I started sucking dick and receiving anal sex from men and Ladyboys after 12 years of watching Porn, could never kiss them or cuddle or be in relationships, I just fanticised me being treated like a whore or slut.
I mentioned it to a sexual health nurse and she set me up with a appointment to chat with this guy, kind of like a therapy session, he told me Human bisexuality isn’t 50/50, you can be 80% straight and 20% bi etc.. and he didn’t think porn was the reason I was having sex with men.
I was only having sex with men 2 or 3 times a year, nothing crazy but I felt regretful and unhappy afterwards, not to mention got 2 Stds from it.
I’m 15 days porn free and I have no interest in dick anymore, I still love girls of course but men I have lost a lot of interest in. For me I believe porn changed my sexuality.
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When I relapse after a while, I seek out normal stuff, 18-22 yo women. When I’ve been using regularly, it goes weird places. I sometimes find myself looking at things that i know I’m not actually attracted to. It’s the novelty of something different that makes it work. Pay attention to the things you look at and you’ll eventually notice them cycle.
Just keep clearly in your mind what you are. The rabbit hole will mess with your mind the longer you stay in it. You know what you’re attracted to.
Part of what makes you wander to other kinks and things is that you’ve been flooding your mind with your usual stuff and need a break….
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Yes [porn can fuck up your sexuality]. There’s no other way around this fact. Being the generation where pornography was for many of us our first and often only sexual experience, it’s wrapped it’s cruel, destructive grip around our ability to be free lovers of our own accord.
At this moment I am closing in on 2 years of no pornography. I’ve decided to get back into having sex, thinking enough time has elapsed. The consequences of this addiction is showing its ugly face now. I cannot get ‘turned on’, I cannot sustain an erection, and, I am suffering from premature ejaculation. It’s incredibly testing and frustrating but I am confident all will be well through continuing the fight.
I had less performance issues with porn (mild ED). However what I am experiencing is flatlining, complete loss of libido. I know it’s terrifying man, it’s a torment, however this won’t stop me from defeating it.
It just shows how much of our sexuality is built upon the images we have consumed. I was addicted to porn for more than 10 years, from around age 12 – 24. A few years in between it wasn’t problematic but it came in waves.
Benefits? I would ask what you are seeking to gain from being porn free? For me it was to break away from a destructive, addictive, shell of a person that had no control over any facet of their life. Now, I am fully on top of everything, happiest I’ve ever been, life generally is great. All of this happened because I quit porn and found inner strength.
I didn’t stop in order to get sexual benefits. I stopped in order to stop sexually objectifying women. To become a better human, someone that truly treats women as equals, not as mere objects of pornographically constructed sexual fantasy.
So really, the benefits are unparalleled, however there’s just one missing piece that I am working on. Keep at it man.
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Damn, stay strong man, you will recover, I’ve been watching for 11 years, when the addiction was the strongest I had erectile disfunction even when I was watching hardcore porn. I had a 50 days no fap streak and my erection got better. Try taking Ashwaghanda KSM 66 ,that will improve your libido and regukate your testosterone levels. Also cold showers could help.
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Porn can fuck up your sexuality and make you think that you’re into things which you aren’t, that’s a well documented effect of excessive porn consumption.
Yes, abstinence and recovery will help your mind to heal and see those kinks that you don’t really have for what they are.
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I’ve seen people on here and other websites who acquired an attraction to men, sadism/masochism and other things solely because they exhausted their attraction to “normal” p*rn (no porn is normal). Once they were off for a while, they noted that things began feeling better for them.
Expect the thoughts to linger, as that tends to happen to everyone who’s quit, and never go back to using it.
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Yeah, it mostly goes back to normal. I do still get a bit turned on by some kinks I got from porn, but it’s hardly anything. I mostly get turned on by intimacy now. I do have a few kinks still, but I am pretty sure I had those before I started watching porn.
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I’m a little over a month into my reboot, and my porn fetishes are honestly gone. I sometimes crave the porn, but I really can’t bring myself to actually look at it, I just miss the high I used to get from masturbating to hardcore content. It isn’t even sexual, I honestly have two totally different sets of feelings when I’m intimate with a girl, and when I’m jerking off. Both intense, but the latter just makes me feel numb. Point being, it had pretty much no overlap with my innate sexuality, and abstaining from porn use really made me not even care much about that stuff anymore.
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It changes completely. I know that when I was pretty deep into my PMO addiction, I sought out some of the weirdest fetishes you could imagine: Breast/Ass expansion, Hentai. Now I can’t even imagine wanking to them – hell they even turn me off.
LINK – Can porn fuck up your sexuality? Does it go back to normal through abstaining from it?
2020 research reporting that some child porn users got there via escalation due to habituation and compulsive use:
Motivational pathways underlying the onset and maintenance of viewing child pornography on the Internet (2020)
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