Nofap has been the most crucial tool to enhance my life. I have stopped my addictions. The thrill and rush I get from a cute girl’s smile after just simply complimenting her on her cute dress is almost unbearable.
Even stopping by my professor’s office asking about the research they did and seeing the excitement in their eyes to tell me all about because they’ve been so invested into it. Sex has been absolutely amazing, and the dopamine rush I get from real life experiences is out of this world.
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[Taken from Part 4]
I won’t end saying how you just fucked your brain forever and there’s nothing you can do about it. Remember when I said the body is FOREVER adapting to its environment. (it doesn’t just go one way) And I said multiple times **your brain is constantly adapting and physically changing to the stimuli it receive, which is why adaptation is so *beautiful *and incredible.
If you starve yourself of that dopamine-pleasure rush that porn (3 mechanisms) gives you, your brain with start to physically recalibrate the inbalance in order to sustain homeostasis, like it did to porn After all you are built for the sole purpose of survival and that is it and only it.
Since dopamine levels are low it will re calibrate its sensitivity. This beautiful quality is called neuroplasticity, and it’s absolutely beautiful (can’t say it enough). It is why nofap works. When you deprive yourself of these dopamine baths you sit in when jerking it to porn, frying your brain with dangerously excessive levels of dopamine. Your brain is now not in a state of homeostasis. That same negative feedback mechanism that caused down-regulation now does something special. It starts to calibrate, as it always does to its environment. It begins reverting to its original state because it doesn’t have to deal with excess dopamine.
Your brain is always in the process of reverting back to its original levels and sensitivities to neurotransmitters. It only goes the other way as defense mechanism to prevent your neuron tips form oxidizing too rapidly. When the stimuli of porn is removed, that defense mechanism inactivates and your brain adapts to its current environment. Which is real people, real sex, real cute girl smiles, real learning and calibrates its dopamine reward center to those stimulus. Where it gets more sensitive to weaker responses compared to porn.
As these responses strengthen over time from abstaining from PMO then the same feeling you received from porn can be derived from the real world. And it’s amazing. You suddenly want to pick up a violin and start learning it and are motivated to get better because your dopamine system has rebalanced its self. You want to actually have a meaningful conversation with someone instead of surface “hey what’s up.” You’re able to engage into projects and since the blanket of anxiety has been lifted, able to plan your life and come up with a plan of action. You won’t believe all the things you will want to do (and there will never be enough time to do everything you will want to do).
You don’t get nervous around girls because you don’t see them as a soft object to rub your genitals against. Even old friends you haven’t talked to you’ll want to call them and see how they are doing and the pleasure response is like nothing other. All these new desires are a result of neuroplasticity. Your brain is re calibrating to real-environmental stimuli. You suddenly aren’t depressed because life gives you the thrill that porn never could. Your empathy is sometimes too much, feeling how strong emotions that you have been desensitized to is overwhelming and beautiful.
You become amazing with women because…And here’s the secret to attracting women:
the most attractive quality a human being can have is to be completely satisfied with what life has to offer
and boy do I tell you girls can tell. When your happy and satisfied with your life youre lit up like a Christmas tree. Your presence radiates and every girl can tell. When you actually have sex it is absolutely amazing. It’s not about “I wanna do this and this and this to her” trying to live a porn fantasy, it’s just you and her and it’s amazing.
Porn distorts your view on sex, and its not real. Before when i was PMO and having sex, the sex was never satisfactory because I wanted to do this-and that-and this…. Before I would be anxious around girls because I would think about how to get in their pants and that’s about it. Now i can’t describe what is like having sex now comparing to what is was like before. Before I would have sex, and right after its done be unsatisfied and bored.
Now, it’s absolutely overwhelming in the best way, and im good for days even weeks. You don’t see her as a warm object to rub your genitals against and try to create your fantasy. You see them as an actual person, with goals, fears, wierd quirky things they do, random bizarre thoughts that they chuckle awkwardly by themselves, an actual sentient being that is giving herself to you and you to herself. Your not just physically aroused where you just want to do a bunch of just to—, you are sole-fully aroused to be the best lover this girl has ever witnessed. The feeling of compassion and empathy I have during my intimate moments are just o-my-god.
Don’t think you completely fucked your brain, there is hope you just need to stop feeding your mind this hypersensitive/hypersexualised pixelated images and give your brain a chance to re-calibrate to its environment– as it always does. As long as you get your nightly dopamine fix, you will never let your mind exercise it’s most beautful ability: neuroplasticity. And it’s absolutely beautiful.
TLDR: YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING, YOU CHANGE YOUR PRIMAL MENTAL MECHANISM THAT ARE/WERE NEEDED FOR SURVIVAL. THIS IS YOU YOU CAN’t CHANGE YOURSELF OR HOW YOU ARE WIRED, BUT YOU CAN CHANGE THE ENVIRONMENTAL STIMULUS YOU RECEIVE TO BETTER YOURSELFYOUR ONLY PURPOSE AS A HUMAN IS TO BE BIOLOGICALLY SUCCESSFUL AND THAT IS IT AND ONLY IT: IT WHAT CAUSED YOU TO PMO
by Iwillfapnot