Since my last relapse (11 day streak) I went a complete 50 days without Orgasm. I say Orgasm because every now and then I’d end up with my hand on my member and I’d just edge. I know, not supposed to happen but I wouldn’t really think at the time. Anyway, that only happened about three or four times in the entire 50 days. Why did I start NoFap? I couldn’t get it up for my girlfriend. I mean, with about 10 minutes of stimulation I might have gotten a semi but that was it. It wasn’t that I wasn’t sexually attracted to her, I was just not craving sex, I guess.
First week was hell, but things got a lot easier from then on.
About 30 days in my random erections came back. It was awkwardly awesome! There were times when I was out in the street where I’d just randomly get a boner. For no reason. Usually it would happen in school but still. I went from no boner at all to random boners. It was great. I’d also get faster erections when I’d fool around with my GF. (She was well aware of NoFap so it was also a pleasant surprise to her)
The only problem so far was that I couldn’t keep it up enough time to get the condom on. I’d lose motivation really quickly. So I just kept at NoFap. Slowly got better and craved it more. Then, exactly 50 days in, it just happened. Stopped thinking about “I shouldn’t get the condom ready ’cause I’ll probably not make it in time” and just went for it. After various failed attempts days before I had finally achieved it. I just really wanted it and I didn’t let my mind get in the way. I owe it to you, NoFap. Thank you. Thank you so much. I plan on continuing NoFap because truth be told, I really don’t feel the need to masturbate anymore. But thank you. I hope you can all eventually accomplish your goals as well.
LINK – 50 Days in and Mission Accomplished!
Relapsed today, guess i’ll share my story.
Hey NoFap, wanted to share my story just for the heck of it.
I’m 17 and the main reason i’m starting NoFap is because i can’t get it up when i want to have sex with my GF. I’m a virgin and she isn’t and truth be told, sex appeared a tad bit too quick for me. We had been dating for two weeks, barely knew her enough and i was pretty new to any physical interaction. I didn’t know what to do, was literally flying blind. I had never been with a woman before. (I do have female friends, never had a problem with interaction, i was just never intimate with one). Where to put my hands, what to do with my mouth, no freaking clue. We stuck to dry humping and kissing for awhile. She told me that once i was comfortable enough with her, i’d make moves on my own instead of having to rely on her. Insisted that there was no pressure on having sex. She had stated a few times, though, that she has a real high sex drive and that sex wasn’t really important to her. As in, she has had sex many times before and it wasn’t a big deal to her.
Of course, me being a virgin and all she came off pretty strong. Of the things that shocked me was who she had sex with (people i knew) and how she felt about herself. Pretty much told me that she thought of herself as a slut and that she was trying to change, that all the guys she’s dated always mistreated her and that it was mostly just sex to boost her self-esteem and to get attention. Told me i was different, yada yada. She made me her white knight, which made me a tad uneasy in a way.
Fast forward two months later, we’re now boyfriend/girlfriend and have tried to have sex, but i just had performance anxiety. The foreplay is plenty, i mostly focus on her now because i know once my pants go off my pal might not get up. Happened on one occasion, never tried it again. I obviously spoke to her about it and she thought it could be psychological. As a boy, say, 13 years old, i had a constant erection. Literally. Could not walk around without a sweater on to hide it. Now, nada. Haven’t had an awkward boner while walking on the streets or in public in a long while.
I agreed to start therapy to see what could be causing my performance anxiety and i’m going for NoFap as well just in case. It could be that masturbation was my problem because i never felt the need to have sex. While my friends were going on and on about when they were gonna lose their v-cards, i was happy simply masturbating. I went in too deep, got in to hentai, tentacle porn, etc. Was way more exciting than everyday sex, i guess. Now i can’t get excited for the real thing? I’m not sure.
Anyway, today i relapsed. Woke up thinking about a pornstar and this one old video that was amazing. One thing led to another and, well, yeah. I’m pretty proud of my 10 day streak, though. Sad i broke it, but i’m motivated to keep going because i want to change this.
Starting therapy tomorrow. It’ll be interesting to see what childhood issues are fucking with my mind right now, hopefully i’ll find a cause. If not, i’ll keep going with NoFap anyway. I will kick this problem’s ass.
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