Today I am writing about my experience of being on a nofap for little more than a year. Right out of the bat I can attest that it changed my life for the better. These changes is not the super power changes that you see all over the internet, such as becoming more attractive (maybe a little bit), but more on the front of emotional stability.
Before nofap, and especially in my relationship, I used to be a little emotionally unstable. I would have the strangest sudden feelings of resentment, sometimes anger and just plain ‘ol mood swings. I tried my best to not show this to my partner, after all it is a disgrace not to have your mental and emotional capacity in-check as a man. My motto : to be less full of shit than my girlfriend.
I started my nofap journey, with the aim to have sex only with my lovely girlfriend( NO more self pleasing), even if it meant that if a week (sometimes two) go by with no sex that I can control my urges. You see, before nofap I was never satisfied, I always wanted more and this lead to anger. Fap and nofap is analogous to that kid always getting a sweet when he wants it, versus only on special occasion.
And so my journey began, I was quite intrigued by the concept of all the benefits- the nofap benefit timeline. I guess this helped me to stay positive but be aware, it can also become a rabbit hole, reading all the stories etc and becoming consumed by it is also not healthy, I suggest just to continue to life your life without porn or fapping. A community does help though.
And so the days turned into weeks. I could feel a little improvement in my training performance, there is studies that suggest that abstinence boost Testosterone. And since my training improved I also wanted to know how to boost my testosterone through diet. Keeping everything simple was the answer for me, I only drink a Magnesium/Zinc supplement and I eat a ton of potatoes. No excessive amounts of meat and really try to be more conscious of my fat intake. The fat you eat is the fat you wear.
I also wanted to perform better (longer) in bed, I didn’t want to wait a week for only a minute or two’s enjoyment. Reading about reverse kegels etc just lead me to a spiralling case of performance anxiety. And at the end I decided just to leave all of that behind and accept myself for how I am sexually. It does improve but it takes time, I guess it is the concept of the less you seek the more you’ll find – the backward law. My relationship really improved with my girlfriend and we are now engaged, also something that I wouldn’t have been able to pull of with a clear conscious mind if it wasn’t for nofap.
Weeks turned into months and it is now a way I live my life. I get the occasional urges, and have to confess that 1-in-10 times it gets the better of me, but most of the times I fight them by thinking of what I am doing in the dark and how my SO would feel if she found out (or if I were in her shoes). And afterwards I always have an awful feeling of guilt. Before nofap you are so desensitised to what you’re doing, a few weeks into nofap and you are absolutely and totally aware of what you’re doing.
And that is my story, it is Saturday and I still need to mow the lawn. I hope someone get’ something useful out of this and I apologise in advance for not replying to any comments, I moved on. Just take it easy, don’t be to hard on yourself, but ultimately man the fuck up and control your mind or it will control you. Hope this helps someone. Cheers from South Africa
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