I’m going to keep the first part of this success story limited to the basic vital info so you can quickly read it and relate without sifting through a bunch of other stuff.
I will include a second post which will have other things like my opinions on various topics based on my experience recovering from addiction. Here it goes:
Statistics:
- I’m 25
- Always been healthy (gym, basketball great diet); never any problems with sexual functioning before addiction.
- Sexually experienced, been having pretty consistent sex since I was 17 in LT relationships
- Became addicted to porn after a break up when I was 20, so 5 years of addiction total.
Before porn addiction
- Rock hard erections, never failed at maintaining an erection and laughed at those who did.
- could have sex up to 3 times per day each time nearly an hour in length, in any position
- regular taste in sex, only liked women and didn’t need extreme things to reach orgasm.
- I had a drive to meet and talk to women. If there was a decent looking girl, you can be damn sure I was trying to bang her lol
During porn addiction
- Failed at least 10 times to stay hard with girls. Even if I did stay hard, my erections were weak
- an addiction to novelty. I buried my emotional trauma from a break up in many different women’s pussies. Never saw anyone consistently and was single for 5 years (unheard of for me)
- Porn escalated into extreme genres eventually getting into gay/ tranny.
- Dealt with a small round of HOCD until I found YBOP. I even tried out getting a bj from a guy and realized that it wasn’t for me and I was totally 100% straight.
- became addicted also to internet dating websites and would constantly meet new girls and just try to bang them, only to have PIED cause a failure
- I was incredibly insecure with myself and my sexual capability. This caused terrible performance anxiety making it near impossible to have sex.
- I masturbated daily to the raunchiest nastiest craigslist casual ads(DO NOT EVER DO THIS!!) porn literature is just as bad as videos!
- I used to get a feeling of being “doped up” after a PMO session. I would instantly become sluggish and felt like dying.
- wasn’t as inclined to meet and talk to girls.
After porn addiction (about 2.5-3 months of rebooting and some rewiring):
- I’m hard pretty much instantly when I lay down and cuddle with my girl (met her while I was rebooting and took it somewhat slow and told her about my problem first before sex).
- I have been having consistent sex for the past few weeks up to 45 minutes in length and even making my girl cum several times. I’m back to 2-3 sex sessions per day if we hang out all day.
- sexual tastes are returning back to normal; tranny/gay fantasies have greatly diminished
- masturbation frequency is insignificant. Going from 1/day to basically 2 times per month.
- just an overall feeling of wellness. Haven’t been sick since I quit P and reduced MO to next to nothing.
- MUCH MORE SECURE WITH MYSELF! I feel like I can do anything, get any girl, pass any class, overall just accomplish my goals.
Physical symptoms during addiction:
- weird irregular chest pains coming from my heart.
- extreme pain coming from my prostate several times per month.
- extreme pain and burning sensation when urinating after PMO (probably due to death grip masturbation technique)
- cystic pustule acne on my back and occasionally on my face (also had this prior to addiction)
Physical symptoms after addiction:
- chest pains are nearly gone
- No more prostate pain and burning sensation when urinating after orgasm (no more death grip even if I do MO)
- Acne is basically gone.
Well that’s it, be sure to check out the following post on my opinion about some other topics relating to rebooting and all the other stuff.
thanks to all who have paved the way for awareness about porn addiction and its ties to erectile dysfunction (PIED). Also, if you have shared your story in the “success story” section, I have probably read it and took something from it which helped me tremendously. Specifically, Gabe, Gary Wilson.
LINK – 90 day report (25 y.o. addicted for 5 years. PIED to great sex life in 90 days)
by Nickd247
Rebooting in general:
No matter how long it takes, just do it. Start with no more porn. You will find it very difficult to stay hard without porn so masturbation will basically take care of itself. KEEP BUSY! The cravings and temptations to view extreme porn will be enormous. So try to limit your free time to over come the urges. “an idle mind is the devils playground” lol. Its easy to get bored and just think “aww wtf why not, once wont hurt.” WRONG. Don’t lose any progress, and don’t waste another day not being a sexual tiger ready to fuck anything at whim. You have no idea how gratifying it is staring down at a beautiful sexy girl as she screams wildly “OH MY GOD DON’T STOP IM CUMMING!”. You feel like an absolute boss, and it boosts that confidence that was taken down so harshly by your porn addiction. This process is difficult, but it will change your life and perspective on so many things. It will change you from a boy to a man.
Morning wood:
Not important, at least to me. I still don’t get much morning wood, but I can have sex more than twice per day for 30-45 minutes no problem. So don’t worry if you aren’t hard all the time.
Rewiring
Take it slow with a girl. Go on dates with girls and when you find one that you like, keep going with her. You don’t need to tell her about your problem on the first date, but you should let her know that it is going to take some patience when it comes to sex because you do have a problem. Let her know about the science behind PIED and maybe even direct her to the information put out by Gary and others if she needs to validate it further. Let her know that sex is not the most important thing to you at first. Most women will actually LOVE this. They are normally tired of normal guys just trying to get in their pants and have sex so most will find this refreshing. And if they aren’t okay with it, FUCK EM! You want a girl who is kind compassionate and empathetic and someone who cant respect this isn’t for you anyway.
Dating:
I’m aware that a lot of folks here are virgins. So as someone who has no problems talking with girls and getting dates ill try and share some pointers. Don’t be afraid of failing, we all fail at some points with girls, some of us more than others!. Women love a fearless, confident man, and sometimes persistence pays off. You should be charming if you are trying to go out with someone. Make small talk, but try to take off the “rose colored” glasses. I know when you first meet a girl and she is new you see her in a perfect light. The fact is she has flaws as well.
Testosterone and Erectile Functioning
Recently I had my T checked. I was reduced, especially for my age at 293 where the average is around 350. I eat very healthy, I workout 4-5 times per week and I don’t do drugs and rarely drink. I still function normally in the sexual department. Don’t place a lot of emphasis here. I found a lot of truth to what Gary Wilson said and reiterated with a few studies about dopamine receptors being the main issue with PIED, not testosterone. Just give your brain time to heal and you’ll be okay. Trust the process!
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