Last weekend I was back home at my parents house for father’s day. Hung out with a girl who I’ve never had sex with but we’ve had an awk friendship. We’ve tried have sex but my dependency on fetish porn didn’t make it happen.
I’m pretty open with her so I told her about NoFap. We were drinking and it just came up. She was curious. Later we’re outside and she says she really wants to kiss me. We start making out like its high school and go back to my parent’s house where I proceeded to get very physical with her. I won’t go into details so I don’t trigger anyone but she was blown away by how turned on I was. I was pretty surprised too considering alcohol has affected my erections in the past.
I really wanted to have sex there but she felt unsure about it because my parents were just upstairs sleeping. I also told her I was still a virgin, which I thought she knew already because we had discussed it before to which she said “No, you seem so different, I assume you had lost it since we last saw each other”. She basically told me she didn’t want to be anyone’s first again and I respect that. She did tell me however that this was the most turned on she’s been in a long time and it was fun. This kind of thing is pretty par for the course with us so our friendship is fine. I gotta say it took EVERYTHING in my power not to relapse after she left but I hung in there.
I guess some people would call this a loss but I don’t. It’s now confirmed: I can tell (and she can tell) that due to NoFap my sexual nature has significantly increased. Before this I could only get hard from fetish porn, now I am clearly getting hard by her touch, her skin, how she tastes, sweat, everything. I was even aroused by her nuzzling my nose in between kissing, which before did nothing for me. This shit is real and I am officially a believer.
tl;dr: I had an encounter with a chick that didn’t lead to sex but we both noticed that I was acting different and more aroused
Tips: Since people don’t expressively talk about porn and masturbation in public. Chances are you wont think of any of it. I understand when you are home your more prone to wanting to PMO. But keeping yourself busy is number one in the list. Trust me you will realize how much more time you have when porn isnt in your life. So make yourself busy anything besides PMO related. I topically played guitar and played games and watched videos and worked out ( i used /r/getmotivated for keeping me going ) school took most of the day for me so I wasn’t ever worried about porn in the day just in the afternoon I kept myself busy. Also there is a lot of apps and website to use to stop you from using these websites i never used anything to help me both they are worth using. After a while maybe around day 45-55 you forget about porn it’s in the back of your head but you won’t worry about it anymore. You will get urge to the it many times but if you change your environment you will not have the urge anymore. Like if for whatever reason you find yourself wanting to go outside maybe talk to someone about something different or play a game. Working out is definitely up there for me in terms of not watching P or M. The time i used for i switch for workouts. I don’t go to the gym but i do have access to dumbbells at home so all my workouts were just pushup planks sit up crunches squats and wall sits and several workouts with the dumbbell. Best of all you choose how much of these you can do make a plan and stick to it but make sure you make a plan that you know you can do. Don’t do something you know you can do unless you really want to challenge yourself. This help with you confidence as well.
Sorry its long guys hopes someone is willing to read this. Stay strong guys Also if you have any question please ask
LINK – “You seem different”
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