First I want to explain that everyone is unique and this is hopefully for the best. Everyone has their own metabolism and psychology, even if for some of your friends porn may be an option, you need to decide whether you want to get rid of it or not.
I hope that these insights may be helpful for you as is helpful for me to get something off my chest.
My story. Around one year ago I did pull up a girl and cannot get hard. Yeah I know it happens to all men at some point, considering that I was really drunk and during in a stressful time. I panicked (obviously), like any male proud of his dick ego. So I started to seek for knowledge – On every health website masturbation was passed as normal, but nobody talked about the big pink elephant in the room – porn. Then realized that over years and years I developed a passion for more hardcore and fetish kind of porn. And I’m not saying that kinks are bad, in the contrary, but I knew I wasn’t that kind of person, to let it dictate my lifestyle.
Like every excess it’s important to understand why you are doing it. In my case It was a method to deepen my frustration. I did not enjoy the process, I’ve only wanted the release and then everything went blurry.
Nofap, treating fire with fire. One of the first subreddit that popped out was obviously nofap. So I started the challenge and went for 50 days streak, just a couple of days since started I felt depressed but went further. I was also strangely energized so I focus on exercise and spending as much time outside the house. At some point I even thought on getting a fleshlight, but then I realised the whole deathgrip articles are all marketing. Our civilization is millions years old and all there jerkingout by hand. If I would change something would be just limiting fapping and if I want some sparkle, get lube or butter (joking)
Flatlines and low libido. This is a peculiar topic, because as much as I’ve studied I did not get it. Ever since I quit porn I hap ups and downs on my sex drive. A week Straight after I quitted porn I had a flatline for one and a half weeks. A real downer for me as I was a Fap Pro, striking it around two to three times a day. But hey – men are tinkerers they build castles, empires, startups and do stuff.
Learning and changes. Because of my lack of libido I tried to study how to get in shape (I was carrying some extra pounds) eat healthy to naturally increase my testosterone. For my body I chose a paleo low carb diet plan, this involved me to cook and shop for food, so it gained me a new hobby. Those superpowers that a lot of fellow redditors are talking is just a sudden thirst for knowledge. Yes, if you get anxious to search some answers, you may learn some stuff. Lots of people had these problems before, solved and wrote about them.
Present. I’m not consider myself cured, porn fantasies where replace one by one by scenes involving past, present and future girls. I fap around 1-2 times per week and try not to think too much about it. Sometimes I’m semi arouse when O, fap without passion just to let the juices out. Did this happened to you? Other times get nervous, but then I realize how much a real life being values rather than pixels.
Techniques. I guess every post like this is followed by some questions ‘How did you managed to overcome the urges and so on’. For example I first realised that I have an issue and tried to make fun of it. Talking with friends helps, I had several other guys that took that nofap challenge. At some point I had a nofap poster on my room and joking up with my flat-mates that they don’t need to knock on my door. Yes you get some funny looks and some guys will find it absurd, but who cares I don’t need their validation anyway. Girls will find it interesting and can be amusing way to start a conversation.
Exercising. I always thought that exercising is for the football lead in school, you know that type. But now I had the opportunity to choose exercising as an output for my build up tension. Every time I felt that I and my big ego will not get along I went for a run or hit the gym.
Communicate with your girlfriend/sex buddy, most of the chances are that she will understand if you are in a flatline. You can always cuddle, give her clit stimulation and enjoy the time together.
Pornblockers like k9 and… Just Google the latest and install them. Reading tantra books that introduces meditation for sex are a good view. There a lot of resources out there and what I’ve discovered that there are a lot of exercised to achieve multiple orgasm for men. It’s a starting point, so you need to check it out.
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Conclusion. Porn is a parasite, like a lich. Can you live with it? Yes, for sure! But if you thrive for being the best self, I’m sorry, no! If you do porn every day, You’re like a junkie, living for the spike. It makes everything else boring. My life took an interesting turn; I enjoy more going out with my bike, doing stuff that I feared about, if I’m searching other natural ways to spike out!
LINK – One year of pornfree. Past, present and techniques
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