I had moderate PIED for several years before I realized what it was. That was because I basically had watched porn since I was about 12. It did not become a problem until my late 20s, though. Before that I was just too horny for it to ever make a difference. But when the PIED started happening at first it didn’t even occur to me that was possible. At first I thought, it’s hooking up with unfamiliar girls, the fact that I have to use condoms, performance anxiety, etc., etc. And I know guys that have literally never had an orgasm with a woman ever before, one guy even getting married and his woman has never made him bust a nut, so I thought, okay well, I was never that bad, so it can’t be the porn can it?
However, it was only when I started having ED during even masturbation did I decide to do anything, because the sessions were starting to take over an hour and it would end in a weak, even pitiful nut that hardly justified the time and cleanup. Had some relationship troubles that did not directly result from PIED but it certainly did not help. Led me to reflect that I really had no idea what sex life was like without porn, so maybe that was the problem all along – try the thing you haven’t tried.
So, I did the 90 days at the end of last year, and after maybe 2 or 3 weeks, PIED was completely gone. Sex is consistently amazing again, like being a teenager again. Also taking away what functioned both as a stimulant and sedative really forced me to do a lot of thinking about other issues in my life and some problematic ways of thinking and dealing with issues that I have, of which porn addiction was only one symptom.
I did pornfree on and off for a few months, now I’m going for six months, as the PIED was starting to return a bit.
I’ve noticed there are two kinds of desensitization though, physical and more experiential. If I masturbate, I’ll have physical desensitization, where it will take me a while before I can be confident I reach orgasm with a woman. That’s like maybe 1 or 2 days. But if I watch porn, there will also be a desensitization to the experience of sex, where I don’t find my girl as attractive, where I’m not as interested in sex with her, where I am very goal oriented about achieving orgasm, I’m more frustrated when she is not doing exactly what I think I want. That takes about 4 or 5 days to subside completely. And it returns faster than the physical desensitization once I start watching it again.
Really, I should just stay on pornfree, but I do believe in excess in moderation, and it’s easier when I have definite goals. But this time I’m gonna go on a six month period and see if I have any appetite for it later.
Question from forum member A97CU4ca:
Thank you so much for the detailed answer. I’m experiencing a lot of what you described.
-How quickly after watching porn again (after the 3 month abstention) did the PIED started to resurface?
-Regarding the 1&2’s and the 4&5’s — do you mean these are the number of days you’d have to wait before attempting sex again?
Reply:
- couple weeks probably.
- yes
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