I am a 28 year old male who used to watch porn on a daily basis. This was very normal to me, just as the problems were that I had in my sex life. Because honestly, it wasn’t that great. And with not great, I mean, not great for me. I never came during sex, like, never. I did enjoy it, but it always felt a bit detached, like being to much in my head. Or thinking about other stuff. I also noticed that I got less and less excited during sex or even before it was about to happen.
Sadly I never made the connection with porn, until I got -by chance honestly- recommended the book Your Brain on Porn. Such a blessing. In this I read a lot of testimonies and really recognized a lot of myself in it. Things like watching more extreme things to get excited and the phenomenon called deathgrip.
From here I decided to quit porn and stop masturbating. The masturbation lasted for like 2 weeks and the porn thing for less than a month. At that time corona hit the van and currently being out of a relationship I decided to fuck it and just go on with watching porn. It has to be said that since I read about the deathgrip, I tried masturbating in different ways, but not that often and I got stuck in old ways.
Until two months ago when I tried again.
And boy oh boy, what a great decision! I got more willpower that the first time. I stopped watching porn all together and stopped masturbating. It was actually easier than the first time to be honest, though I don’t have an explanation why, perhaps because I was busy with a lot of things. Than I met this amazing girl, truly amazing, and we started dating. And the moment came when we ended up bed. Normally by this time I would have gotten kinda nervous: will I be excited enough? Will it be a good erection? When do I have to tell her I don’t come that easily.
But that didn’t happen, I was excited as fuck, and though I didn’t came the first couple of times that we had sex, I was constantly super excited and eventually, I believe it was like the fourth time or something. I came during sex. And ever after that. Never had such a wtf moment. Sheer magnificence. I am superhappy about it!
And the benefits are not just about ”just comming”. It feels like way more than that, for the first time I feel like I really connect to someone during sex. Just being in the moment. (Has to be said that the girl I am writing about can claim a lot of credits for that) But anyway, not watching porn anymore and not masturbating as often as I did (I still sometimes do it, but try not to though) reaaalllyyy helped me.
So if there are guys out there that have the same problems, know that there really is a solution. I have dealt with this problem for so long, never thought it could be fixed and made my peace with it.
But apparantly it can, and boy, it is awesome!
I just wanted to share it with you all, I wish you all the best.
LINK – 60 days of no porn / succes story!:)
by Ishap
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