LINK – The “Porn is NOT an Option” Mindset [DECLASSIFIED]
Ok everyone, this is it.
I’m going to reveal to you the #1 secret to overcome pornography addiction.
This is the secret that all successful and enlightened rebooters share.
Those that got into the Hall of Fame already know it, either consciously or unconsciously.
Are you ready for it?
I’m very serious about this.
This is what separates those that go a few weeks without porn to those that go 6+ months without porn.
Most of you here are familiar with Laurynas and Journey to Freedom.
If you’re not, then I invite you to check out their journals.
Does it look like they’re struggling a lot to stay away from porn?
Are they trying too hard?
No, they’re not.
To them, not watching porn is fucking easy. They don’t even think about it. They don’t even consider it.
Look at what Journey to Freedom posted yesterday:
“I have reached the point in time where staying away from PMO is easier than giving into temptation. I have come to a profound realization – it would be much harder to go back on the path of depression, anxiety, PMO-addiction than it would be to keep abstaining from it.”
He’s currently on day 153, but I believe he got to that point WAY BEFORE he realized it. Probably during the very early days of his reboot.
He was already at that point when he started his journal back on day 70:
“Even as I sit here in front of my computer talking to some friends and catching up on some schoolwork, I have absolutely ZERO desire to ever go back to the downward spiral of PMO ever again.”
Here’s the thing guys:
You will only be able to go long periods of time without porn when watching porn is no longer an option in your life.
I call it the “Porn is NOT an Option” mindset.
The men that have this mindset live as if porn didn’t exist.
They completely forget about porn.
They do not spend their day fighting urges.
They are not “trying hard”.
Urges are dismissed almost instantly.
I’m currently under this mindset and have been since day 11 or something. Staying away from porn has never been easier.
I’ve been alone at home several times during the last weeks and watching porn never crossed my mind, not even for a second.
I would rather spend the whole night without sleeping than watch porn. I would rather masturbate, fuck a prostitute, take a walk, whatever. But porn just isn’t an option.
And it doesn’t bother me one bit.
You have to be ok with the idea that you will never watch porn ever again in your life.
If this idea gives you anxiety or makes you cringe, then you don’t have the “Porn is NOT an Option” mindset yet.
If you’re having urges on day 17 and you’re slightly considering watching porn, then that means that in your mind you haven’t truly made the decision to quit.
If you know that you’re going to be home alone this weekend and you’re worried about relapsing, then that means you’re not ready yet.
You’re just prolonging your relapse. Eventually you’re going to give in.
Those kind of thoughts do not enter the mind of successful rebooters. They forgot about porn a long time ago.
I’m usually completely unaware of what day I’m on.
I don’t count days.
I just check what day I’m at every time I post on my journal.
There’s a big difference between counting days and just keeping track of how far you’ve gone. I made a thread about this.
I still get urges, but I dismiss them instantly. I don’t feed them or fight them.
Have you ever been attracted to your best friend’s girlfriend? Or maybe to a very beautiful cousin? They might arouse you and you might get urges, but hitting on them is just not an option. It’s not something you consider, unless you’re into incest or don’t give a shit about your friend.
I’m telling you, once you have the “Porn is NOT an Option” mindset, staying away from porn is FUCKING EASY.
How do you get this mindset though?
I’m afraid that’s the difficult part and that’s where I can’t help you.
Every situation is different and every man has his own reasons for quitting.
I just want to make you aware that this is the mindset you should be striving for. If you’re struggling a lot or trying too hard then you’re doing it wrong.
If you take a look at successful rebooters you will always notice that they’re able to stay away from porn pretty easily, and that’s because of this particular mindset.
The “Porn is NOT an Option” mindset is as bulletproof as it can get, but having a journal (accountability) is absolutely crucial too. I don’t think I would’ve ever been able to get this far without having a journal. Don’t be afraid to use porn blockers if you want as well. Everything helps.
And if you’re one of those guys that want to quit both porn and masturbation forever, the same mindset still applies. It just changes to “Porn and Masturbation are NOT an Option”.
Pretty simple, eh?
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