Hi so here’s my story, about a year back I decided I was going to give up porn for good after failed attempts with multiple women. At first I had no idea what was goin on with me I was confused/ angry at myself that I couldn’t perform I had serious anxiety issues. I finally stumbled upon this website and found out what my problem was, it was too much pixels not enough real interaction.
I had changed my brain in a bad way. As soon as I figured out it was from porn i immediately stopped everything all together, no p or m, just straight hard mode. It was very difficult for me at first but eventually got easier and easier as I progressed.
About 4 months pass and I feel amazing, my sex drive was back, I was getting hard just looking at women it was the best. I finally met a girl on a dating website. I wanted to take it slow at first because I still had this thought in my head that I wasn’t ready just yet for sex. So me and this girl take it slow at first, just kissing and making out for about the first 2 weeks of getting to know each other. Finally the day comes, we both wanted to have sex, I was ready, I was feelin confident. Boom I got hard everything was cool other than a little premature ejaculation, so it didn’t last as long as I wanted. The girl was still satisfied and she said she liked having sex with me, it made me feel great about myself.
Moving on, I end up dating this girl, the sex was great for the first couple months of the relationship other than I wasn’t able to last long only if I slowed it down a little bit. About the 5month period into the relationship I watched porn for the first time again, I don’t know what sparked it but I just got curious bc I thought I was healed and watching it one time wouldn’t hurt. I was wrong. I didn’t get severely addicted again but I would pump about once a week maybe twice, I was still able to have good sex with my girlfriend, but I started thinking differently when we would have sex like imagining other girls, it would turn me on more. So through out all of this I had a couple flat lines, and my girlfriend would wonder why I couldn’t have sex or why my dick wouldn’t work. I told her we just needed to take a little break from sex and I would be better in a week.
About a year into the relationship, we were fighting a lot and didn’t have sex as much as we used to. Eventually this lead to us breaking up about a month ago. Since the breakup I have no watched any p and have not m yet either. I feel like I may not be 100 percent because I was experiencing pme and my d was not always 100 percent erect about 75 percent I would say. But here is my question, I have recently met this new girl and she is absolutely in love with me and we text everyday. I’m super nervous to have sex with her because I want to impress her and last a long time and be fully erect the whole time. What should I do? I can’t tell her about my problem because it will be an immediate turn off, I’m 23 years old and most girls my age are sex fiends and they won’t stay with you unless the sex in on par every time. I’m currently just getting out of a flatline and I don’t know what I should do. If anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it, I don’t wanna ruin what I have with this new girl but I know she will want to have sex soon.
LINK – My story so far/ needing some advice
by Wisey