I’m 31, married and one kid. I started NoFap about six months ago when I thought I had a pretty good life. Good job, would wake up early to workout, got along with the wife, had sex about once a week, had goals, etc. I found NoFap and thought maybe it could help with my Delayed Ejaculation (took 45-60 minutes of intense sex with fantasy to possibly finish).
I didn’t have a huge problem as I could usually finish but it would involve heavy stimulation and usually a fair bit of fantasy. Before NoFap I thought that was just kind of normal.
Well fast forward to today and everything has improved more than I ever thought possible. It is truly fucking incredible what a difference NoFap has made for me. I’m enjoying all kinds of simple things in life so much more. Talking with my wife, spending time with my kid, watching the snow fall, eating. Just everything seems more pleasurable.
The 45-60 minutes of trying to finish/keep it up is not a good thing.
The other night my wife got on top a little too enthusiastically and I finished in about 90 seconds.
I love the intense feelings of stimulation down there that I now have.
I am working on getting some control but right now that means very slow sex.
I know the science is kind of iffy on this one but my workouts have improved so much that it must be related. More endurance and strength in everything I’m doing with no other major changes besides NoFap.
And the sex. Holy shit the sex. Without getting into the details our sex life has simply never been better. Not even close. There is so much more love and passion. I have so much more feeling. Delayed Ejaculation is totally gone. Fantasy is totally gone.
It has been totally transformative for me/us. Our eye contact during sex use to barely exist and now we get stuck gazing into each other’s eyes. It has been 15 years since sex felt this good for me.
So even if you don’t think Porn is holding you back and that you have a good life you still need to try life without it and just see. I am amazed and I feel like things are still getting better. Once I got passed a month things really started to change. Way more sensitivity and finishing too quick if not careful.
I started to notice some improvement after about two weeks of no PMO. After a month the difference was incredible. I relapsed around day 54 on my first streak and could notice a slight difference. But it wasn’t like I went all the way back to square one from one relapse.
[Before nofap I fapped] 5-10 times per week. Sometimes I would go a day or two without it but sometimes if I was alone it might be 3-5 times in a day. I have been using internet porn for 13 years. I always would use porn. I doubt I could have done it with just imagination a few months ago.
And sadly I must admit that I haven’t been completely honest with my wife. She clearly noticed a change and I told her I wasn’t jerking off anymore in the shower. I didn’t tell her I had been struggling with porn addiction.
I am definitely becoming a more vocal supporter of this movement. I have been doing NoFap for maybe six months and probably released 5 times.
[We now have sex] Something like 2-3 times a week. The thing is the sex is like 20 times more fulfilling. This is going to sound terrible but looking back our old sex was me using my wife’s vagina to masturbate with.
The sex is usually much much slower than before, more eye contact, more love, more soft touching, more kissing. Just overall feel more energy and more connection. Also way more turned on by just the slightest touch or cuddle.
Both of our orgasms have also improved. They last longer and just have a different feel to them.
Honestly we haven’t gone long enough to tell what it would be like without orgasm. We have tried a couple times but I get overheated by the slightest touch and feel like I have to finish. We are going to keep trying to learn how to have sex without orgasm. I am curious about potential benefits.
I don’t like the I’m done feeling that comes right after orgasm. In that moment I feel drained and tired. That is why I’m very interested in learning to have sex without orgasm. At least some of the time. We are trying right now actually. We just read Cupid’s poison arrow. I am struggling with getting to overheated to quick. But we are curious about the benefits.
By the next morning I don’t really notice any negative feelings or decreased energy. It is definitely different from PMO. I’m not exactly sure why but I don’t not notice any brain fog after the real thing. There is of course not any guilt or shame that is common with a porn session.
you can have a fairly decent life while still jerking off some.
Some people can smoke weed occasionally and have a good life but you are playing with fire.
Looking back my “good” life was just good by most people’s standards. It sure doesn’t seem good now though.
My goal is to stay away for ever.
Stopping or drastically cutting back on porn has been one of the biggest game changers for me in years. Maybe ever.
I have two friends my age that take Cialis. I have tried to talk to them but they aren’t hearing it. They blame work, stress, the wife gaining weight, kids or whatever. It can’t be porn and jerking off. I seriously believe that in 10-20 years porn is going to be more villified than smoking ever was as more reasearch comes out.
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