I remember my Day 1. I was really hungry to read success stories as I was skeptical if the No-PMO plan was going to help cure my PIED. So I’m posting a summary of my 90 days here in Success Stories for any of you new guys out there.
Again, this is a summary. If you want more details, you can check out my journal which is more extensive. I am a gay 49 year old man. My story is well trod territory: I started looking at porn around 12 (brother’s magazines) and slowly but surely kept at it until high speed internet took it all to the next level. I had some long term boyfriends during those years, but porn was never too far from my reality and that included AOL chat rooms, fetish websites, cams/Skype, phone sex, porn star worship, sexting, trolling dating sites and Facebook, tumblr, you name it. During this time, I met a lot of guys online and had a fair number of encounters. Most of the guys were cool and I even dated some of them.
I was always a little anxious about sex but over time, my erections became less reliable. I started using Viagra and Cialis around 2002. After that, I never had sex without it. Around 2014, I noticed that even with dick pills, my erections were weak or undependable. And even watching porn, sometimes I’d only get really hard right before I came. For a man, this is devastating. We are wired to be sexual and without that, your life feels hopeless. All chances for sexual contact and a possible love connection seem lost. I felt depressed and had nowhere else to turn as I’d gone to many doctors, therapists, acupuncturists, etc. over the years. Nothing was working.
By random chance, I came upon Gary Wilson’s TED talk this December on youtube. When the science of my problem was explained to me, I was dumbfounded. I honestly had no idea it was PORN that was ruining my sex life. In fact, I thought the opposite–that porn was my only solution to my ‘problem’. Five minutes after watching that video, I was onboard. I’ve not watched a second of porn since.
Week one I was pumped up emotionally because I was so hopeful that I’d found a solution. I honestly didn’t think a man could go very long without orgasming, but I committed and made it a week and was feeling good. I never got any of those ‘superpowers’ that you hear some guys talk about, but this week I felt jacked and very positive, so this was as close as I got to such a thing. The second week the flatline started and to make a long story short, this lasted until about Day 45 or so. Flatlines are good. If you don’t know you are going to have one they are scary and chase a lot of guys back to masturbation. But if you know its coming, you just ride it out and let your brain rest. Not having to struggle with being horny is a relief. (Educate yourself. I can’t say this enough. You will find all your answers at yourbrainonporn.com) Around Day 50 I was starting to finally get horny again and I rewired with a couple guys that week. First guy was just messing around with a friend–no O but my dick was working somewhat. This was major news and I was stoked. With the second guy it was more intense–like a real hookup. But my dick started out very slowly at first (half hard like the old days) but I rallied, got a solid boner at the end and orgasmed. It was a crazy, unwieldy orgasm, like I couldn’t control it and it kind of hurt a little like I had been ‘plugged up’ and the cum was breaking through the plug. But damn, I was so happy to have had reached O without a dick pill–I was thrilled. This orgasm sent me back into a weeklong flatline, but I was expecting this so all was cool. Days 75, 80 and 88 I had more rewiring with two different guys. My dick performed quite well and I feel well on the road to success. I don’t think I’m fully recovered at all and I did take small doses of Cialis on two of those occasions, but gentlemen, the change in my performance abilities from Day 1 to Day 90 have been remarkable. Remember, even with dick pills I was previously unable to really get a solid long lasting erection, now it’s a really good boner. Please stick with this program. I know it’s long, and challenges you in a way you are not used to, and there will be some very dull weeks in the flatline where you question what you are doing, but just hang in there. Some of you will recover faster, others may take longer. But don’t give up. As I go beyond Day 90, I will give up the dick pills for good, continue to never look at porn again and masturbate only very rarely–if at all. And orgasms will be hands free. I still have improvements ahead and I look forward to them. But unlike Day 1, I’m confident it will happen and that makes all the difference.
A couple thoughts:
Hand Holders. I am always surprised at how many guys post questions on RN that seem like they’ve barely read yourbrainonporn.com nor seen or listened to Gary Wilson’s TED talk. How could you not be fully vested in getting your sexual health back? Devour that website. Read it all, five times. Listen the radio shows. Watch all the videos. Most important, understand WHY you are rebooting. It will make it so much easier. There is a method behind this madness. If you’re just asking random questions constantly on RN, you just aren’t doing your homework. And considering what’s at stake, why aren’t you?
Leaders. There are a lot of guys posting here and many of them have very unique and complex life problems that they are dealing with–many far more difficult than simple PIED. Be aware that what everyone says here on RN may not apply to you, and some are just here for attention or community. Stay focused on YOUR success. Learn from those who are achieving their goals (Gary Wilson remains my go-to-guy for all information). Reboot Nation should be a temporary stop. Learn, commit and get on with life.
God and Jesus had nothing to do with my recovery. I did it by learning the science behind the problem and addressing it as a man who is responsible for my own self. If you want to use fantasy to sidetrack the reasons and solutions for your recovery, feel free. It’s your life. But I’d skip the hocus pocus. Learn the science: it will make recovery simpler and easier. It’s all there on yourbrainonporn.com.
Cold Showers. These are great during recovery. There will be weeks of flatlining when you feel down and numb. Cold showers pick you up. Way up. They electrify your body. They give you a jolt of much needed dopamine. Learn to love them. They discuss them here: http://ia601704.us.archive.org/3/items/Cyber20130409/cyber20130409.mp3
Gateway Porn. Turn it all off, completely. A lot of guys mess up here by trying the halfway approach. But the seeking and searching on Facebook, dating sites, match.com, Grindr, Scruff, Christian Mingle, Manhunt, Tumblr, Skype, Instagram, etc. are all part of the problem (I call these sites Gateway Porn). Unplug them ALL so your mind can rest. This is really important. If you have doubts that something is bad for you, it is. And install the K9 blocker to your computer to shield you from most porn–especially the ones that make your dick jump (you can also personalize what sites are blocked.) Use a complicated password that you give only to a friend for safekeeping so you don’t have it. K9 is not perfect but it provides an excellent speed bump to a lot of triggering porn.
Bonuses: A lot of guys say their voice gets deeper. I wish mine had, but I do think it is more ‘commanding’ at times now. I also have really noticed gains at the gym like I’ve never had before. As a perennially skinny kid, this has been awesome. It’s like the power force from masturbating and orgasming has been transferred to muscle development. You can’t beat that.
OK, well that about wraps it up. Special thanks to Patrick and Gay Gladiator for being strong accountability partners, and to all the guys whose posts helped me through this. I hope my story helps some of you new guys feel confident that your life can change in just a few short months and helps you get started. Men, this process will work. I’ll say it one more time: Learn, commit and succeed. Cheers! 
LINK – Gay Man, 49yo Ending PIED After a 90 Day Reboot.
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