I’m 19 years old and I am proud to say that I am no longer addicted to Porn.
I still remember the day that I realised that I was a chronic addict. I was trying to study for Exams that I was so screwed for but every time I sat down to study urges would come and fuck me up till the point that I was wasting hours jerking off my miserable self. There was one day that all I did was literally watch porn. I woke up watched it before I even got out of bed and the rest of that day was just so fucking sad. I watched it again after lunch and then before bed at night. I remember sitting there and thinking how am I ever gonna make anything of myself if I keep going down this road. How will I find Love, Wealth and stay Healthy if I can not control these impulses.
So I embarked on No Fap and I failed time and time again. I tried to block porn on my internet but whenever my urges were too strong I would just take down whatever restrictions I put in place and watch that shit anyway. Although No Fap is a great starting point it never really worked for me, the longest streak I have kept is around 10 days. What did work however is abstaining from porn but still masturbating when needed. How do you do that? Well use you’re imagination, think about that cute girl in class or your crush, girlfriend, wife but make sure you don’t think about videos you watched or impose sex acts that only porn stars would do on the girl you are thinking about because that defeats the purpose.
Some people think this is creepy or weird but what is fucked up is watching porn, contributing to an industry that exploits young women for there bodies and makes millions of men suffer from depression, anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. In contrast using your imagination is perfectly normal natural and causes no harm to anyone including yourself. Its more time efficient in the sense that you don’t have to spend hours looking for that one video where the girl is perfectly waxed, lighting is on point, boobs are just right, ass is nice etc and if you do it in the shower it’s a lot easier to clean up as well. But most importantly how you feel about yourself at the end of a Porn Session versus a solely masturbation session is a massive leap. Porn is what has fucked us all up not masturbation and you will realise this if you take my advice.
But staying away from Porn is not the answer you have to find a way to replace it. One of the best ways to do this is to spend time improving yourself in every way possible. I started working out more, studying at University more instead of at home so that I can’t watch porn, I got a part time job, become friends with some dudes at Uni and went to more social events. Doing all these things meant my mind was always busy and occupied which lead to less time thinking about booty, less urges, less relapses and more self improvement.
But still there was something missing I wanted a relationship and although the personal development helped sometimes the frustration of not being able to meet a girl lead to relapse on a few occasions. You see the primary reason men watch porn is because it is far easier than going to the effort of getting sex in real life and as a product of nature we tend towards the path of least resistance. Why spend months improving yourself, risk going out and being rejected when you can literally be a couple of clicks away from having not one but multiple beautiful women take their clothes of for you for free and do things that a real girl would never be capable of. Why? Well to put it simply because it’s worth it.
You see I was lucky enough to meet a girl who is now my girlfriend of 7months. Although I think she is cute, sexy and beautiful she is far from the girls you see on porn. But this is fair no man can expect their girlfriend or wife to be as perfect as those pornstars are made out to be. There sole purpose in life is to show off there bodies so of course every time you go on pornhub the girl is perfectly waxed, make up on point, ass and tits are perfect cause they are probably fake or edited. You cannot expect to get what you see in porn in real life but it doesn’t mean the real thing can’t be better in other ways. For example my girlfriend has also become my closest friend, her personality is amazing and our chemistry is great. This is something porn will never give you no matter how many hours you spend watching it. Even the one thing porn does give you which is basically sexual simulation with an infinite choice of beautiful partners doesn’t even come close to the feeling of actually making love to that one girl you really care about. If I am being honest my girlfriend is probably average looking but the sweet moments we’ve shared together makes me feel sexual attraction towards her in a way porn has never made me feel about any girl. Sorry if I sound like lovestruck fool but this is the truth. I understand these feelings may not be the same years from now as our relationship is relatively young. However this doesn’t change the fact that her entrance into my life has been instrumental in my recovery and for that I will be forever grateful.
Although I managed to get my addiction under control with my No Porn approach, self improvement and since meeting my girlfriend. Occasionally I Would still fuck up and watch porn. But this is ok it’s a process. I think of it like fast food it’s never good to have fast food for your health but there will be times that you are tempted and that you do give in. What’s important is that you get back on track quickly. Porn is the same it’s never good to watch it but occasionally it can happen. Don’t get me wrong my end goal is the same as everyone else here which is to never watch pornography again. But right now I am happy with being in control, I am most certainly not an addict anymore and this is something I am immensely proud of.
I have to thank this community because knowing that there are thousands of other men battling the same issue as you is a huge support in everyone’s journey. I wish you all a successful 2019 and most of all I hope you all finish the year knowing that you have loosened the grip that pornography intends to keep on us all.
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