– by med_man
I’m 27, I’m a doctor and I’ve been experiencing the same problem as you all. I’ve been watching porn during my entire sexual life. My first orgasm was when I was 14 and I was watching porn when that happened.
The first girl I kissed was when I was 13 and my first sexual relationship happened when I was 16 with a strange woman and, by then, I didn’t get a boner.In the beginning, when internet wasn’t available, I used to buy tapes, latter DVDs but these types of porn usually do not provide you such an intense experience as the internet. For example: if your fetishis cumming on the face of a woman, if you’re on the internet, you can go straight to the scene, and therefore you experience a more intense orgasm,
Well, continuing with my story, during my adolescence, every time I kissed a girl I used to get a boner. After my first traumatic sexual experience (with an unknown girl) in my late 16s, I then got a girlfriend when I was 18. My first sexual experience with her was also a failure, but the next ones (over the whole 7 months we dated) was fine. An important information is that I rarely cummed when penetrating, usually had to stop and finish the job with my hand. After that, I experienced a hard time on med school because I had to study a lot and almost didn’t have time with girls. The few experiences I had, I was able to get boners but rarely got to the climax penetrating (1 or 2 times).
After I was 22, there was a boom of free xvideos in the net and, as I was addicted to porn, I went through this path, with more and more extreme sex situations being watched. As you can imagine, I started experiencing some more traumatic experiences. I started not having boners even when I was kissing girls. As the things got worst, 100% of my masturbations happened watching porn and I started avoiding situations with women because I had ED. It was until my late 26’s that I started suspecting about porn as being the cause of my erectile dysfunction. I suspected because when I masturbated in the bathroom, I couldn’t get it hard and when I was able to do it, I had to imagine porn scenes to do so. I even tried to take Viagra to have sex with a girl but it didn’t work (this is typical of porn related erectile dysfunction (PRED) About 5 months ago I decided to quit watching porn and I’m having several relapses happening frequently. Although confident of my condition, my sexual emotionality is so heavily attached to porn that I’m having a hard time quitting it. But I’m starting to have better situations happening in my life. 2 days ago, I brought a girl to my place, and despite the fact that I didn’t had that “really hard” boner I was able to penetrate the first time. I also needed my hands to finish the job. The girl wanted more, but I wasn’t able to get it hard again. What I can tell you about how to get rid of PRED is:
- Admit your condition
- Get away of PORN. If you can’t do it, search for psychological assistance
- Try to *** only with a woman with you
- If you have a hard time getting with a woman, you should pay for it. Tell her about your condition and ask for help. If she is a professional, she will understand
- Make your brain recognize new patterns. For example, if you can’t *** penetrating, simply do not ***. With time, your brain will recognize the penetration as the way it has to get pleasure.
- If you can’t live without masturbating, because of your emotional lability, do it, but DO NOT THINK OF PORN SCENES when masturbating.
- Do not masturbate too fast: try to make your brain recognize slower speed (as in penetration) as the pattern of speed that it’s supposed to ***. If you can’t *** with slow speed, don’t ***.
If you can follow these instructions I guarantee that in 3 month at most, you’ll get a normal pattern of sexual life. Of course, it’s almost impossible to follow these, because you have emotional barriers that eventually will break your rational orders. I’m having a hard time doing that, but as I keep trying, it’s doubtless improving my performance. I hope that my experience with that will help some of you. I consider my case one of the most difficult (my first sexual orgasm was watching porn – this is a heavy emotional print) but hopefully I will have some day a normal sexual life. Aware others of the danger of porn.