I’m just gonna be open with my language to give a real message to those in need because people need a real talk rather than a pep talk. So I’m 18 and I was hooked on porn when I was 14 and masturbated to it every single day, maybe 2-3 times. I never knew or cared what effect it would have on me until I found a girl that was really easy, but I would never get hard and was horrified.
So many thoughts went through my mind: was I gay? Did I have blood pressure problems? Did I have ED? I started nofap on November 8th, 2015. It’s been a long journey but has been COMPLETELY worth every second.
I lost my virginity the day I started nofap because my first time (and multiple times after that) I could never get hard with my girl (now an ex, got a new one now, no worries). I decided to do some digging on what was wrong with me and learned quickly that porn was the issue. After quitting me and my girl split and I never knew if I was making any progress, but little did I know I was. It has only been almost 4 months and I have had successful sex many MANY times with my new girl.
HOW I DID IT: Its actually really easy guys and really simple too.
- DON’T WATCH PORN (seriously just don’t it’s that easy no matter how hard you try to make it seem to give yourself and excuse for why you relapse, you’re just making excuses for something completely unnecessary in your life. “OMG but I’ve been watching porn for 20 plus years”, my n–ga just stop watching it and do something else like TV or YouTube or SOMETHING, seriously, the human body and mind are great things, I’m pretty sure anyone can come up with something to do other than watching two or three people f-ck each other, why watch it when that guy could be you, slaying that pu–y.)
- cut down masturbating (from every day to maybe once every 1-2 weeks. masturbating is NOT a relapse, its normal for the body as long as you do it in moderation)
- DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHETHER YOU’RE GOING TO GET HARD. If you stop watching porn and moderate flicking ya wrist on your tool, many sexual situations will work in your favor. So there’s literally no need to worry, it will work, don’t think it won’t. Enjoy the moment and let her start out by just touching and just enjoy it. Don’t let the idea of getting hard cross your mind, because you will and there’s no need to worry.
- Rewire rewire rewire (legit just cuddle with a girl or some sh-t, no sex required.)
- Enjoy the time in between while you get better. (Take advantage of all this time you have, stop looking at the nofap subreddit and take your mind off of it. the more you worry, the more stressed out you get and the less you progress.)
It will get better it’s only been 4 months for me of no porn and the occasional weekly or bi-weekly sesh of beating my meat with no porn or fantasy.
Its easy guys, don’t worry I promise. This isn’t as hard as some make it out to be. Don’t feel bad if you jack off to no porn, because it’s not a relapse and you have made a step from only getting off to porn to getting off to not fantasy or visual stimulation then the next step after that is getting off to a S/O which will easily come in time.
Good luck guys, hope I helped!
LINK – Success story, Don’t worry, it will get better!
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