Before I go into my personal experience these past 90 days of NoFap hard mode, I would like to make mention of three powerful principles that I believe make NoFap really work well:
- Energy Follows Thought. If no thought is present, your energy runs wild and without control. NoFap helps keep your thoughts clear and also acts as an amplifier of energy! Woo double bonus.
- We Come to NoFap to Eventually Leave. I know it sounds sad because you all are amazing and I enjoy learning from you, but let’s face it. We’re not all going to be here forever, but being here teaches us how to get the most out of each and every day of our lives! And the legendary veterans of NoFap get to help out newcomers!! It really shouldn’t be called NoFap; it should be something more like DoAwesomeShit, or BeFuckingBrilliant, which is my next point.
- Go Be Brilliant. Something a professor of mine told everyone instead of just saying class is dismissed or have a good day. Go be brilliant. Go out there and shine! I believe this applies to us Fapstronauts not only for our clear mental states, but also physically, our skin is radiant, non pale and we literally have some sort of magnetism as a result.
Now for my 90 days. The only releases I had were 3 wet dreams, spread out pretty far from each other. The first 30 days were where the biggest beastliest changes happened, and then at around the 60 day mark I felt a cocoon forming. This cocoon protected me from urges, people could show me something pornographic and I wouldn’t have the urge to fap. In fact, I basically forgot what PMO feels like altogether, but then again I have lousy memory.
I confess that last week I looked around a little bit at the old porn I used to fap to, but to my surprise it bored the living shit out of me! There was nothing great about it at all, and what I realized is that there is a great deal of fantasizing when it comes to PMO, if you scrutinize it carefully, its just really fucking dumb. A lot of you may argue that this release of dopamine should constitute a reset, but there’s tons of stuff that we do every day that releases dopamine, none of us are perfect, and besides I’m a different me now.
My suggestions are to fight urges with pushups (there’s something magical about pushups that gets rid of wanting to buff the banana), meditate (our brains will be taking on more challenges without the PMO escape route, and this is a way to let our brains chill out for a sec and not overheat like a computer) and finally, cold showers!!! They force you out of a comfort zone and your brain says “you know, I’m not comfortable because its really frickin cold, but I’ll just deal with it”, and that mentality will help with many other challenges in life as well.
Anyways, that’s it for me. The NoFap life has been amazing and I plan on slowing down at nothing. If I get a girlfriend, that’ll be the end of Hard mode for me, but I’m through with porn and masturbating to porn. Cheers to all my brethren and god speed
LINK – 90 Day Hard Mode Report
UPDATE – 200 Day Report
200 days of complete fapstinence have done the mind lots of good.
There were moments of turbulence (peeking at porn a while back, drinking and smoking pot, lusting over girls in a detrimental way) but I’m free of all of that now.
While continuing on my NoFap journey (which will essentially go forever), I’ve also began a quest to achieve and maintain the clearest mindset possible.
I’m still working on ways to get to where I want to, but I’ve cut out alcohol and pot for good. As odd as it may sound, I’ve also cut out overly thinking about women or specific girls as well, because I become enslaved by my own desires. NoFap is a gateway to a brighter future, and my own patience will help me achieve the finest things and relationships with people on the way.
Another point I’d like to bring up which I’ve always loved about NoFap is that I’m 100% myself. Purely authentic, undistorted, speaks his mind constantly self.
I haven’t felt this way since I was a pre-teen and I’m 24 now. A lot of years were shrouded in PMO darkness, clouded by excessive partying and resulting in serious creepiness and depression.
Those despicable shackles are broken and I feel better than ever! Continuing onward, looking forward to each day now, good or bad.
Tl;dr It’s been 200 days, NoFap is a gateway to make other productive and positive decisions in my lifestyle, I haven’t felt this good since before my teen years, and STICK WITH it cause it’s so worth it I can’t do it justice by explanation.
UPDATE – ONE YEAR! And it’s only the beginning.
Fellow Fapstronauts I have reached the one year mark! It is very refreshing to see the rocket badge near my name.
As I’ve stated in the title this is only the beginning of my journey. It’s so worth sticking to, I am a changed man for the better thanks to nofap.
With that said, however, it is impossible to change something I’ve been doing for over a decade in only one year.
I will definitely keep going forward with this endeavor, and the next year will be a whole lot better.
I’ll admit while I have not fapped in a year, I did peek at porn a few times throughout the year. I regret it, but at the same time I’m glad it happened because I’ll always remember the guilt that I carried with me after doing that.
Porn is completely false in every regard, and it is the farthest thing from real sex with a girl or whoever your partner may be.
I’m not trying to bash porn, pornstars or the industry, even though I don’t support human trafficking or exploitation of (mostly) women in any industry.
I do, in fact, give much credit to the pornstars though because they really do work hard. It’s what’s happening on the other end that’s sad! It’s like really? Come on.
Anyways, I’ve accomplished a few really great things this year. Three big ones are getting my master’s degree, getting a job, and having a girl I’ve been steadily seeing for a bit. It’s not fair to call her my girlfriend yet because I haven’t asked her out and it’s still fairly new with her.
Something that I would say helped the journey quite a bit for me was going straight edge, no more drugs alcohol or even caffeine. I don’t like the idea of altering my mind using any substances. I used to drink a lot and smoke a lot of pot. It’s amazing the clarity I have in my head after going straight edge and also stopping pmo.
My advice for getting a good streak started is the push-up method. Anytime you have an urge to pmo or even peek at porn, drop down and do a couple of push ups. Also cold showers work great two short ones morning and evening. Meditation is also wonderful for giving your mind a rest after stressful days. It’s amazing what simply breathing while sitting can do constructively as oppose to pmo, which makes you feel worse than before.
I’m dating a girl currently after two years of not having a girlfriend or any sex. Porn is completely different from actually having sex, and much more worthy of being patient for.
For the longest time, I would always feel so down about not having a girlfriend when all of my friends had one, and my advice to any guys that feel that way, don’t. For every girl out there worth being in a relationship with, there’s hundreds of bat-shit crazy ones and I don’t mean in a good way. I encountered one two months before the current girl I’m dating and it wasn’t a pleasant experience. So don’t ever feel bad that you’re not getting action.
That’s about it really. AMA (ask me anything) its absolutely a thousand percent worth staying on the journey, don’t relapse!! I’ve seen nothing but positivity when I really did start out in a place of darkness. It’s amazing how different I’ve become a year later
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