Don’t cave. That’s the best advice I can give to anyone. To cave in and masturbate, even during a serious case of blue balls, means that a person is incapable of giving up a trivial pleasure for a life filled with benefit. Masturbation is great IN MODERATION, but the average person here is obviously a part of no fap because we lack that moderation.
In my 100 days, I’ve gone from losing erections during sex to having an orgasm FOUR TIMES in one session. The sensitivity sucks, I cum way too quickly now, but it’s still not horrible. I’d rather cum too quickly than not cum at all. And my dick is ALWAYS HARD. Wow, I don’t miss ED worth a damn.
I’ve gotten more confident, mainly because I need to get laid now to help satisfy my urges, but it forced me to get off my ass and try to get my game back up. I’m juggling 5 girls right now, so things are good. I want to have a girlfriend again, a good relationship, so now I’m waiting for the right one. But it’s funny to be this in demand when I used to not want to put in the effort to talk to girls at all. Porn was so much simpler.
But the biggest advice EVER that I can tell you is just don’t watch porn. I’m not doing my research on the neurology of porn addiction, just the behavioral aspect of it, but porn in and of itself creates a physiological response in those who view them. Increased blood pressure, pupil dilation, etc. are just small factors, but we’d be naive to assume that there are not reactions occurring in the brain at the same time. The fact of the matter is that porn is what my real addiction was, and saying I would watch porn but not masturbate is like saying I can hold heroin and not use.. as an ex-user (edit: I’ve never done heroin, this was an example). That logic doesn’t make sense there, why would it make sense here?
Anyway, my research has been submitted for initial review. This was just the core of my lit review (probably going to add some stuff on adult attachment theory), but now it’s just missing data (with the exception of my tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny pilot study to help test my scales to see if they work at all). My data collection happens next semester, and hopefully I can find some significance in what I’m looking for. That said, I’m more than likely going to collect data online, but NOT HERE. That would be a super bad convenience sample, and it would be biased, so it might force significance when I otherwise wouldn’t have found it. That said, I’m excited to be one of the first people actually doing research on a topic like this (nothing really exists, go figure), and I’m hoping that it will open doors for future research to help promote a world without PMO.
Happy no-fapping (and happy holidays!).
LINK – I’ll be at 100 days tomorrow, and thought I’d throw in my two cents.
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