I want to inject a positive spin on our common affliction here. I used to be a super-critical person that could find the negative in everything. I still can probably.
But the inverse skill is helpful too – to find the positive in everything.
Here’s what I have found is GREAT about having this addiction –
- By overcoming it, I have learned valuable lessons about self-control, the way my brain works and is able to wire/rewire itself. I have learned the best way to overcome addictions and I can teach others these skills.
- By knowing that I can’t watch it AT ALL, or will fall back into addiction, it creates an all-or-nothing approach to porn. This means I will NEVER waste time on porn again. While other people, who may not be “addicted” will still waste valuable time on it because they aren’t afraid of the negative effects. Lets face it, porn, is probably one of the most wasteful recreational activities ever. Unlike television like Breaking Bad or Dexter where you can learn something or experience new thoughts/emotions, have something to expand your view of humanity, porn is nothing more than visual crack.
- By having overcome an addiction, it gives me a greater sense of esteem and proves my inner strength. Also I believe that deep down, most women are truly uncomfortable with the thought that their men are constantly watching videos of other people fucking, and possible even forgoing their real women in favor of it. It is becoming very vogue for women to accept and embrace it, to appear willing to please and open-minded, but really, this is a choice that women are sort of backed into. Now I know many many women truly have no problems with it and enjoy it themselves, I’m not ignorant or conservative like that – BUT STILL – I believe there is that nagging feeling there for many women. By me standing up and saying, NO, its not in my life at all whatsoever, I only want real women, I find that to be a bonus in my life.
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