This week Jennifer Lawrence broke her silence about her nude photos being leaked all over the internet, and it is safe to say she is heated about it. The 24-year-old actress has spoken out in the new issue of Vanity Fair. She spoke at length about the leak with the magazine, but I want to point out a very important comment she made that most people are ignoring. In the interview she revealed WHY she took the pics in the first place: “Either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”
This statement, and the entire situation, overwhelms me with sadness for a couple reasons.
Firstly, no girl should feel compelled to send nude pictures in an effort to keep her guy from looking at porn. Stepping away from Jennifer Lawrence and her ex Nicholos Hoult, and just speaking as an average guy who grew up “looking at porn”, I’ve experienced the dehumanising and desensitising effects today’s unlimited supply of porn can have on a person, and I’ve seen the heartache and insecurity it can bring a partner who is with a guy that needs porn to get off. I was one of those guys.
I was one of those guys who – even in a loving relationship – would turn to porn, and I’ve hurt some genuinely nice women in my life because of it. I can only see this clearly now that I’ve given up porn and regained my ability to “feel” emotionally and physically again. The problem is that guys today have subconsciously and unintentionally elevated images of women we’ve never met above the actual women who love and care about us. We defend our use of porn as if it’s a necessity, when in reality a young, healthy man should be able to masturbate without the help of porn.
No amount of pixels can ever love you back
Women around the world, please understand this: if you try to “compete” with porn, you will lose every time, no matter how bootylicious and sexy you are. Most people don’t realise this, but porn hooks in guys because it offers novelty, shock, and surprise – all of which increase a chemical in the brain behind arousal called dopamine. Most guys do not simply watch porn for the actresses’ attractiveness. Internet porn provides an unlimited amount of artificial stimulation that no one can, or should have to, compete with.
Secondly, when the leak first happened, guys across the internet shouted for joy while dropping their pants and used stolen, intimate pictures meant for someone else as a means to their own ends. Understandably upset about the incident, Jennifer said, “Anybody who looked at those pictures, you’re perpetuating a sexual offence. You should cower with shame. Even people who I know and love say, ‘Oh, yeah, I looked at the pictures.’ I don’t want to get mad, but at the same time I’m thinking, I didn’t tell you that you could look at my naked body.”
Some of the same people, who demand privacy on the internet, applaud a guy who invades people’s privacy and leaks personal photos of them all over the internet. My message to these guys: Pull your pants up from your ankles, and quit jackin’ off to porn. Then maybe girls won’t feel the need to take nude pics in the first place. The pleasure porn offers cannot compare to the pleasure and love that a real flesh n’ blood woman can give you. I can promise you no amount of pixels can ever love you back.
Women: if the reason you’re sending your significant other a sexy picture is to keep them away from porn, don’t.
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