I am 25 years old. It took me roughly 18 months of rebooting to get me from complete ED and 50% erection to the strongest erection I have had since I was a kid and absolutely 0 ED issues.
A quick background: I was born in San Antonio, Texas where I enjoyed a fantastic suburbian childhood. Great family, great friends, and was heavily involved in sports growing up.
I first masturbated when I was 12 or 13 to lesbian porn. I couldn’t believe the pleasure from orgasming that very first time it happened. For the next 3 or 4 years I masturbated nearly every day with and without porn as I liked using my imagination as well. My junior year of high school I dated a girl for a while and lost my virginity to her, but my erections were actually not too bad especially since it was my first time with a girl and the excitement for that was through the roof. We didn’t have sex more than a handful of times. I didn’t have sex again in high school which was weird since I was the kind of guy that his main circle of 15 or so friends that would hang out together every weekend, but also was the guy who hung out with a lot of different social circles. With the lack of sex, I did masturbate a shit ton especially since I had gotten a laptop and iphone at this point. My mom even walked in on me once when I was doing it and that embarrassing event didn’t slow me down.
I went on to college at the University of Texas and lived in a 4 bedroom apartment with some random people who were all outgoing and a lot of fun my freshman year. We would all play basketball and hit the gym together in the evenings and parties on the weekends. I had no trouble fooling around with women and even brought a few home Freshman year and had some okay sex. I noticed the erections weren’t as strong, but I thought it was the booze or the girl and just moved on. In my Freshman year the porn use started getting more and more wild. I would use PMO as a way to escape stress especially during finals week and eventually the PMO use got even stronger. I got into different fetishes and from then on PMO’d at least 2 times a day throughout college. I became more of an introvert and just lost my ambition. I stopped playing basketball and stopped working out for the most part. I still forced myself to go to organizational meetings, classes, and things like that, but it was more so do to my supportive friends. When I was out with people, I still came off as that fun and social guy, but in my mind, I always wanted to leave social events and just go home and masturbate to porn.
As soon as I graduated from college, I decided to move somewhere where I would be forced to make friends to not be miserable. I moved to New York City in early 2011 and this was the best decision I had ever made. I found a good job within a respected firm and wasn’t being worked quite as hard as my banking peers. I worked between 50 and 60 hours a week and lived in a tiny 3 bedroom apartment. This was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. I was forced to be out of the house nearly 12 hours per day and coming home to a tiny apartment wasn’t the most appealing so I was forced to make friends, work out, hang out, etc. I even started dating again. I had female roommates who I went to parties with. Luckily, they went to NYU and had a fairly strong social circle.
I masturbated about once every 2 or 3 days in 2011 which was a lot less than in the past and I didn’t use porn nearly as much. I had sex for the first time in a while in 2011 and it was not pretty. I got depressed and my PMO habit picked up a little bit more especially going into the winter months where I didn’t want to go out as much. Late 2011 – Late 2012, I started dating and actually tried to have sex roughly 20 or so times and was only successful 3 times. I found YBOP in mid July and gave up porn and masturbation, but the blue balls usually pushed me to masturbate. 2 of the 3 successful times came late in 2012 and they were closer to 75% erection even with the condom so I could see some improvement. At that point, I decided to stop dating and give myself time off from women.
I went 62 days no PMO and then started dating once again. I remember getting an erection from simply kissing her. That was new to me. It didn’t even happen to me in high school. In the past, kissing meant nothing to me since it was really driving me at all, but even kissing was helping. A few weeks later I had sex with a condom and was as hard as I had ever been. Alcohol helped as well. We had sex a few more times, but broke up as she was looking for someone who was a little more mature. I’d also like to add that I started working out more in late 2012 and early 2013 and put on roughly 30 pounds of muscle on my 5’9″ frame.
For the next 3 or 4 months, I held off from masturbating until I would date and usually made it 30 to 40 days no PMO. I mixed in more dating and the better the results I got. I actually found myself wanting to spend more and more time with these women. I wasn’t thinking about going home and wacking off or going to bars with friends. Mentally, I wanted to be with these women and I wanted to get intimate. My mindset changed for the better during this stretch and I attribute that all to the rewiring.
My emotions have been everywhere as well! I’m getting a little more attached to women and responding emotionally during arguments or fights. I have been a little more emotional at work as well which can be detrimental, but I like having a little fire or zest during my daily interactions. It’s almost like I am actually reacting to everything around me rather than being a robot who just acts as he should.
I have been able to have sex 3 days in a row with strong erections and no PE issues. On top of that, any anxiety I did have before having sex is now overridden by the excitement to be had. I don’t remember having this kind of excitement even in high school.
Lucky 7 Tips:
- If you do masturbate, get the hell away from the computer so you’re less likely to fall to the chaser.
- Rewire. Rewire. Rewire. I think most of my progress came from rewiring.
- Get out of your comfort zone. If you don’t like to meet girls, go meet girls, but do so in a more friendly manner and then get close to them. Try to meet and date their friends, but watch out for bridges you can burn.
- Don’t use supplements. It gets your mind away from the main goal which is no PMO and will make you want to test yourself by edging.
- Remember that PMO is a lifestyle change and not something you hold off doing for the 90, 180, 360 days that you set.
- Pick up an active hobby that will challenge you to learn or present an obstacle that you need to overcome. I used playing the guitar, hip hop dancing, and rock climbing.
- Enjoy life! Just get outside of your home and live your life. I am a big fan of the show How I Met Your Mother and one of the things I thought about was the stories I am going to tell my kids. I don’t want to tell them a boring story about how I had PIED and was a homebody who had no drive. I want to give them an exciting life story that they can learn from. I’m only 25 so I have a long ways to go in terms of life experiences. A lot of you are around the same age or younger so give live a life worth talking about!
Let me know if you have any questions.
Best,
BY – sak1234
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