Yankhani: Dopamine ndi mankhwala ena amitsempha.
Zosiyanasiyana zogonana. Wotsogolera membala wina anati:
Ndimagwirizana, ndipo ndikufuna kukondana ndi mkazi wanga wam'tsogolo. Komabe, ndikawona msungwana wokongola, ndimangofuna kuthamanga (ndikupepesa mawu) iye, ndiyeno ndikawona wina, ndikufunanso kumumenya. Mu 2004, ndinawona zolaula za ku Ulaya ndi atsikana okongola mwachibadwa. Kuyambira pamenepo, nthawi zonse ndimafuna kulawa ena mwa atsikanawa. Ndipo ndikuyang'ana zolaula zambiri, ndinayang'ana zolaula zambiri ku Ulaya. Kotero ine ndikufuna kupita kunja uko, ndi kukakopera atsikana ochepa chotero kuti awone momwe izo zimamverera. Komanso, chifukwa ndakhala ndikuwonerera zolaula kwa nthawi yaitali, ndasankha kwambiri, ndipo ndikufuna thupi la mtundu weniweni, mtundu wina wamtundu wina ndi zina.
Ndikumva ngati gawo lamalingaliro anga likupandukira chifukwa cha zilakalaka izi sizingakwaniritsidwe muubwenzi wokwatira. Chibwenzi changa ndi chamtengo wapatali kwa atsikana, ndipo ndikadakhala cholemekeza chachikulu kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi kuti ndimutaye. Chonde ndithandizeni kuti ndimvetsetse chidwi chachikulu kwa atsikana ena omwe ndikumverera, chikhumbo choti ndiyenera kulumpha kuchokera kwa msungwana wina kupita kumzake (monga momwe ndimasinthira zolaula).
Kukondoweza kwakukulu, monga zolaula zamasiku ano pa intaneti zomwe zimakhala zachilendo komanso zosiyanasiyana (onani: Zosangalatsa, Zachilendo, ndi zotsatira za Coolidge), akhoza kusokoneza luso lokhazikitsa mgwirizano wokhutira (kutanthauza kuti, kukhalabe wodzipereka komanso wokhutira ndi mnzanuyo).
Anthu ndi ogwirizana. Ndiye kuti, timalumikizidwa, pafupifupi, kuti tizikondana ndikukhala limodzi… nthawi yayitali kuti tonse tizikonda mwana aliyense. Mwanjira imeneyi, makanda athu ali ndi osamalira awiri odzipereka, zomwe zimawonjezera mwayi wawo wopulumuka chifukwa anthu amatenga nthawi yayitali kuti akule.
Komabe, ozungulira ubongo omwe amatikakamiza kupita ku mgwirizanowu ndi ofesi yomweyo yomwe imagwidwa ndi ntchito zolimbikitsa komanso makhalidwe. Choncho, zitsanzo, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, njuga, ndi zolaula za pa Intaneti zikunyansidwa ndi ubongo wa ubongo umene ulipo kuti utipatse malingaliro okondweretsa poyendana ndi kugonana wina ndi mzake. Zolaula pa intaneti zimakopetsa makamaka, chifukwa chokhala ndi kugonana ndi a bukuli bwenzi basi Imatulutsa dopamine yowonjezera - ndipo imapangitsa kuti Ejaculate nyemba zambiri mofulumira. (Palibe nyama zoyamwitsa zomwe zili ndi mkazi mmodzi ...
Mwachitsanzo, liti Ofufuza a ku Australia (graph) adawonetsa kanema womwewo mobwerezabwereza. "Wakale wakale yemweyo" amangotopetsa. Chizolowezi chikuwonetsa kuchepa kwa dopamine. Pambuyo pakuwonera kwa 18-pomwe omwe amayeserera anali akugwedezeka-ofufuza adalemba zofananira za 19th ndipo 20th mawonedwe. Bingo! Nkhanizo ndi zolembera zawo zinayamba kukumbukira. (Inde, akazi amasonyeza zotsatira zofanana.)
Zolaula za pa Intaneti ndizo makamaka kukopera kudera la mphoto chifukwa zachilendo nthawi zonse zimangokhalapo. Zingakhale buku "wokwatirana," chithunzi chosazolowereka, zochita zachiwerewere zachiwerewere, kapena-inu mumadzaza chobisika. Ndi ma tebulo ambiri otseguka ndikudindira maola ambiri, mutha kukhala ndi ophatikizana ambiri pazomwe amagonana nawo maminiti khumi aliwonse kuposa abambo athu omwe amawusaka.
Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti zimapereka "zibwenzi" zatsopano zamtundu uliwonse, kukula ndi chikhalidwe. Ndipo gawo lakale laubongo wathu limawazindikira onse monga mwayi wamatundu. Zotsatira? "Mwayi" wina uliwonse watsopano umatulutsa kuchuluka kwakukulu, kolimbikitsa kwa dopamine kutilimbikitsa kuti timupatse feteleza kuti tipeze ina (The Zotsatira za Coolidge). Lingaliro ili likufotokozedwa mu Ubongo Wanu Pa Zithunzi kanema.
Umu ndi momwe zinthu zokopa ndi zinthu zimabera madera athu olumikiza / kulumikiza. Ndi kudzera pakupangitsa kuti pakhale kuchuluka kwa dopamine komanso zina zamagulu. Ngati ntchito zina zingapangitse dopamine yambiri kuposa kukondana ndikuphatikizana - zomwe timakonda zitha kusintha mosazindikira popanda kuzindikira. Ndipo zofunikira zathu zidzasokonekera mpaka ubongo wathu amabwereranso ku chidziwitso, zomwe zingatenge miyezi ingapo popanda kukondoweza kwakukulu.
Pakadali pano, ngakhale tingakonde lingaliro lodzipereka, titha kusokonezedwa ndi ma dopamine okopa omwe amapangidwa ndimalingaliro azakugonana ndi omwe amakhala nawo pachibwenzi, zosiyanasiyana zogonana. Pomwe ubongo wathu umabwereranso mwakale, lingaliro lokhala ndi mnzake m'modzi limatha kuyambitsa mkangano wamkati ndi mkwiyo.
Mwachidule, dopamine yochulukirapo imatha kulepheretsa magwiridwe antchito am'magazi azolumikizana. Tikudziwa izi chifukwa kafukufuku waposachedwa wokhudza nyama zogonana ndi amuna amodzi adachita kuwonekeratu. Asayansi atasefukira ubongo wa ma bonders ndi mankhwala omwe amachititsa kuti dopamine, nyamazi zikhale zokhazokha sadayanjanenso ndi mnzanu wina. Kulimbikitsana kwapangidwe kunapanga makina awo ogwirizana ndi dopamine, kuwasiya iwo ngati zizolowezi zowonongeka (zachiwerewere).
Mwachidule, chidwi chomwecho chomwe chimatilimbikitsa kuti tizikondana chimakhala pachiwopsezo tikadzaza ndi zokonda zakugonana. Mwadzidzidzi, madera omwe maubwenzi athu awiri amadalira amadzazidwa ndi dopamine yokhudzana ndi zoyambitsa kupatula anzathu. Zitha kupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosakondweretsanso, ndikuwonjeza njira zathu zokhazikika.
Nthawi yopanda zolaula kwambiri pa intaneti (kapena zolaula) ndi mankhwala abwino kwambiri. Chikondi cha tsiku ndi tsiku imathandizanso, popereka chizindikiro chodziwika kuti chigwirizane.
Onaninso malangizo a munthu wakumunsi, amene anapatsidwa kwa munthu amene tawatchula pamwambapa.