Here are the comments of various men who have made the experiment of watching porn without climax during their recovery:
- One thing I found after abstaining for a while is that I started to find logical reasons why it would be ok to look at some mild images again, e.g. “to see how I felt” or “to keep me going so as stop myself wanting to look at the bad stuff”… but I found that underneath this was just the craving talking, and the more I ‘looked a little’ the more I looked a lot. I’d recommend not looking at all until you’ve gone at least 6 weeks, then if you really need to try the experiment, do it with a lot of awareness about how you react.In the end, I could only break my compulsion by completely abstaining from all arousing images, and all sexual fantasies. The good news is that when I had a minor relapse recently (after 3 months of abstinence) and I did look at porn, it wasn’t fun and it didn’t hook me… it was a one off and I got back on track.
- I went for a year and a half without looking at porn and then one day accidentally came across a hard core site when I mistyped the url for YouTube. K-9 didn’t have this particular URL on its “blocked” list. It was like having a guided missile in my hand (I mean the website, although the description aptly fits my penis as well).
I was completely drawn in and overcome with the old feelings of my prior avid porn addiction. I just could not believe how immediate and powerful the feelings were. Before I could stop myself I was sampling the free videos and was totally pulled in. After several minutes, I realized what was happening and pulled away. It made me realize that I really didn’t like having my mental processes hijacked in that manner.Sometime later I started playing around with soft porn. There was a popular “news” site that always seemed to feature a link to some sexually arousing images like babes in bikinis. I fooled myself for a period of time that these weren’t really porn and were okay to sneak a peak at from time-to-time, but it turns out it wasn’t. I eventually added the site to the blocked list on K-9 so I would stay away.
I believe these images will always have a powerful pull on me and the temptation to “flirt” with them will probably always be with me as well, but I’ve trained myself to stay completely away. Otherwise it would be like giving an alcoholic an open beer and saying you can “hold the bottle and fondle it and cradle it in your arms while enjoying the aroma, but don’t drink!” Yeah, right!
- This is my day 32 now (of no orgasm). For 27 days, I completely avoided porn/orgasms & I felt a lot of improvement. Then I tried watching porn to check if I can “transmute” this sex desire…. I watched it for hours after that.. Then I tried masturbating with porn/ without porn… I never had an orgasm but I noticed that my pre-cum isn’t clear (It was milky) & there was a lot of reduction in the good feelings I was having. I have now decided that use of porn itself is also a problem.I thought I could get the benefits of increased dopamine by getting aroused without orgasm, but I have experimented now & it doesn’t work that way.
- Tried just porn with masturbation but no orgasm. Tried masturbation no porn. It all led to me masturbating to porn for hours till I had an orgasm/ejaculated.
- Okay, it has been 6 days now. Last night I watched a little porn just to experiment. It was quite intense and it made me realize how strong this urge can be. So I will stay away from it.
NEXT DAY: Okay, it’s been 7 days and I decided to look at some porn again. Yesterday I saw a little bit just to see what it felt like. I realized just a few clips got me hard real quick which tells me that I’ve really linked my neuralplasticity to porn. So tonight I wanted to check it again. I think part of it was that I felt a craving as well. This time I watched it for a longer period and played with myself a bit but did not orgasm.
- I do not think testing with porn is a good idea. I look at it as the addicted mind getting its way. If you keep “testing” with it. You will go further and further till you are “happily” masturbating to orgasm after long periods of looking at porn. As you can see by your own accounts you looked briefly the first time. Then the next time was longer and some masturbation. That will just increase if you keep testing. I think the only way is just to stop all of it.
- Don’t even think about it till you pass week 3.
- “Just looking” ramps me back up in just a few days. I don’t drink and I relate this to when I could tell people I would have a few beers and be OK. But after a few nights or a week later, I was good and drunk. Same thing, to me.
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