ED Recovery Stories 2

ED Recovery Stories 2

ED Recovery Stories 2 is part of an 8 page series containing shorter accounts.

For longer, more detailed ED accounts see Rebooting Accounts and External Rebooting Blogs & Threads

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Do it. The thing in my pants won’t go down from holding hands with my girlfriend. Link to his blog

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The link between porn and ED couldn’t me be clearer for me. I’d follow this cycle: Stop enjoying sex and even masturbating to porn (but do it anyway) -> give up porn -> get better erections and more pleasure out of masturbation and sex -> think I’m cured -> go back to porn -> go to step 1During the bad times, even when I did manage to get it up for a real woman, that sensation just wasn’t there. I wasn’t enjoying it, just doing it because I though it it would help to get me back on track. Now I can see that the opposite is needed: give up all orgasm for a while, re-balance, and take the psychological pressure off myself.

Re: Wondering about the severity from others experiences of PIED

I think that it’s not that serious. I suggest a hard mode reboot but it’s up to you. Before I started I couldn’t get hard to real life stuff but now I’m two months in and I get pretty hard pretty fast.

Good luck!

Day 17: PIED Cured

I seem to be a fully functioning human who is able to have intercourse with other humans.

Thank you, NoFap.

I’m thankful for my erections

I’m thankful that I get erections so often now. I remember a year ago when I masturbated every day, I would almost never have morning wood and many days it was hard to get an erection even when I saw a hot girl.

Nowadays, I get morning wood damn near every day. I get erections when I see a hot girl. It’s not the erections that are the problem. It’s the thoughts that come into your mind. The thoughts are what lead you down the wrong path.

I personally am having the same issues of “rewiring” my brain to “real woman” circumstances. If I knew I was desensitizing my brain I would have not started this porn/masturbation behavior. When I attempted to have sex with a real woman, I had ED. No response, just frustration. The most embarrassing thing was she was aggressive and attractive, which I seek out in porn images. I have started the “reboot” process with success. First, terminate the porn even situational sexual programs on TV. Next, exercise vigorously to pump blood throughout your system. If you have to masturbate, use a real woman to arouse yourself, not porn. Slowly, erections will come back. This has been working with me.

Successful intercourse with a new girlfriend

OK, so this is awesome. My girlfriend slept over and… we had successful intercourse. Although my erection wasn’t as solid as it should/could be, it was enjoyable. Strangely I didn’t last that long, but did manage a second time. She enjoyed it too, although I can still do a lot better.

The feeling of relief is immense. The past year I’ve had so many difficult moments and depressed feelings. But I’ve found so much encouragement here. And once I started improving and kicking the habit, I felt more optimistic. So this is it. Everything I’ve been fighting for. The thought of PMO’ing now just seems like a big joke. I’m curious to see how watching no P at all, for an extended period of time, will further affect my sex life.

You might see fast improvements in ED but DE may linger

Hi guys,

I am really excited about my journey so far. Now I have seen real improvement in my ability to get it up and keep it up since quitting porn.

I realized that giving up “false” sex (porn) is so worth it when I could really satisfy my gf. Keep that in mind, guys, when you are tempted.

However, DE hasn’t gone away and I know that she feels insecure at her perceived inadequacy of not getting me to orgasm. I feel bad that she feels insecure/bad about that. So I reassured her that it’s not her and told her I feel insecure about it as well and that “we’ll get there”. tough call….

I really think this is a much bigger problem than people think. More and more young men are going to their doctors about ED, and I’m almost positive porn addiction is the reason. I have never seen so many different ads and commercials for male enhancement products as I see now, so obviously there is something going on and no one wants to talk about it because it is an embarrassing problem, especially for young men. This definitely needs to be studied more by science. I hate pornography and what it has done to me!

Thank god I’m in my early 30s and porn to me is a fairly recent thing. I didn’t have an addiction problem growing up and in high school in the early 90s because I didn’t have regular access to the Internet.

I don’t know how kids today can cope. They are getting hit so early. Poor overstimulated young guys! I would say my little problem is maybe a year and a half old. Before then it was only occasional porn viewing mixed sporadically with real sex. I never got too extreme in porn viewing either—just the normal hard core stuff but never weird crap. It was more of a habbit/something to do after a hard break-up with an ex g/f. Had I known the consequences (ED) of such frequent porn viewing I never would have done it in the first place. After all what’s more important to a man than his ego/manhood? I will not allow anything to put that in jeopardy. Now that I know the consequences, I have completely stopped without hesitation of going back.

I started nofap for iron-grip syndrome. After 75 days, it payed off. I’m almost to 90, but I plan to go a year. Ask me any questions you have 🙂

I’ve had problems with sensation between my girlfriend and I for the better of 5 years. When fapping, I would climax and still did up until nofap fairly quickly (5-20) minutes. I was white-knuckling though. That led to me never climaxing from a handjibber, blowjay, or even her doing the motions during sexy time. No matter what I did, I just couldn’t do it. It seemed to slip farther away from me as time went on due to performance anxiety. However, 75 days into nofap, being away from porn allowed me to appreciate my girlfriend more. I didn’t need to see these raunchy scenes to stimulate me. I needed my girlfriend to just be near me.

I’m ashamed to say it, but it’s like porn made me less attracted physically to my girlfriend. My girlfriend is very attractive, but when I was fapping, there was these women and men interracting together. When it’s just you and your girlfriend, you can’t really see much unless you make a point to. After nofap and noporn, I am turned on by her just being with me. Another thing that I feel led to my loss of sensation is when climaxing, I would just grab my penis very tightly. The ejaculate would stay in my urethra. I sometimes wondered about health concerns from doing this, but I guess after having done it for the better part of 10 years, I think I would have seen some thing by now (stupid, I know.)

Anyways after 75 days, I was able to climax at the will of the girlfriend. It’s a big ego-boost for her and myself. Cheers and thanks!

TL;DR I couldn’t climax from oral or manual stimulation from my GF. nofap taught my to appreciate her and reach my goal.

You don’t even realize it’s a problem until the temporary ED hits you literally out of nowhere. That’s why the word needs to get out. I’m well on the road to recovery now—already feeling better after a few short weeks. I plan to return back to my studly ways very soon. Diet, excercize and will power win the day.

It took me about 3 weeks to return to full power. What a relief! Actually I think I’m much better now than I was before. I last longer and am much more interested in foreplay and other things. Maybe that comes with age who knows. I consider myself lucky. However I am curious to see if there is a difference between someone in their early-mid 30s like me who only viewed porn heavily for a year or so versus someone who started much younger.

Day 68- Erections are improving

Hi all,

Day 68 and the improvements I have seen thus far are:

  • Erections when speaking to a girl and upon touch
  • Morning wood most mornings
  • confidence that no fap is working
  • My penis has a healthy blood flow

Looking forward to the next stage of this. One of the best decisions I have made in my life. Looking forward to the future! Remember 90 days is just the beginning of a lifetime journey!

That’s certainly one of the major reasons why I started. As I’ve gone on, I’ve found the mental and emotional aspects to be just as important.

Also, even though it’s only been twenty days, I’m delighted with the ED recovery I’ve made so far. My erections are significantly stronger at this point. Not quite ‘fully healed’, but much better. Link

I was somewhat surprised to recently read a forum thread (actually quite a few), where guys were discussing their struggles with this (porn/ED), simply from a practical perspective. Mostly young guys, 20s or so, can’t get it up anymore with a real girl, and they all relate having a serious porn/masturbation habit. Guys will never openly discuss this with friends, co-workers, for fear of getting laughed out of town. But when someone tells their story on a health forum and there are 50, 100 replies from other guys who struggle with the same thing….This is for real.

 The other night I was watching a program about prostitutes; I recognized some of the girls from porn movies. But anyway, they were speaking at one point that they could tell who the chronic porn masturbators were, because nothing they could do could “inspire” the man to get it up. Think about it, even girls professionally trained in fulfilling male sex fantasy are unable to match the stimulation of pornography, including some girls who are actually in pornography. “Normal” women who just want our affections don’t stand a chance.

I haven’t really written as much as I used to write here in my time of desperation. I’m just writing to give a brief update, to cheer people up and to say that I haven’t really forgotten about this warm community.Things have been great and my girl and I have been feeling happy. Sex has been regular, good and lots, so I feel happy. I am very sexual, which is why dealing with this issue was enormously important to me. I just wanted to say that everyone here should stick with the [rebooting] plan because it is totally worth it and it is absolutely possible to recover.

Sex is in our genes and, if we take care of ourselves well, I believe it should work out well. Taking care of ourselves starts with quitting pornography, reducing masturbation, and focusing on the meaningful things in life – like finding someone to make happy and be happy with. I’m sure it also involves eating well, exercising, being focused on something we find worthy, and generally being very positive about our lives.

Some time ago I had started thinking that sex was a thing that had been taken away from me for some reason – that’s how desperate I felt. Today it seems so natural and normal.Everyone here should have no doubts in the ability to have an erection. The real focus should be on giving our best to make someone happy; the erections will come.

I haven’t seen any porn in more than 6 months now and I have no desire whatsoever to look at it. At this point, the idea of me watching other people copulating on a screen while stroking my penis just seems laughable. There is a real woman there for me – as I am sure there is a partner for everyone – wanting attention. Don’t look at porn, but give the attention to someone who wants to love you. When you don’t look at porn you penis will feel more alive, natural and excitable – so you’ll be able to give that attention.

I know many out there are concerned whether their penises work. At least for me things didn’t start from the penis. Spontaneous erections might be a sign, but I’m not sure if they are a real sign. You don’t have to walk around with a boner in order to feel things will work out. Last week, for example, I hadn’t seen my girlfriend for a couple of days. I had no spontaneous erections during that time. Given my old troubles, I even worried a bit… Was I losing it again? But when I saw her everything was just fine.

Her touch and smell totally turned me on and the penis worked. So things will work out, when the right time comes, even if you don’t have a constant boner (spontaneous erections). But for things to work out, the mind needs to be clear and the brain chemistry needs to be balanced. Which is why stopping porn and self-induced stimulation is key, I believe.Good luck to everyone, and stay strong! Longer rebooting account, predating this post

[10 days after quitting porn] I got hard during foreplay, just hugging and kissing, which felt very natural. That was never happening before I quit looking at porn. Score. I also had no trouble maintaining an erection during oral sex, which was a problem with this partner before I cut out the porn. In short, no erection issues to speak of. I did get a little softer at times, but it was fairly easy to get the erection back.

25 days – My ED got so bad from porn when I was with girls the only way I could really get it up was thinking about porn movies. Now, I have noticed that my morning wood is extremely hard for a long time which is nice, and there are times when my libido surges. I am planning on never watching porn again.

32 days – Age 22. Currently I have the best night time erections I have ever had, though if I wake up and need to go the bathroom I’m like waiting 15 minutes to wait for it to go down. I hope my story helps other people out there.

Week 12 – I’m actually totally impressed how HUGE I get. It’s been kinda hard to ignore. I mean, my erections are ROCK HARD and ENORMOUS. I remember asking other guys here who went before me about when they noticed the return of their full erections – well, I think I got mine back.

Things began when I found YourBrainonPorn around 6-7 weeks ago. I read many things that sounded familiar and finally came to the conclusion that I had a problem. I started viewing porn when I was 11. I’m 26 now. It started off innocently, but I became hooked and advanced to extreme fetishes (trans porn causing me the most distress since I identify as straight). For over a decade, porn was my sole source of sexual satisfaction. I had no desire to meet women or have actual sex.

When I did begin having sex in my early 20s, driven to do so out of self-embarrassment more than anything, it was disappointing. I had to fantasize about porn to become aroused. In fact I was so accustomed to masturbating with a stiff grip that my penis was numb to the feel of a vagina. I was unable to reach orgasm and I lost my erection easily. Over the next few years, I began to realize that I may need to cut back on masturbation and porn if I wanted to enjoy sex, but I was still in doubt over whether or not it was a problem and never stayed away from it consistently.

When I found YourBrainonPorn, I decided to stop viewing porn. I continued to masturbate until I realized that I could not keep the fetish porn fantasies out of my head during masturbation. I realized that this was impeding recovery, so I stopped masturbating as well after nearly 3 weeks of no porn. A week later, I had sex with a girl and felt more aroused than ever before. My erection was extremely firm and I came very quickly. I felt great.

I lasted for another 5 days until I dropped my guard down and figured that masturbating without fantasies shouldn’t be a problem. So I went through with it and didn’t feel too guilty. The next day, I stumbled across a few pictures of women in lingerie. I searched for more and ended up falling into a 5 day porn binge. During those 5 days I probably spent 40 hours viewing porn. I felt horrible throughout, but I could not stop. I even tried putting the modem outside. But I ended up retrieving it and reconnecting it to view more porn. I was completely shocked.

Prior to the relapse, I truly thought I was done with porn. It seemed too easy. I even doubted that I had any sort of addiction. Eventually, I broke out of this binge. The 1st day was incredibly difficult, but it has once again become easier and easier. I’m at two weeks today. I did have sex a few days ago with a girl I never had sex with before. I masturbated beforehand because I was paranoid about premature ejaculation. Then I had sex with her hours afterwards and still ended up reaching orgasm within 5-6 minutes.

While I would like to be able to last longer, it still feels great to be aroused, erect, and able to perform normally in the bedroom. And, I also noticed that my refractory period was shorter than I ever remember it being. I was erect again in less than 10 minutes compared to hours when I masturbated to porn once or twice per day.

I think all of these effects clearly show the benefits for those of you with serious ED problems. Following the sexual encounter, I stayed on my toes to avoid a relapse due to the chaser effect after orgasm.

[After a reboot of about 4 months] I just spent another night of great fun and intensity. Guys, it’s all worth it. All that waiting and self-restraint, the learning of new positive habits. It’s all worth it. A couple of months ago I was going crazy and I was super scared. No more. Erections all the time now. You don’t even have to think sex thoughts! When your brain has recovered, it will just command your penis in the right direction: upwards. Guys, once you have sex, you’ll forget that you ever had this issue. To have sex try to stop the porn and the masturbation. This is the right way to recovery.

[Age 53] So today I was ready to post and tell you that I am 30 days without PMO. But I failed. I’m 30 days no PM. Are you ready for this? Are you sitting down? Because last night I had sex with my wife for the first time since starting this program of no PMO. It was not planned. She initiated it. And get this … drum roll please … no ED problems!!!

If this were Christmas time I would say that it was a “Christmas miracle!” At first I did not get an erection. But after reading all that I had read about karezza, I thought to myself, “If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t it doesn’t.” I decided to take my time, enjoy my wife’s embrace, kisses, etc. I tried to remember as much as I could about Karezza and I think it helped. But I did orgasm. So did she. And my erection did not go limp at all. It stayed firm and hard. Over the last year, this never happened.

The good news too: Instead of 10 minutes of “Wham and Bam” … our session of love last about 45-50 minutes. This was by far the best sex I have had in the last 12 months. At the end, my wife asked me, “What got into you?” That is when I told her about karezza sex. She wants to read about now herself. Yeah!!

For me personally, I can clearly see how Internet porn has warped my view of real, god-given, genuine sex and love between a man and a woman. Even before last nights great sex with my spouse, even if we had not had sex, I was really starting to feel so much better about myself as a person. I got more work done. I spent more time with my wife, doing things with her around the house – not wanting or looking forward to when can I go to the computer and watch porn. Dropping porn from your life is so freeing!!! These past 30 days have been challenging, but also very educational and very freeing.

[After a reboot of two months] History: I’ve never liked using condoms – frequently never got around to sex because I’d lose erection even thinking about having to get one out and use it. Frequently lost erection putting the condom on. Frequently lost erection once inside.Last night: Stiff 🙂 Stayed as stiff while getting condom out, putting condom on, while starting sex and finding we needed lubrication, through getting the lubrication, putting the lubrication on, having sex. All with exemplary stiffness 🙂

My erection was just so natural, and correlated with being turned on, and felt so right, that somehow I just knew that it would stay with me through the condom shenanigans.And the sex felt as great as sex used to without a condom. … Orgasm itself very strong and pleasurable. None of the things I worried about happened: I was able to keep from coming for a perfectly acceptable length of time – in fact, I didn’t even really think about it, it just seemed like a normal, healthy sexual interaction. When I did come, my head didn’t explode and I didn’t rupture any blood vessels anywhere, and I didn’t bellow ‘8 FUCKING WEEKS!!’ in her ear like I thought I might. In fact, it was just beautiful, intimate, very pleasurable sex 🙂

Today is the fourth week mark of no PM and two O’s. Yesterday I had sex with my girlfriend for the second time during this process. The improvements were marked. No manual stimulation was needed and I had my old staying power back too. Good hour of intimacy. Felt pretty turned on and was decently firm down below, but could be better. Still progressing. Anyone out there with doubts just stay the path.

[Day 90+ no PM: This man hadn’t had sex in ages and thought he was “broken.” After a long reboot, he and his wife went on vacation.] I had no issues obtaining an erection with my wife for 4 nights in a row. Every time as soon as I felt her, it was lift-off time. I will say on the the 2nd night (day 93), I was at quarter mast, but that quickly changed, and I actually only lasted 30 seconds, which was a surprise. This morning’s encounter was after coming home from vacation. I drank quite a bit last night and couldn’t believe I was able, but no problems.So since I’ve had 4 straight nights of success, I believe I’m cured. I think my problem was a mixture of performance anxiety and masturbation addiction or masturbation patterns.

Basically focusing on my wife is a turn-on [instead of thinking about fantasy]. She actually reports she didn’t have any discomfort during these 4 nights which is an improvement. Since this was something on my mind during recovery, and a lot of people have concern about it let me report the following about libido: I actually felt zero life down there on the night before I had intercourse first. It wasn’t until I started cuddling with my wife, that life emerged. So if you feel like there is no libido or life down there, it really can spring up out of nowhere.

[Day 65] Yes my erections are great. I have full erections during morning wood or if I have a fantasy. Before quitting porn, I never was this hard or full, definitely not. So there definitely was a positive increase in erection size, and fullness. (age 24)

 [Day 34] Like every man whose story I have read here, I have grave doubts that I will ever heal or be able to function sexually. I do have to say that recently morning erections have been strong quite often, harder than I can ever remember them, erect in a 45 degree angle up relative to my body, rock solid. So that is good news.

My friend has a girlfriend, and has struggled to gain the confidence to engage sexually with her, so I thought I’d give him a few tips. A few of my friends are aware of my abstinence from porn and masturbation as I’m an open guy and I have no issues telling them about personal issues. I obviously haven’t gone into detail about the reasoning behind it, but they are aware I have a bit of knowledge on the subject.

Anyway, this friend of mine obviously wasn’t as intertwined with porn and masturbation as I was, however he was a regular user and was experiencing erection difficulties with his girlfriend. I told him to lay off the porn and masturbation for a week, and directed him to Gary’s video showing the effects of porn and masturbation on the brain. I think this gave him a real wake up call. He abstained for 9 days and had sex with his girlfriend after this period. Now, he has no erection issues with his girlfriend, and has told me that he feels much more confident regarding sexual contact. I just though I’d share this story as it showed a positive recovery. Although it was on a much smaller scale to many of us on here, it is a recovery nonetheless.

[May, or may not, be porn related, but this woman’s post is inspiring nevertheless.] Our sexual relationship has changed from the very beginning to now. When we first met (he was 51 and I was 49), it had been about 11 months since he had been with someone sexually. As he told me, he had gotten to know himself really well over those months, lol.

Our first experiences together were a little unnerving for him, I’m sure, because his erection was not always to be counted upon. He even went so far as to have his testosterone levels checked, just to be sure. When all that checked out just fine, he would just say, “Remember, I’m old” ha! And I assumed this was what sex in your later years was like and I would just have to deal with it, not take it personally, etc.

But we very quickly started learning about karezza and tantra and now the man is like a teenager (but much better, because he has staying power–I’m sitting here typing this after having spent 5 out of the last 20 hours engaged in karezza lovemaking–who knew it could ever be this good??). It’s hard to imagine back to those early days because they seem so foreign to me now

You have DE (Delayed Ejaculation) and I have the same problem as well. Inability to reach orgasm during sex was one of several reasons why I ended up searching Google and discovering YBOP and NoFap. (LINK to thread)

I went about 90 days without doing any PMO then I met a girl. We had sex a few times but I still had problems but then on day 98 I managed to cum. Since then I can reach orgasm about a in ever 4 times that I have sex and the other 3 times I go soft during sex. I last quite a while before I go soft though and she is very happy with the whole thing. The times where I do go soft I can get hard again 15 mins later and have sex again.

This is a massive difference to how I was 118 days ago where sometimes I couldn’t even get an erection and if I did I would never cum during sex. It was highly frustrating. Frustrating is an understatement; It was upsetting.

I have been wondering if I have started having sex too soon in to my reboot cycle because I am defiantly not fully healed (and neither are you) but I am actually quite happy so I’m gonna carry on and see where things go from here 🙂

IAmAnon-50 days

I don’t get superpowers or anything like that.

What it does for me is guarantee I’ll stay hard even if the sex is mediocre. And I’m better in bad.

Achievement unlocked: satisfying sexual encounter with no ED or DE

 by GoldFingaaah

Last night I had a great time with a girl I last saw a few years ago. For the sake of propriety I won’t go into details but suffice to say everything went super well!

Prior to this I had been dating a different girl for a few weeks. She’s been super great and understanding but I just had terrible, mortifying ED with her. The last few times I was able to keep it up better but neither of us came. Also we felt sort of cool towards each other, like we weren’t sure we liked each other a whole lot.

Last night was so different, and I wonder how much of it was due to the much greater emotional connection I felt to this other girl. Obviously nofap deserves the lion’s share of the credit, though.

Nofap history: one 67-day streak earlier this summer when I wasn’t dating, then a 10-day streak immediately preceding my current streak.

Just made this post to let the guys suffering from ED know: it does get better!!

Better erections already (~25 days)

submitted 13 hoursago by NostawS27 days

This is pretty cool, my erections are a lot fuller and stronger and it can stay hard without me ‘forcing’ it to be hard, if you get what I mean. Usually I have to sort of tense my penis in order to maintain the erection and maintain the blood flow, even then though the erection would still probably only be around 75% hard.

Now I can get hard and it stays hard on its own, it’s possible to stroke it even though it’s ‘relaxed’ and my muscles aren’t tensed.

Pretty cool, although some days it isn’t that good (sometimes it’s like it used t be) but it’s clearly progress and motivating me to keep going. I’m 21 years old if that’s at all relevant.

Incredible Sex After Only One Week of NoFap! Good news for those with ED issues.

So I’m 46 and married– not exactly in what I think is the majority of guys on here who is still 18-24 and in his “sexual prime.” I’ve been PMO’ing pretty heavily for the past 3 years, and managed to take 7 days off from it, thanks to the support I’ve gotten from this community. During that time, I’ve watched my sexual ability diminish significantly, and ED issues were pretty much standard. I could have sex, but quite frankly it sucked, and my dick was only 3/4 hard, far from the rock hard wood I had when I was younger.

On day 7 (yesterday) I relapsed, so I turned in my badge and I’m day one again. However, last night was New Years and my girl wanted it.

I CAN’T BELIEVE THE DIFFERENCE, AFTER EVEN ONLY A WEEK.

I honestly felt “normal” again, with a raging hard boner as soon as she kissed me. My dick didn’t deflate as soon as she stopped touching it, or as soon as I stopped thrusting, I didn’t have to worry about it AT ALL. There was one moment where we got into a kinda awkward position where it went down just a bit for a second, but got right back into it and got right back into it and rock hard again.

AND I’M ONLY ONE WEEK IN– AND I relapsed yesterday.

If I was in before, I’m even more in now. This works. My dick is healing already. Exactly what I hoped for.

TL/DR: I had my first sexual encounter a week after I started NOFAP and it was frickin’ awesome! Even though I relapsed yesterday on Day 7, My ED issues were nowhere to be found, and I had a rock hard boner the entire way. Heck yah!

I have a new addiction.

Sex with my wife. After 30 days it felt so damn good, way better than a 1 week abstention. The sensitivity that I lost, I thought from age, was back. I had to switch positions a lot or I’d have finished way too quick. I even put a condom on towards the end, which is usually a deflating event. She had a great time too. I was harder than usual. I was a bit blue on no fap, but after seeing these results I am invigorated.

First sex since quitting–50 days

Roughly 50 days in, had sex for the first time since starting nofap last night. Stayed erect, was legitimately interested and lasted much longer. Still have a ways to go, but I am pretty psyched thus far.

For me, watching porn so often, getting more extreme over time, and masturbating every day caused me to not be able to get hard when I got my first real girlfriend and first started having sex. However, now that I’ve been with her for awhile, we have sex all the time and it’s fantastic. I never watch porn or fap because I don’t need it. Once you get past the allure of porn, you see how fantastic real sex can be.

Seriously, it’s fucking great. Quit porn and find a girlfriend/boyfriend (if you can). http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/1956bs/eli5_why_porn_is_bad_for_me/

This nofap works! Seriously. 2 weeks I’m cured!

Thanks to this site and yourbrainonporn.com I’m back, and loving it. I’m going out into the world now to basically evangelise nofapping 🙂

The story:

  • Mid forties guy, using porn for decades, but might be one of those ‘lucky’ guys who started with magazine because the internet didn’t exist back then. Reading the material here and elsewhere this seems to make a difference to the length of time required for a reboot
  • Why did I try rebooting? Well, frankly, I was startled into seeking help. Sudden onset ED and DE. I didn’t realise how bad it was because I got divorced and didn’t see any women for a number of years after (depression). When I finally found a lovely lady to share my bed I just couldn’t perform … nothing, nada. Yikes! She was pretty upset and couldn’t understand what the problem was. … neither could I.
  • Before I stumbled onto this site and yourbrainonporn.com I went straight to the doctor for the ED issues. Walked out of there happy with a prescription for viagra. Tried it immediately, using porn (!!!) and was happy with the result. Next opportunity with a lovely lady, I was anxious but hopeful. Yep, viagra works, felt good. But it was then I realised I also had DE. For gods sakes! Another seriously pissed off and disappointed lady friend.
  • Hit the nofap sites and a really useful series on Youtube. The indicators were all there. My Doc said I was healthy, physically, and I knew the machinery worked because with hard core porn everything was fine. Bing! Light globe goes on when I start reading the sites.
  • Something had to change. So, holidays with a lady friend of mine in 3 weeks at the time I started my reboot. I was pretty worried as 3 weeks just didn’t seem long enough given much thats been written. Still, better to make a start.
  • Didn’t realise how much my porn habit had got out of control until I started by first ever reboot 2 weeks ago. The first week was unbearable. Whilst I wasn’t walking around with a woody (ED) I was unbearably horny. The urge to masturbate was almost uncontrollable. In fact, I wouldn’t have been able to control it, it was that strong, but I had read here that if it gets to this point then use your ‘other’ hand (if one must – better not to at all). So, determined not to use or look at porn, I tried for some manual relief, really was aiming at edging. Tried it seriously twice in the two weeks – edging is the word, I had DE too so I couldn’t orgasm (without porn) and was simply not going to use porn no matter what. I’d deleted all my downloads and wasn’t going there. Didn’t help the feelings but I had to try something. I’d recommend folks don’t do this if they are in any way able to control themselves.
  • During the start of the second week I seemed to be leaking semen from my penis. A really weird sensation actually. It wasn’t urine, was definitely pre-cum. This stayed with me right through to the end of the second week and probably only ended for reasons I’ll write up in a moment
  • By the start of the second week I was noticing ladies everywhere. This is going to sound weird for anyone not suffering this porn problem, but you sort of don’t notice girls after a while – I guess your brain is getting all it wants and needs elsewhere. Anyway, started really noticing the girls, and getting pretty darn interested in finding inventive ways of being with them 🙂 Interestingly, this desire to meet and greet the girls also spurred me into a gym kick that I’ve badly needed for years but never had the energy or inclination to do. In just two weeks I’ve shed nearly 20lbs and started getting muscle definition back. This doesn’t matter I suspect for the nofap thing, but its an indication to me that fapping can simply sap your manhood out of you.
  • So, two weeks and 2 days after my reboot began, an opportunity with a lovely lady arises. I’m pretty darn anxious frankly, as you could well imagine – with both ED and DE I was winding myself up for another failure. Took some viagra, though only 25mg (normal high level dose is 100mg) just to help me along. Well, the viagra took care of the ED for the most part … had a couple of issues, probably due to overwhelming nervous anxiety, but ultimately ok. Then the familiar pattern .. DE … yikes! So disappointed … but no some fumbling about and a very caring lady later and ultimately, success. I was elated, and so was she!
  • A few days after this success story another opportunity to test the gains made. Still anxious, due to some difficulty the first time. But I can now report, back to full function. Sensitivity is back, and its great, god knows how I didn’t notice this dropping off previously. If anything I now have a case of PE hehehe hahaha, but I’ll take that any day over DE.
  • My guess is that quite soon I’ll have the confidence to drop the viagra completely.

So thats it folks. Another convert. I’ll never watch porn again under any circumstances. Its just not worth it. There is enough soft porn out there in the media anyway, the hard core stuff just doesn’t do my brain any favours.

Its so wonderful to be able to enjoy sex with women again.

Day 125 no Porn / Day 28 no Masturbation / Day 21 no Orgasm

So still in a massive flat line & still have bad ED. Can get hard from gentle stroking or oral but do not get an erection yet when making out with girls or just the anticipation of sex, my goal is to be able to get an erection just from gentle touch, kissing, cuddling etc. Basically be hard before sex and stay hard throughout foreplay/sex

So thats pretty much were i am after 4 months no porn. Kind of discouraging for new people reading it but it is a harsh reality some of us need to face, You may need longer then 90 days if your young + ED.

More positively 4 months ago i could only get an 80% erection when watching porn, now i get 100% hard without porn from stimulation so its getting there.

Likely will need another 4-6 months i think for my sex drive and arousal with women to return.

Reboot & Rewire.

Sebs9500 

Ok so I started watching porn when I was around 12-13 but it didn’t get bad until I turned 15 I think. I started fapping every day 2 or 3 times with porn. I lost my virginity when I was 16. It was terrible.. I got hard for about 2 minutes and then my penis just died on me. It took me around 5 other girls to realize that I had a problem. So now I’m 18 and I’m 35 days in of no fap! I’ve been with this girl for 3 months now. Last night we go pretty physical. We didn’t have sex, it was more of making out and grinding. I was surprised on how I was able to stay hard for so long.

It was unreal, I felt like I was dreaming!! So yeah to this day no fap has seriously changed my life in a good way. And I’m really happy about that! I’m making this a lifestyle, fuck born and all that bullshit. I feel better as a whole! So yeah hopefully I’m undergoing a good reboot, im planning on doing the 90+ day and then just keep doing it but I won’t be keeping track.

I started out NoFap 34 days ago with a serious ED problem – very weak erections, inability to orgasm. I went cold turkey hard mode – no porn, no edging, no sex. And I’ve been flatlining for about 3 weeks – absolutely no sign of an erection during this period.

Yesterday I unexpectedly had an opportunity to have sex with a former girlfriend. I was a bit apprehensive, but in fact it went well. I lasted over an hour, with a couple of short pauses, and the erection was hard enough for me to have a very strong orgasm in the natural way. Definitely not 100% recovery, but way better than any time in the past 3 years.

Depending on how early in life you started on porn, the reboot might take anywhere from 2-8 months, but it will fix the problem. Just be patient, and be very strict about porn and edging. Good luck and stay strong.

Rewired, Reborn, Rebooted- Whatever you wanna call it, the sun shines again!!

Amazing to think that after just two weeks of no PMO and 23 years of of “Purity” I had sex multiple times this weekend with a rock hard erection. Having felt like my penis was literally broken for the past few years I felt like it could take years to get it back in check. Nope just little time off from PMO. I should say though that I’ve been been struggling with the addiction for about two years now and have been gradually cutting my use. Last time I PMO’s about two weeks ago. But I never plan on going back because that shit sucks compared to sex. You wanna know the real secret? I tell you but its going to cost you. Your going to have to give up your time on the computer and discontinue your relationship with your hand and your willy and go live life.

First thing, Start a journal and write in it everyday at first it will be hard but soon you’ll enjoy.

Second, learn what you love (truly love I should say); music, movies, reading, writing, roller blading, golf, basketball, traveling, mountain biking, etc. and go do it.

Third, forget libido enhancing supplements, or that supplements for that matter cause you don’t need them, (if your under 40 with no pre-existing medical conditions) and lastly buy enough condoms for all the sex your having, had to go out at five in the morning to buy condoms at CVS. Kind of a bummer.

Thats its boys, Don’t worry about a thing cause your willy will learn how to sing. Bro23 signing off and checking out. Good luck out there guys and see you at the bars! P.S Not only does not engaging in PMO fix your willy it also makes you have eye sex with every hot girl you see.

Energy goes up, vitality goes up and general love of life increases. This whole no PMO thing must not be boloney after all! B.T.W- Forget about the days not PMOing, it might be hard to take but i got a feeling it doesn’t matter if its been a week or two years you’ll know when your back.  “Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.” – William Feather

60 day streak, partial success

Last night I had sex, with a condom, with a 100% hard erection for what felt like 7-10 minutes. (I purposely didn’t orgasm, am sticking to no O until I feel rebooted)I am 27 years old, and this is the first time I’ve done that. In the past, I’ve either been not hard, or I’ve come within ~30 seconds of entry, or both.This felt amazing.             I started a year ago. 60 days was my longest streak. Then stress and busyness made me go back to MO’ing, and to dabble in sex with escorts. Both were bad ideas, and I don’t recommend them.

I’ve since been convinced that a long O free streak is necessary for guys in my position. I started porn when I was in grade 9. Started using it more in 3rd year university (age 20), when I got my own room. It was then I started to noticed erection problems. First had sex at 22, and had ED.

I’m not healed yet. While kissing and cuddling, I had no erection. Lying beside her, I touched myself a bit and felt things start moving. I showed her, and she touched me and made me 100% hard pretty fast.

But ideally, the sexual context should have made me hard. I’ll consider myself healed when I can get a 100% erection without doing anything myself.

This is progress though. Major, major progress. Long sex, full erection, and no PE. Very happy. Just stick with it guys.

p.s. Here’s my journal. How do we add this to our signatures?

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=5989

NoFap cured my ED

Just to add to the anecdotal evidence: I’d been struggling with ED the last couple of years. Most of the times I had sex was under the influence, so I attributed it to the alcohol. I didn’t realize it was a problem until I ended up in bed with a girl I was genuinely interested in, sober, and couldn’t get it up. I felt like the biggest looser. It was then that I began understanding and accepting that this was a problem. Long story short, I eventually tried NoFap and ever since I’ve been getting the kind of erections I remember from years ago. It means the world to me. So here’s to you!

I have read your story.

That word “Omegle” I really had to google.

From this day I will hope you learn to know your girlfriend and start to love her deeply and that you will fall in love with her for many years. The “fall in love feeling” can last for many years and my grand grand father told that he was in love with my grand grand mother all the time during their 70 years of marriage. That is probably also why they lived a long life, while LOVE is really the stuff that gives a good life.

For me (more than 30 years older than you) it is good to read that an 18-year-old also can get ED. 92 days ago I was thinking that ED was something I had to accept in my age. But now, after 91 days of nofap/noporn (and allmost nosex) I am quite optimistic. This morning I had a long lasting morning wood erection for about one hour while I was lying in bed and just enjoying it. And when I stood up I got an erection just when my balls where touching the kitchen desk which has a perfect hight for “edging”. He He, I was a bit afraid my wife should notice that while I was wearing sporting pants.

Personal: I have been married for many years and we have grown up children. But I have been masturbating since age 12 and at the most 10 times a day. The last years I have done pmo for hours every day. I am well educated and have allways been participating in sport and the health is good. But the last year I had to realize that I had got ED 100%. Started nofap immidiatly when I discovered the www.yourbrainonporn.com website 91 days ago.

You wanna read an ultimate success story? This IS the ultimate success story.

nfngnj

I guess it depends on what you mean by reboot.

My PIED mostly cleared up a couple of weeks ago after about 50 days (30 of it hard mode r/nofap). I’m still not completely fine but I’m getting better everyday.

I think of it as “rebooting”, as in my brain was all fracked up, I turned it “off” and 40 days later it started rebooting. The rebooting process has been going for about 3-4 weeks now.

Success

Great sex last night, the first since the start of my reboot 48 days ago.  No relapses.   Moreover this is the longest I have gone without MO release since puberty-30 years ago.

What a strange place this is.  My problem was in finishing too so, premature ejaculation,  not in staying sexually interested.   I hardly made it 30 seconds and pretty much lost any ability to control it even with the time honored tricks.   Even after I ‘finished’ I stayed hard long enough to finish her.  That would have never happened two months ago.   It is like I am learning sex all over again.  The control and the tricks and all that.  This is the best thing I have for myself in decades.

I have glanced at some porn and images over the last few weeks that would have triggered an arousal binge before and it takes focus and effort to get aroused by it for the most part.   Yet there is little hesitation of arousal with a real women.   Hard evidence showing that I have done a lot of rewiring.

I don’t know if this means that I have rewired fully but I would be happy if this is as good as it gets.  I am going to finish 90 days all P,M,and O abstinence, but right now I feel like following that right into nofap.  If I can get this from my wife even 3-4 times a month I don’t need this shit in my life at all and in particular, don’t want it.

Special thanks to Gary Wilson for championing this material and putting it out there for me to find.  I owe you big.

88 Day report

I’ve been on the pmo train a long time – 12 years with online porn but self abuse for years beforehand. Gone through a few flatlines and am in fact in one now as far as I know. I’m not completely fixed but have made tangible progress.

The deed took place today. Oral had feeling, almost too much. Piv had some feeling even though not working at full strength. O’d in under 8 minutes but I wasn’t timing it. Twas the first erection in like 10 days and required no effort and I had tried to mentally edge lately to no avail. I was a little nervous beforehand because of this but the stars aligned when needed. Naturally.

Things are looking up. Sensitivity is returning but maybe only half there. Recovery time could be better (once every 24 hours). Brain still not up to speed with excitement but todays event shows I’m on the mend.

I’m not an 18 year old stallion but I can’t complain, coming from the dark whole I was in before. I look forward to my progress in another 88 days.

I wondered this.

My boyfriend of over two years had erectile dysfunction when I met him. I discovered that at his zenith he would masturbate to pornography about 9 times per day.

After some discussion – and at the risk of me looking like a jealous girlfriend – I convinced him to pack it in. After a few months he was able to obtain an erection for intercourse. However he still occasionally turns to porn and he can only very, very occasionally (about 4 times in our relationship) orgasm during intercourse. To orgasm he needs to masturbate with an image at a distance.

This Ted Talk illustrates this problem.

Obviously this is not necessarily the writer’s problem, but considering the deal of discussion currently surrounding the connection between regular internet porn use and erectile/ sexual dysfunctions I find it strange that Pamela doesn’t mention it as a possibility.

It is probably, as you infer in your comment, that folks are very afraid of coming across as positively Victorian if they criticise or even question the pornocopia.

http://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/31507859

Just want to share my perspective on nofap and this sub real quick

I want to add this,

If you take nothing else from this sub, please stop watching porn. I stopped over 2 years ago after watching a TED talk about how men are overstimulated by porn and can’t get fully aroused with an actual woman when they have the opportunity. In truth I couldn’t get completely hard during sex and was always trying to imagine porn when with a girl. I was seriously worried what the fuck was wrong with me because I was in my early twenties when all of your shit is supposed to be working properly. I stopped watching porn and that problem was solved instantly.

Re: Successful reboot resulted in PE

Hi everyone!

I successfully rebooted (I had PIED) and now my erections are great but I have PE :S
Can you Anon tell us the rest of your experience after you wrote this post?

Thanks

PIED update: SO: “I think you were finally able to relax, and it was really …nice :)”

Background: I have battled on and off ED since I first began being sexually active like 10 yrs ago. I always attributed it to condoms, nerves, performance anxiety or whatever, but continued daily PMO. it has put strains on various relationships and generally sucked for both myself and my SO.

Anyway, I have noticed some good results physically since starting NoFap but last night after a solid 80 day streak I got some real good feedback with her saying those words. Since giving up PMO I am able to be present and in the moment more, and not worry about whats going right or wrong but just feel and experience the touch, warmth and feeling of another human being. No more searching my memory for various “moves” and sequences I’ve seen on pornhub and wondering if its now time to go from one position to the next. Instead of some performance where I play the role of some character in a porno, I can just be myself and enjoy the person next to me.

Keep it up fellow fapstronauts. I started this to get physical changes with ED, but I am realizing a change in my mentality, which has been even more rewarding. Whatever it is you are battling, change will happen if you keep working at it.

Porn induced ED, did you fix it?

Keepem

Yeah I have! I used to think I may be gay because of impotence with women. It was always a huge shame because porn lead me to believe men have to be hard and fast at all times. I got advice here that I should take things slow in the bed room and stop using porn asap (4hr/day addiction)

It didn’t come back immediately, and I failed many times. But slowly I started to get more erect during sex. After a year of stopping, I noticed that I could maintain an erection and it felt natural again. I didn’t have to desperately think of porn scenes to get hard anymore. Now I feel comfortable if I am erect or not, its not about pounding like in porn, but just a shared intimate experience and that’s the best of all

shortyafter

I think I’m around Day 20. It gets gradually better every single day. First I noticed I didn’t have to strain, or flex, my muscles to keep a full erection. Within the last few days, I’ve also noticed that it doesn’t take me like 30 minutes to ejaculate. I can ejaculate in 5 minutes of great sex. I get erections at more game things now. Now I get more frequent erections. I remember every single dream I have. I feel so much better. So, yeah it gets better every single day. Just don’t give up!

shortyafter

Yes getting rid of porn has helped me. I think you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself though, who says there is a way sex is “supposed” to go? And there are other ways to have children, you know, if worst comes to worst. I am working on relaxing and just enjoying the experience and this has also helped me.

seatint

Yes. Past a month my ED started getting better. I didn’t exactly have ED, but it would be kinda like I couldn’t be full mast with my wife, more like 75%, and I’d never ejaculate.

Now, even if I masturbate, sex with my wife is just fantastic, like it should be, and I’m a lot more intimate with her. Because I no longer have troubling thoughts and background anxiety over them.