I’ve seen a dramatic, like dramatic, improvement in my sex life in the last year or so. I don’t have much time consecutively away from pornography or masturbation, in fact yesterday I lapsed–not proud of it but it’s the truth. The thing is though, is that when I was at my worst I was masturbating to porn about 6-7 times a day when I was in college. During that time my libido was all fucked up and I could rarely get it up with my then girlfriend (now wife). If I got it up I could hardly keep it up, and if I kept it up I’d ejaculate within seconds.
That’s where I was about 6 years ago. Luckily my girlfriend/fiancé/wife actually did love me for who I was and not my lack of sex ability. As time’s gone on my frequency of how much I’d watch porn has consistently gone down… It went from about 7 times a day to about 4, then 3, then 2, then once.. And now I have periods where I can go nearly 30 days without porn but then relapse, then maybe once every other day… I have weeks where it’s one a day until I get my shit together again and go another few weeks or whatnot.
What I’ve noticed though is as my frequency of masturbating to pornography has gone down, so has my premature ejaculation, my lack of ability to get it up and stay up, and the speed in which I am fully aroused and ready has skyrocketed up.
Yesterday I fell into the porn trap briefly, but luckily closed out before I went too far… I then went home and finished the job manually without stimulation. Later on in the night my wife and I went on a date and got intimate and man, we had some of the best sex we’d had in a long time. We were both satisfied and I actually lasted about 20-25 minutes (that’s amazing for this guy.)
I really do think my porn-induced libido problems are becoming a thing of the past provided I don’t fall back into the multiple times a day; everyday.
I still desire to quit pornography for good which is something I am working on yet have not had much success on consecutive days; but I am no longer wanting to quit for the sole purpose that it fucks up my physical performance; I want to quit because it’s something I want to do for me because it’s the right thing to do out of respect for my wife and myself.
I hope this helps someone, and all I am trying to say that there’s hope if you’re fearful that your libido will never come back or stay back. It will, even if you keep fuckin up with porn here and there. I no longer fear sex with my wife but am damn excited for it every time. I welcome it and am in the moment when it does happen.
There is hope.
LINK – my PIED is gone. for sure.
by true_life
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