I finally did it boys. After all this time, all the pain, the misery, the crying, the hopelessness. All the questions about myself and why I am different, why I couldn’t fuck. Why I had to be into this weird porn and not able to just enjoy regular relationships or sex. I remember waking up so many times in the last 6 years and asking myself “why am I different?
Am I just meant to be into only femdom and never regular sex? How do I live this life as a femdom freak? I have never been into regular porn, does that mean I can’t have regular sex?”. Well we we’re right boys, the porn was warping my mind.
ABSOLUTELY YOU ARE MEANT TO HAVE NORMAL PENETRATIVE SEX, DON’T LET ANYONE OR ANYTHING CONVINCE YOU OTHERWISE. It turns out our penis really does have a mind of its own, and believe me, it wants to fuck. Sure, femdom or some weird kink may tickle your psychological fancy, and that’s fine. But everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is into sex. I don’t care how weird or different you think you are. Your PIED is a product of your own mind, and if you can get it under control, your dick will finally be freed and you can fuck.
I am going to post extensive help for people tomorrow, but I’ll start by posting my success story. Note, this is a success story about a guy who:
- Never masturbated to regular intercourse for the 1o years he watched porn
- Only watch increasingly disturbing femdom porn and was convinced for a long time that he could never have regular sex.
- Had multiple incidences of losing his boner when he went to penetrate
- Had intense depression and anxiety because of this problem
- Detached himself from dating and hadn’t been with a girl in over a year
Two days ago i was hooking up with a girl, full boner everything normal, and then I go to put it in and just like always, it goes limp. She was understanding though because I told her the truth (I will be talking about the importance of coming clean about your life). We dry humped, I just focused on her skin, how it felt, how she tasted etc. She literally grabbed me at one point and said “hey, stop being in your head and focus on me”. So I returned my focus to her and just enjoyed her presence. The embarrassment of limpness already happened so I had nothing to lose now. This freeing up of my mind allowed me to enjoy her and voila, I started getting hard. I started fucking her with an almost full cock. i kept shutting off my mind and the more I did this, the more I was able to enjoy her vagina. It doesn’t matter what you are into, the feeling of a vagina around your cock is a pleasant one and if you shut up your stupid mind, it’ll be pleasant for you. Before you know it I was relaxed, and slamming her hard. This was the warm up.
Yesterday we chilled again and this time it was fully a go. Full confidence, I absolute railed her to the point she was in pain all day today. I was hard as a rock and I can honestly say I never would have dreamed I would be able to do this to a girl. Once you are in that pussy, all that weird shit you are into doesn’t matter. Once you are in that pussy, you will realize this is where you we’re meant to be. All of those kinks are just things the mind picked up. Sex is as natural as possible, it’s the most fundamental thing, and if you can read this sentence, you can have sex. I promise you. Keep believing, keep sticking it out. I love you and believe in you. I will post full tips on how I achieved this over the last while soon. Stay strong and good luck.
LINK – Femdom watching limp dick to absolutely slamming. This is 100% beatable.
[Question: How long was your porn-free streak before you discovered you were recovered?]
I did a 30, relapsed. a 90, relapsed. then another 30. Then i binged on porn. Then i went on a streak. I would say overall i just did it less and less. I think a key for me was believing I could have sex. When you go into it thinking it’s going to suck because it won’t work, then that’s what will happen. Just keep reducing how much you fap till its down to once a week, and make sure no porn. Then when you are going to have sex, stay relaxed and shut off your thoughts. Let biology do the rest.
I met someone new and I think PA crept into the equation as well as no PMO or MO during the dry spell period. Admittedly I was on Tinder during the hiatus which probably didn’t help but it did help in other ways.
Cutting out all online stimulation now (dating sites) and of course no porn is the norm for me.
Using a web filter too to protect my kids a bit but they’re smarter than me with VPNs and such.
ORGINAL POST – 23 y/o femdom pothead with pied, here we go..;
Facts:
-Florida born, at school out west.
-Haven’t had sex in over 1.25 years
-The sex I used to have was with an ex girlfriend who I loved but broke up with because I thought I needed to find a kinky girl into femdom (totally wrong, more on that later). Very often my dick would get soft during.
-I wasn’t interested in normal sex unless we did kinky role-play first.
-This put tons of stress on my relationship because I was expecting things from her instead of just being with her, totally immersed in the moment. Instead I was trying to bring my fantasies into reality.
-I’ve “had sex” with two other women prior to dating her, but both those girls I got soft prior to fucking and literally was basically cramming a gummy worm in there LMAO. Funny now, traumatizing at the time. Pathetic now.
-Spent the last 8 years in a complete porn and marijuana stupor, quitting both for at most 85 days, until i caved and gave in to both. I’ve been aware of this material since I was 18 but weakness has won many times.
-I am undertaking this journey while simultaneously in my second week of law school, so I have a lot of external pressure. This may also serve as a benefit because I have a large distraction, and access to a school full with woman.
-I spent my teenage years thinking I wasn’t meant to have normal sex, that I was just “one of those freaks” into femdom.
-I remember being surprised at how good a vagina actually feels on your penis when you put it in, it was always better than i was expecting.
-I know that you can be into femdom and have normal sex. I have read many different ideas about femdom, and based on my own knowledge of science (undergrad in the science), psychology, and my very minor foray into spirituality (Buddhism, meditation, mythology) I have different theories on why I am into that stuff (think Freud’s death wish, think Carl Jung’s “shadow”, my development in the household of an oppressive older sister).
-I am also quitting drinking and smoking weed at this time as well, so I’m undergoing a lot. Personally I don’t think weed is that bad, and i think when done on occasion, weed, shrooms and maybe even LSD (never tried LSD) can induce enlightening experiences. However, I want to focus on becoming an incredible lawyer. I want to be there for people, someone my family and the community can rely on. I don’t know which field is for me yet, but I know that understanding the law gives you power and I can use that for good.
-My teenage years started off really positive. I started getting girlfriends naturally (although even at 14 i was worried about what i was going to do when it came time for sex). I had friends, played sports and did well in school. I was blessed with a loving family that gave me a good start in life (other than my miserable sister). Once I went to have sex and it didn’t work, it went downhill from there. I got increasingly depressed, it ruined my long term relationship slowly, and culminated in me spending the last year living in my mom’s basement, smoking weed everyday to numb my emotions, working a crap job, jacking off, hating myself, missing my ex who was banging someone else, and fighting with my family daily. It’s really been brutal and honestly I’m not fully out of it. I managed to pull it together a bit, finish my degree and get into law school. But I have a long way to go.
Anyways that’s my intro, I’m on day 12 as I write this so my first entry will be day 12.
Thank you for whatever support I receive, Lord knows I need it. But if no one reads this and it’s just me, then that’s okay to. As long as I stick with it.
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