Displacement Activities
- Work out (squats seem popular with many nofappers).
- Do yoga or stretching.
- Groom yourself (shower, trim fingernails, shave, floss, brush teeth, use tongue scraper, wash your clothes, etc.).
- Get squeeze balls for your hands (squeeze the squeeze ball and not your dick).
- Go for a walk.
- Read a book instead of surf the web.
- Hang out with people.
- Join a club (or clubs).
- Clean the house/apartment/room.
- Fix something around the house.
- Start a chore that you have been putting off.
- learn something new (a language, a musical instrument, cooking, solve a Rubik’s cube etc).
- 2 minute time out.
Avoidance Techniques
- Delete your porn folder, delete your porn links.
- Install a porn blocker (no more looking at sexy pics).
- No edging, period. Touch yourself only when cleaning your body or urinating (see squeeze ball above).
- Stay in public places.
- Stay off the computer or phone except for a dedicated task like
banking, work, school work, email, texting, checking nofap, checking the
news, etc. and then log out. - If you are surging stay off the computer or phone completely.
- Do not mindlessly surf the web because you will eventually click on a trigger.
- Wear thick pants with a belt.
- Go to bed only when you are about to sleep.
- Get out of bed immediately after waking.
- Beer, wine, liquor and pot: avoid these until you have solid control of your fappy impulses.
Mental Motivation
- Remember why you are doing this.
- Acquiring that strong sense of self-pride and being able to look people in the eye.
- There will never be a day where porn will leave you happy and fulfilled.
- Remember how shitty you feel right after you fap.
- Remember that as your pleasure centres rewire you will start enjoying the experiences of your life more vividly.
- If you fap then you are training yourself to be mediocre.
- If you fap then prepare to lose your manliness.
- When you fap then your sex life is watching other people fuck. This trains your brain to be a beta male.
- If you fap you will numb yourself to your life (your only life) and you will never have a hope of completing yourself.
- A fraction of the women in porn are leading abused lives. You don ‘t want to contribute to the harm of another person.
- Porn and fapping makes you look at woman in the wrong ways. You don’t want to be that guy.
- People can sense you are a beta male when you fap. They can sense it.
- When you don’t fap you will become more alpha. Alpha doesn’t mean
aggressive douchebag, I know buddhist monks and lay meditators who are
very alpha and very good people at the same time. - Don’t do nofap to get a women in your bed, do it for yourself.
- Remember that if if you don’t have ED you will eventually get it.
- Remember that if you have ED then nofap will cure it (if there are no underlying medical issues).
- You will have the freedom of not worrying about your browser history.
- You will have the freedom of not having that second, hidden, fappy personality.
- You will have a more sensitive and normal genital response (i.e. no more death grip/death schlick syndrome).
Improve Your Commitment
- Acknowledge to yourself that you have a problem, an addiction even.
- Make a public commitment to stop fapping (for most of us this is an
anonymous but public commitment like here on nofap, for some it could be
a trusted buddy or your SO). - if you have an accountability partner, call or text them when you are surging.
- Mark out your nofap days on a calendar (‘x’ out each day with a
coloured marker, if you relapse then ‘x’ out each subsequent day of your
new streak using a different coloured marker). It doesn’t have to be
paper, I use my iPad calendar. - … but remember that every day is Day 1 no matter how high your counter is.
- Also post your progress on nofap every so often. Post daily if you are going through a rough patch.
- “Low fap” does not work, cold turkey is the best way to go.
- Go to nofap and help others.
- Meditation.
- Identify your triggers (stress, anxiety, boredom, some kind of perceived failure) and realize that a fap session will not help.
Tricks of Last Resort
- Cold showers.
- If cold showers are too traumatic for you then wash your unit with a
cold face cloth until the urge passes. Washing your face in cold water
may also work. - If you are not doing hard mode then get your woman or man to “relieve” your tension.
This post is only about Phase I of nofap. Phase II of nofap is about living for purpose, not pleasure.
Finally
- Fall down. Get up.
- Fall down. Get up.
- Fall down. Get up.
- Fall down. Get up.
- Fall down. Get up. Stay up. Help others.
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