I’ve been a heavy porn user since my puberty. I lost my virginity only few months ago at 25. I had the most extreme case of impotence due to porn. I used porn heavily, and used traumatic masturbation grip. I even scarred my penis with extreme friction. I abused porn to the point I was unable to get an erection, even with the most extreme genre of porn.
And worse: for a few years, I lost my attraction to women, and escalated to gay and tranny porn. I started to find girls unappealing, no matter how attractive she was, and you know the rest of the story…. I thought I was gay. I didn’t act upon those “urges”.
I wasn’t able to abstain more than two months. I spent two years abstaining from PMO from a week to two months, then relapse. I continued to use porn occasionally. Once every two weeks in average (better than daily use).
My self-esteem was crushed because I saw boys enjoying themselves with hot girls, and I was impotent, lacking self-confidence and unable to interact with women as a man. I was always avoiding real women because I feared a miserable failure.
That didn’t help. I decided then to start seeing real women, even if I was not attracted to them as I would. I decided to be bold. I met a lady, I went to her place, and kissed passionately. I was so anxious that I was unable to get an erection. I programmed my phone to get a fake call and used it as a pretext to leave haha. I met again with her few months ago, and I got decent erections, but we didn’t escalate to sex. We stopped to meet.
I met another nice girl (my current GF). We liked each other and started going out. One day we kissed suddenly before one of us leaves the bus to home. It was awkward. I was paralyzed with anxiety: What will I tell her when we try to have sex and I fail to get it up. I didn’t tell her about my PIED, but I talked about my fatigue (I suffered from severe insomnia and stress at that time) and how influenced my erections. I told her I just needed some physical intimacy and some time to get my hard erections back. It was not a lie, nor the full story.
We started to meet in my house. We cook together, drink beers, watch Netflix and relax haha, and then cuddle in bed until we fall asleep. So, I didn’t accept the idea to have a girl sleep in my bed without having sex with her. So, I decided to give her oral sex. It was the first time she gets it, and was so happy. So, in two weeks, we met few times and did the same thing.
My libido started to wake up. One night, I was pleasing her, and got suddenly so horny that I wanted intercourse so bad. I had successful sex at the first try, and It was intense.
What amazed me is the absence of premature ejaculation. When I PMOed, I came sometimes in few seconds.
To be honest, I occasionally PMO when she’s not around. It really affects my performance later. Now, I do it less often, and I’ll stop it soon. So, the bottom line is: get out of your shell and start meeting women. You need an understanding and affectionate girl. Rewiring is more important than abstinence, in my opinion.
Now, I’m a sex machine. I can do it up to 3 times a day and not feel crushed, like when I orgasmed to porn.
Here are few proven tips to help you reboot faster, and get a libido of a beast:
1- Avoid PMO as often as possible
2- Get enough high quality sleep
3- If you masturbate, use a lube. If you do it raw, your penis will keratinize and become less sensitive.
4- Have a healthy diet: avoid processed foods, eat good fats (olive oil, avocado, fish etc), good carbs (whole-wheat products), eat A LOT OF EGGS (it will increase your testosterone levels), get enough proteins.
5- LIFT WEIGHTS or do RESISTANCE TRAINING: They will just skyrocket your T levels, especially when combined with good carbs and fats (especially eggs). Do also some form of cardio.
6- Relax. Take control of your stress levels.
Good luck guys!
LINK – Abstinence alone isn’t enough: From extreme PIED to a sex machine
BY – Theram01
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