was scared for my life for the ED, and i didn’t want it to repeat. I was trapped in the porn.
2 years forward, and I’ve lived with depression, social anxiety and insecure. Then I meet this very beautiful woman at the gym. We eventually started talking, and dating. After a long period of dating, we eventually began to get a true tone. We had a lot of common interests, and we met to train with each other many days in the week.
Again, keep in mind that a lot of details is taken out, so that might be why the story sound a bit too “easy” and weird.
Now fast forward to the fun part. She decided she wanted to stay over for a night, and i got scared for my life, but had to say okay. She came over, we watched a movie, and cuddled a lot. My head was filled with anxiety, stress and fear. We spooned for a bit, and she could feel me get a little bit hard, and when she told me to take my pants off, i took it off out of pure embarrassment, because I had no excuse not to. So i did, and my 30% erection, went to almost 10%.
Again, not going into details in this part either because of some of the rules I’ve read, so let’s just say when she tried to arouse me, nothing worked. I had to give stupid excuses like “It’s too hot, I really can’t get it up when it’s this fucking hot in here”. (Jesus Christ what a stupid excuse). Nothing happened that night, and she went home the morning after. LUCKILY, she is such an amazing woman which actually had a lot of respect for me, just like i had for her. We obviously love each other. We saw each other occasionally after that, without staying over for nights.
NOOOW, ladies and gentlemen. She wanted to stay over the 25th of December 2017, which is just a slight above a week ago. The plan was done the 12th, and i was fucking desperate. I totally stopped watching pornography and fapping for those 13 days, hoping to god to have an erection. The day had come, and she went over. We ate some food, watched a movie at the sofa, and she began to get aroused.
I said we can’t do anything here; we’ll have to go to my bedroom. So we went there, clothes off, trying to arouse each other, but I FAILED. My excuses were horrible, and it ended up with a little cuddling again, with disappointment. And here is what happened next.
Before i proceed, many people will believe this was something bad to do, but this REALLY worked. And if anyone else has ED problems because of porn, try this method once, even though it sounds crazy. I started fantazising about my porn fetishes, with a calm state of mind; which eventually gave me a pretty good erection. She noticed it as I was lying behind her, and she took my “thing” and slowly lead the way to her underpart. It went in. Still at this point, I strongly had to fantasize a bit, and it became harder and harder. Now I thrusted, and we had sex, finally. And I realized how good sex actually felt. I had just felt that once in my life, not even being sober.
After 2-3 minutes, I didn’t have to fantasize anymore. It simply felt amazing, and I did it all with love. I was so happy, and my confident just burst up in the skies. She was impressed, and pretty satisfied. We literally had sex for three hours that day. And NOW we have had sex 5 times at 5 different days, every since the 25th-1th January 2018. NONE of the times have i fantasized about my fetishes and porn, except of those 2-3 minutes from the first session. All I really needed was to get that erection, and BREAK that state of mind that i can’t get a hard on in bed, and actually FEEL how good sex really is. Because you obviously need the erection to feel it.
Now porn doesn’t even arouse me. Nofap goes without a single urge, i just want her, and I feel the actual love while having sex with her. And my problem now is that i have premature ejaculation, which literally is that i don’t ejaculate while having sex with her, and I have a fucking hard on the whole session, till she can’t take it anymore. But this is BLESSING for me, as funny as it sounds, and that problem also goes away when abstaining from porn and fapping for a goood while.
Now i hope someone who suffers from ED through real sex, tries out this method. That small little part should be the only time you should use what broke you down for your own advantage. Fantasize about whatever porn that arouses you, try to get hard, and it doesn’t have to be fully erected. Just get enough to be able to put it in, and it will harden more when you feel how good it is.
This is my success story. Stay the FUCK away from porn guys, it ruins your brain. Some people think it’s just superpowers and testosterone, but it goes much deeper than that. I’m done with it, I learned the hard way, and i had to fix it the hard way as well.
So if you suffer from ED, abstain from PMO, try to get in bed with someone after at least two weeks, just to fill your balls up, and get at least A LITTLE BIT dopamine stabilization in your head, even though 2 weeks barely is anything. When you’re in bed, and you get ED, then this time should be the only time you’re allowed to close your eyes, and get a strong image of whatever disgusting fantasy that arouses you, just to manage to get it up, and break you out from the ED prison by putting it in, and finally feel for yourself that real sex feels a million times better than whatever trash you used to watch, and I used to watch while jerking off.
LINK – Finally had real sex after ED problems because of Porn.
by LiftHeavy
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