I can’t really say this to any of my guy friends, I think because porn is so heavily promoted as must-to-have in a happy life, especially with how liberal sex is becoming in western society. But I want to say something. Giving up porn was the best thing I did for myself and my marriage.
Married 14 years. Stopped watching porn 5 years ago.
I used to watch porn. Not a ton, as much as other guys would do, I guess. Our relationship was fine when I did. We were happy. But I decided to stop at some point. Not sure exactly why. to see how things might change?
I find her even more attractive. I think about her more during the day, especially when I’m horny at work and can’t do anything about it.
I stopped noticing all the little flaws she had during sex; scars, sagging breasts, stretchmarks. All the things I shouldn’t have cared before but I did. Now they don’t bother me at all.
I look WAY more forward to sex. We fuck more often. If she can’t or isn’t feeling up for it one day? I wait. Fucking when you’re horny for a while is great. Or I jerk off to pictures of her if I really need to get off.
It was a bit off an effort in the beginning but if it means something better between me and the only woman in my life that really matters? I wouldn’t look back. I have no desire now to fantasize about woman that I’m not going to even be touching at the end of the day.
And now, we’re both happier. We also used to have the occasional fights. We haven’t fought in 4 years at least. I think partly because I don’t imagine an idealized version of a woman when I lose my patience with her. I calm down and we both just get along better when disagreements come up. I wish I had done this earlier. I think we’re both much happier. She definitely notices me appreciating her sexually more often and I know she feels more confident these days.
LINK – Giving up porn was the best thing I did for my marriage
by thewayoff
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