I’m bonding with men much better lately and men in my local venues whether walking the dog or playing tennis. They are showing me much more respect and actually seem happy to see me. Women want to be around me and are using whatever physical and social tactic to keep me interested when I converse with them.
For the time in years i fell like i really bonded with a woman and all we did was chat. I took her all in. Her laugh. Her smile. Her hopes and dreams.
Most of all my mom is treating me more like a king lately and i believe for certain that due not wasting my seed she conducts herself better and weve got along splendidly.
But heres the thing. Nothing inherently changed about me at all. All this life. All this potential. It was always there all along. To see it realized even the most mundane of ways makes you realize what’s truly important. Discipline isnt merely some boring karate thing. It focuses you. It makes you more productive and as a side effect happy.
Here at the car dealership listening to one of my favorite journey songs off their stereo. Separate ways. Love it.
Fight on and find that elation and much more importantly that humanity that lives in all of us.
All i can say is wow. Ive seen the difference between using porn and casting it aside and yes i did experience the overloaded reward without working for it.
On the otherhand i sincerely believed that i would plateau at 50-60 days. But shit the way i articulate myself in real is off the chart. I speak well. I dont ruffled by people socially nearly as much and as a highly sensitive guy that says a lot.
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I sincerely believed that I would plateau at 50-60 days. But shit the way I articulate myself in person is off the chart. I speak well. I don’t get ruffled by people socially nearly as much and as a highly sensitive guy that says a lot. I’m bonding with men much better lately and men in my local venues whether walking the dog or playing tennis are showing me much more respect and actually seem happy to see me.
Women want to be around me and are using whatever physical and social tactic to keep me interested when I converse with them. For the time in years I fell like I really bonded with a woman and all we did was chat. I took her all in. Her laugh. Her smile. Her hopes and dreams.
Most of all my mom is treating me more like a king lately and I believe for certain that due to not wasting my seed she conducts herself better and we’ve got along splendidly.
But here’s the thing. Nothing inherently changed about me at all. All this life. All this potential. It was always there all along. To see it realized even the most mundane of ways makes you realize what’s truly important. Discipline isn’t merely some boring karate thing. It focuses you. It makes you more productive and as a side effect happy.
All I can say is wow. I’ve seen the difference between using porn and casting it aside and yes I did experience the overloaded reward without working for it.
I’m 29 years old. If youre familiar with the american pie movie, i had that before i was 10. Nothing hardcore at the time but playboy had their own version of camming back in the day and i got hooked from there. I used p2p to get porn movies before torrent and streaming came along.
Oddly enough ive been able to stay off porn for 4-6 weeks 2-3 times before i ever looked into nofap. I think it was one of those “i can quit anytime” exercises before jumpimg back in.
I still miss it at times and my sentiment is that i wish the mechanism of action for porn didnt exist or at least wasnt so severe. I dislike how i can watch food network or watch a lot of great choregraphed fighting but seeing sex just diminishes you. Girls and people in general can just tell subconsciously that your not really there there in the moment. It hurts the interaction and hurts you.
With the amount of free exhibitionist types it was hard for me to eradicate this behavior. Im actually closer to 120 days when it comes to my porn free counter. The idea at least in my case is to make me disgusted with the mechanism of action and thats kept me from wanting to go back.
I always wanted to really sit down and write this book i had in mind. Im not working on it constantly but im hungry with ideas and how to go about connecting them.
Theres a girl ive been talking to that lives near me and we get along pretty well. I know if hung out things are prolly gonna happen considering how animated she is around me.
Here at the car dealership listening to one of my favorite journey songs off their stereo. Separate ways. Love it.
Fight on and find that elation and much more importantly that humanity that lives in all of us.
Tips?
If your talking in public because I’ve seen some people on here talking about non being able to resist at work. Go chat up a woman with a physical attribute you like. Do a whole “Dont you hate when that happens” or “isnt this so awesome” with something in your head thats relateable or the environment if theres something to work with.
When we’re on nofap women appreciate that sexual virility. Whether woman admit it or not they want to be around that life force regardless of how attractive you are.
Like others have mentioned drinking water, taking a piss, running around, throwing a ball rigorously at a wall for 2-5 minutes (I like wall ball and racquetball a lot)
You have to make yourself realize what a shitty high PMO is. It becomes unstable and isnt maintainable. You remember those instances where you watch 30 secs of this 1 minute of that before hopping to another vid and each is as dissatisfying as the last. You say to self “IF i can just find that girl that does it for me assuming the right position or doing the right technique with the right point of view I can get off wonderfully like in the old days?”
Its like dieting. You have to make yourself feel it inside body and soul that you want to treat your body better and non make your body process nasty food day in day out. Trying to find that understanding and not succumbing to that “one more time” bullshit is what will make it stick long term. White knuckling the shit while still wanting to do it is never going to make a permanent hold.
What do I think about? The last time I let myself have my alone time i didnt even enjoy finishing and usually in my case anyway I’m more about having a 5-7 minute session before release type. Because of the idea of having more inside I obviously played around a little more and honestly it absolutely burns through my dopamine and for what? Up to half an hour of making myself OOO and ahhh for doing nothing essentially except for rubbing on myself and then watching this cement mixer level of fountain poor out and immediately after I have to sit there cleaning residue from myself and wherever I am.
You have to make yourself understand why you do this and keep it in your thoughts like with a family member you love with all your heart or that one person in your life that truly gets you.
If your all pent up truly either take that cold shower or do like I do and take a machete and tear up some shit up zombieland style. You need to relieve some of that sexual energy so either get rigorous with push ups or physical exertion or find a woman to share that polarity with whether socially or sexually or both.
If your really bad with triggers STOP WATCHING premium channel shows like game of thrones (even though the later seasons have tapered off sex wise). Theres too many well choreographed sex scenes to get you all hot and bothered even if it isnt hardcore.
Like its been said before. If your by yourself DO SOMETHING. Dont do prolonged sessions of TV/netflix/ or lying in bed (unless your going to take a genuine nap) I’ve lost my shit many times because of laying around in bed and letting my defenses come down too much.
Hobbies are so damn fulfilling. You gotta have different ones. Some are more stationary like writing or drawing. Some are more active like sports or photography.
Why waste all your dopamine in one shot when you can be a literal nuclear reactor that keeps on powering the whole city as you make your way through life.
What do I enjoy? Things that make me feel accomplished and show me I stuck through it. Not this instant gratification bullshit. Anyone can eat something, buy something, bring themselves to orgasm. But to get something done? Thats where its at.
At some point after 50 my lizard brain realized it wasnt going to get nooky from my hand anymore.
I still get strong urges from time to time and honestly not even around women (I get semi hard around certain women because of the situation but nothing embarassing and even then you gotta own it I suppose) but more by myself because my mind can and does wander.
I feel that physical presence inside of me. Its like this slight sensation at the tip of my member. Telling me that were at 100 percent. Honestly though after day 70 it became more like cruise control for me.
Woman offer even more hair tossing, cleavage and bend over moments and Im happy to oblige them with my curiosity but I dont dwell on it. I know woman get some sexual energy from me looking at them so its like my way of throwing a bone without going into it.
I will admit though that I feel like if I did hit day 150 or more it might become increasingly difficult but who knows. Being mindful of my stresses and satiating myself with exercise and meditation is important. My life force is important. Its really effing anecdotal but my recovery period is long and arduous. From my perspective doing MO every 10-11 days was too much in my semi testing phase. I just felt damn depleted.
In the end I feel like my mind controls the urges. Unless I find a woman that makes me go crazy with lust ( Ive had that happen maybe once or twice in my life) I stay pretty chill regardless.
If I really felt like I couldnt control it and it affected my life then yeah I’d probably let this pressure out but its doable for me.
Physical changes are mostly stature and facial tic related. People trust me and respond to me more. Even a woman 100 feet way tries to draw attention to herself while i walk the dogs. I dont feel stronger but i feel like i bounce back for another round faster.
My facial contentance is more calm and enlivened. Even kids show me respect which hasnt always been the case in the past.
As far as psychological goes ive been under more stress than in my entire life lately but even with the turmoil i feel im dealing and not using pmo as escapism and im doing my best to complete small goals to keep the train moving. Im bantering with woman and men more. As serious as i can that channel of light heartedness is being used more and more. My mood is decent even when i should be rationally depressed if that makes sense. I feel like calm within the storm.
Interaction is wonderful though and people actually give a shit when i talk. Its like ive become a member of society and i say that as cut against the grain peraonality that can do that lonewolf thing for periods of time. I realized i eanted to beoart of the world again and thats not needy. Needy is only when i feel everything is dependant on having them talk to me and be with me. I have fun with people and fun by myself. I think idgaf with the obvious exceptions need to be employed. Theres always another opportunity to redeem myself. Taking the pressure off so i can perform my best
I could take some selfies and compare to some earlier ones but honestly for the most part I see my skin firms up. I definitely seem to have this spartan thing going on my face at the moment though. Can you describe want that development would look like?
Im pretty damn elusive and I could possibly go that far but I think some women may steal this from me at some point haha.
Never had one occur in my life. My dick does let out precum periodically though even when Im not in a aroused state mentally/physiologically. Sometimes I wish I had a wet dream but yes for the moment Im the real deal.
As a person with a huge imagination my sexual fantasizing has gone down about 80-85 percent. I’m still a man and I imagine the women in a more naughty ways still but I try not to dwell on it.
Contrary to what society thinks being a celibate is fun in a lot of ways. I can see why women are so damn drawn to Catholic priests with decent looks now.
LINK – I never thought id seriously do it but I managed 90 days hard mode.
I play tennis Saturday and Sunday Mornings and honestly I went undefeated both days with two different groups. Didn’t matter whether it was singles or doubles my serve held strong and my game stayed consistent.
The mental game improvement while on nofap is ridiculous. Im still mortal but I hold it together even when things get sketchy.
Im well over 100 days now so I dont bother counting anymore. I mean between watching my stuff go everywhere for a span of 3-7 secs and having constant energy to do what I want when I want youd be crazy to want to masturbate compulsively.
Copious amounts of offhanded attention from women. People tend to respond more favorably to me when I chat them up in passing. I pick myself back up even when things seem dire. Its like I know life sucks but I still want to deal with it rather than feebly attempt to run from it or put it in some box thinking that will make it go away.
Close to 30. Things have tapered off and I dont get too many urges anymore. Im working on making a life for myself and working on some things to make some extra money and what not. Im not completely disciplined ill admit but at least things are better than they were.
Keep going guys. I love being on this thing. I just went 2 days without losing in a row.
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