Disclaimer: I don’t use/view porn at all. Never really have. This is a different sort of story.
First off, this sub is phenomenal! I love reading these stories and how so many of you have begun to see the true affects of porn. It amazes me how many of you are out there. 🙂
Anyways, I’m your average 19-year-old, first year of college, love to game. I am 5’9″ and 140lbs. (relevant, promise!) I’m by no means fat/chubby/overweight. Pretty slim, I would think.
Well, I started dating a boy about a year ago, end of high school, had a crush on him all year. He was into gaming, loved reading, philosophical, great writer… he seemed absolutely perfect.
The downside: Even though he didn’t masturbate or consume pornography all that much, it still had an incredibly bad impact on how he viewed me. When we first began dating, he would often tell me how I liked him more than he liked me, or fill me in on his relationships with other women (I never asked, and these things included how great their relationship was, how often they had sex… ). He would pinch the thin layer of fat on my stomach and tell me he “didn’t like that.” He would point out how sometimes the skin by the straps of my bra would squish out. He would tell me how much he wanted me to work out and how cute I’d be if I were just a little smaller. He had trouble finishing.
I stopped eating.
I lost ten pounds. I’m “attractive” now. But really, there’s hardly any difference. I was already thin, and this didn’t impact my body much at all.
For the sake of brevity, when he stopped use of porn altogether, all of this changed. (Even those who don’t use porn “often” are subject to this.) He became “un-addicted,” so to speak, to the fantasy aliens of porn, and became attracted to me. His general respect for me as a person has grown. He stops treating me as if I’m “naive” and need his guidance.
I’m one of the few who have stuck it out, and it payed off. Though I do feel the need to say that this change occurred over the course of a year, it has not been quick by any means, and this proves to me that this change is for good.
So thanks, /r/pornfree, there are real results to quitting porn (and it extends upon just improving your own life). 🙂
by Ch4rm
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