I had successful sex with a woman a couple of days ago. My libido wasn’t 100% yet but enough to get turned on and reach orgasm. Staying away from porn wasn’t enough.
To keep my libido alive, I MO once a month without porn.
LINK – Successful sex
BY – rebooting
UPDATE – cum fiesta
No, it’s not porn. I had sex 5 times in a month and they were all successful. I had severe delayed ejaculation for 1.5 years. Nofap was both the solution and the cause. Nofap enabled me to let my penis and dopamine receptors heal.
My orgasms have been weak since I chronically masturbated. Now, my orgasms are intense and amazing. The downside of nofap is that it makes you believe that you are supposed to have porn-induced sexual dysfunctions. Nofap heals the body (penis and brain chemicals), but it damages your confidence to perform sexually. The only way to defeat this vicious cycle is to be honest to your sex partner about your probability to fail. She will understand it and not expect you to reach orgasm. You won’t either. That way, both of you can enjoy sex without any expectations pressurizing you. It worked wonders. While I used to penetrate for an hour without orgasming, I felt amazing arousal and reached the point of no return after 5 minutes. I cummed deep in her and it felt very satisfying. I had sex with other girls and I orgasmed again with them.
If you’ve done nofap for months or even longer, stop convincing yourself that you’re porn addicted. Forget all of that. Just have sex, don’t think about performing and your arousal will be there. Being anxious about performing or worrying about getting an erection is a real libido killer. Just enjoy the fact that you’re having sex and don’t think about anything else. I found out that it has more to do with mentality once you abstained from porn and masturbation long enough.
Today, I had sex twice and I cummed twice. My erection was rock solid.
INITIAL POST (18 MONTHS EARLIER) – How do I know I’m rebalanced?
I used porn since I was 19. At the time, I only watched occasionally, because I still lived with my parents. The risk of being caught by my parents was too high. When I was 23, I lived on my own and started masturbating to porn. It was awkward at first, but soon became something that I did once a day. I’ve been masturbating to porn ever since, using the Death Grip.
I’m 38 now and masturbate to porn daily. Sometimes I skip several days or a week. There were times when I wasn’t in the mood and stopped masturbation and porn for three weeks. I did a lot of porn masturbation the past months.
I’ve been single forever. This week, I had sex for the first time. It was with a prostitute. I went for a second time 2 days later. The first time, I couln’t get an erection, which really scared me. The second time, I did get an erection. Both times, I wasn’t aroused by the girl, even though I thought they were very attractive and my penis didn’t feel anything at all during intercourse. Then, I started reading about porn-addiction and the Death Grip.
I am someone who can easily drop bad habits and never look back. I quit smoking instantly and swapped junk food for a healthy diet all of a sudden (2 years ago). I have no problems in drastically changing bad habits immediately and to stay away from them permanently.
I’m wondering how I know if I’m fully rebooted. The fact that a gorgeous girl had sex with me and I didn’t feel arousal really got me worried. I’m heterosexual and very attracted to pretty girls. I just don’t feel horny when I had sex with those girls. I don’t have a girlfriend, so I can’t check my recovery without going to a prostitute again. One of the prostitutes that I visited was so attractive and gave me so good sex that I’m also worried that she won’t be there anymore when I’ll visit her after my reboot. I want to go back to her really bad because she’s so attractive and amazing at sex.
I do get morning wood and spontaneous erections all day long. I also feel instant attraction when I see a pretty girl in public. I can’t feel my penis during sex because I abused it with the Death Grip and I want to be aroused again during physical contact. Before I started using porn, I would become extremely aroused when a girl would touch me, even if it was her hand on my arm. The only arousal that I feel now is when a girl strokes my back. I also suffer from social anxiety and low self-esteem. Before I used porn, about 20 years ago, I was very confident and energetic. I easily socialized and made new friends. Now, I’ve become very insecure.
How long should I take to recover and how do I know that I’m fully rebooted? I’m sorry for my unreadable rant, but I’m not good in writing decent articles.
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