I am healed after 13 months. About me and my story you can learn from my blog :http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=188.0
Just couple advices I can give from my mistakes that could help guys here:
1) It is not about porn and or masturbation it is about improving your life and changing it. I think that most here don’t look at the bigger picture and in a way they “sort of want” to quit porn and/or masturbation yet they keep relapsing.
What helped me and made me basically not relapsing was realisation of how much I lost due to MO’ing and Porn. I lost 10 years ,countless of girls, was hurt so many times and was living like a zombie. Thats something I saw in Gabe vids too when he talked about it. If you really realize on a deeper level how much you lost due to all of this shit you won’t relapse.
2) Again quiting porn and moing has to be a part of much bigger action. It is easy to keep going even when things are bad when you keep improving your life and see results.
I lost 15kg, saw 2 continents made new friends, scored a girlfriend had sexual encounters with sever girls. And It was probably more experience than im my previous 28 years of life.
Simply make a decision to “stop this shit” and ” I don’t want my life to look like that for the rest of my life” and try to improve it day by day.
3) Abstaining is not a solution
I see so many guys here trying to abstain long enough to be healed. It won’t work you need to find girlfriend and believe I know that it is hard. But it is possible. I did that. Many many guys did that too. Woman are no aliens and if you make yourself at least semi interesting to them it will work. I am sure about that. But you have to create consistent effort and massive action.
If you keep trying and keep learning based on your experience you will make it.
4) This one will be controversial. I think that for many guys they should at some point try ED drugs. I mean I lost probably several months because I didn’t wanted to try. When you have ED there is a ton of anxiety and for people like me who was a virgin no experience. It is hard to rewire when you can’t have sex and you get rejected by girls thanks to that.
However it is not a band aid. You just need to use it to improve and speed up your healing process with the goal to decrease dosage or quit entirely ASAP.
I saw people (e.g. John) being in the same position as me healing themselves much faster (like in 6 months) because with Ed drugs they could rewire much more consistently and faster.
Tho I do think that me traveling abroad and not seeing then my GF and limited rewiring due to long distance relationship played its part.
Ok guys. Take care. GL on your path.
LINK – Healed after 13months
BY – Healingshame
INITIAL POST – Healing Myself
Little info about me
I am 28 years old. Started masturbating heavily like 11 years ago and got ED extremely fast (In many ways I used to have “addictive personality” and I never really tried anything; as soon as I discovered masturbation and porn I was masturbating 4 times days and even when my whole body was saying no I would still stimulate myself with my hand and force orgasm…
So it has been really bad and I felt like I couldn’t stop. For me not masturbating in a single day felt like something impossible to do. The worst part was the no hope thing, there was no one to share my problems with and no real help because everywhere you look there was this bullshit how great masturbation and porn is, yet here I was broken and depressed.
Hope For me discovering yourbrainonporn and reading guys stories was great. I finally get answers what happened and why it happened. Here there were guys like me who got to the point where they could have successful sex again after years of isolation and loneliness. For me it was the one single thing I needed to started changing my life-hope that I can recover.
Reboot
I have started my reboot since January this year. I went cold turkey because ” neurons that wire together fire together” and for me porn and masturbation were heavily linked to each other. I never really just watched porn i would always wank. Plus after briefly looking at stories it become clear that when you have ED it is like the only way to get better.
Then the story of “the most stupid relapses in the history of recovery” happens.
On February after around 30 days of no porn no masturbation I tested myself. Fuck I knew that I have ED and severe ED but part of me desperately didn’t want t admit it. I read on yourbrainonporn that “if you can get it up to the fantasy alone you don’t have a porn induced ED” and after several minutes of stimulation I orgasmed to my touch….Chaser effect followed soon after and had like 3 days streak when I would masturbate daily. Tell me about relapsing in a most retarded way…
Fast forward to 1 April. Felt the best in my life after almost 2 months of no masturbation no porn. Felt great and had awesome desire to meet girls and have fun. First time in my life I would French kiss girls (2 girls to be exact 
) was having tons of rewiring and felt great. I wasn’t fully erect but there was some movement down there like 50-60% erect most of the time so took the girl I felt something to to my apartment hoping to take the most important move and try to have sex. Huge mistake after so many years of heavily masturbating it was naive to think that I am healed. That’s when the drama starts we were kissing then I would lick her pussy and fingering her (which she seemed to enjoy) but my dick become dead. Zero arousal, limp dick. She tried to help me but nothing helped I am too desensitized to oral sex and it didn’t made me aroused at all. Same for hand stimulation. End up relapsing when I desperately tried to get it up with my hand. I wasn’t even fully erect except like 2 sec before I ejaculated… So full disaster again and another relapse in a silly way.
Nowadays Well till my April relapse most of the time I felt really good. I wasn’t really flatlining had like fairly big dick all the time no morning wood but there was aliveness there so i was like 40-50% erect couple of times per day sometimes. Unfortunately it is no longer the case. The last relapse hit me hard. Got instantly depressed, my dick shrinked and it feels dead. Guess now I know what the flatline term means now. Feel terrible lately especially given how badly it ended. So for now I am kinds stuck till the flatline fade away. Wish I didn’t orgasm because the last 3 months or so were like the best in my entire life given how much energy I used to have and how energized and productive I was. Now it is gone. hopefully not forever.
Moving forward Feel kinda stuck and don’t really know how to move forward. I guess will try to do the full no orgasm reboot at least 120 days and will just do some basic rewiring with girls. I am kinda afraid of trying to have sex again after last disaster. Just need to get my confidence back so have to wait for the flatline to end because now I don’t have even courage to look girls in the eyes.
Till then I will try to get myself in a better shape and become somewhat productive. If after next 120 days of no orgasm I will still not be able to get it up will just go to doctor take some ED pills. I read that they don’t work at the beginning but after some time guys were able to use. Hopefully something will work. Until then I need to stick to my plan.
I will be grateful for advice from you guys how to improve sensitivity and what helped you the most during rewire so maybe I will create better plan how to improve.
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