In Porn Then and Now: Welcome to Brain Training I look at the how and why porn from the internet is so compelling, so hard to stop watching.
See the many comments below the article.
“Are we the first generation to masturbate left-handed?”
A Reddit poster recently asked, “Are we the first generation to masturbate left-handed because our right hands are browsing porn?” Yes, an entire generation is becoming “ambi-wackstrous” as one wag put it.
Once upon a time, masturbation called for a lot of imagination. It was rehearsal for the real thing: “First I’m gonna do this…and then….” No longer.
“I’m part of the last generation to start masturbating before they had the Internet. I can’t fathom having access to visual representations of every possible sexual taste before feeling the biological urge to whack it. When I was a kid, we were all desperate to look at boobs, but the opportunity only came by one or two glorious times a year [via catalog]. I honestly wonder how tits-on-tap affect later generations.”
What does this shift mean? Internet porn use more closely parallels videogaming than real sex. It combines your genes’ No. 1 priority—and biggest natural reward (sex)—with the constantly changing, ever-novel-and-surprising delivery of “World of Warcraft.” Your left hand is applying more pressure and speed than intercourse. Your right hand is clicking away in “search mode,” as your eyes dart from one screen to the next and moaning fills your ears. No imaginary orchestration needed.
Porn, and the way it is delivered to our brains, has changed. Alas, our brains haven’t yet adapted, and this can create unexpected problems:
“I’ve used porn for years. I just like watching people have sex. My problem escalated about 18 months ago when I got high-speed Internet. All of a sudden, I went from just viewing pictures online, to viewing videos and movies online instantaneously. I never really gave it much thought, but after almost daily viewing—sometimes even binging for hours on end watching porn videos—I really began to notice a change in my personal sex life with my wife. I had never really had any ED problems at all. But now, whenever my wife and I start to have sex, I cannot get an erection. Sometimes I get one, but then it quickly starts getting soft. Sex has been almost non-existent for us.”
Ahh, the good old days:
In my school days, you’d be lucky to see porn on VHS video once in a while and they tended to be crap quality. Once you quickly got bored of it, it was back to fantasying about the older girl next door. Kids need protecting from this internet shit.
Another guy:
“There’s a difference between today’s online porn and that of just a couple decades ago. Now, you can go to a variety of websites and find more free porn than you could watch if you quit your job and dedicated your life to it—all in living color. You can even pick your favorite fetish, whatever you find the most intense, and just watch video after video of it. If the intensity wanes for a few seconds, or you get bored with watching the same bodies for two minutes straight, you can jump to a new set doing new things. It has the potential to be far more destructive to your appreciation for the real thing than ever before.”
Exactly. Internet porn exploits more than just sexual desire. It drives users beyond their natural libido: Users can watch porn in multiple windows, search endlessly, view constant novelty, fast-forward to the bits they find hottest, switch to live sex chat, fire up their mirror neurons with video action or cam-2-cam, or escalate to extreme genres and anxiety-producing material. It’s all free, easy to access, available within seconds, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and can be viewed on phones at any age. Before long, it will be enhanced with sex toys that simulate physical contact.
Zoom into the brain
What drives this unnatural “mating” frenzy? Dopamine. It’s the primary neurochemical behind reward-seeking behavior. Dopamine levels are the barometer by which we decide (and remember) the value of any experience. Not surprisingly, sexual stimuli raise dopamine far more than other natural rewards.
Most people think of dopamine as the “buzz,” the “sugar high,” or the drive towards orgasm. Actually, it spikes in response to stimuli associated with survival needs. It’s motivation. It tells us what to approach or avoid and where to put our attention. Further, it tells us what to remember, by helping to rewire our brains.
Internet porn just happens to elicit spikes of dopamine for all of the “salient” stimuli for which we evolved to be on the lookout:
- Strong emotions: surprise, fear, disgust, anxiety
- Novelty: new food sources, new predators, new mates
- Seeking and searching: exploring territories, foods or mating opportunities
- Anything that violates expectations: unexpected bonanzas or dangers
Erotic words, pictures and videos have been around a long time. So has the neurochemical rush from novel mates. Yet the novelty of a once-a-month Playboy evaporates as soon as you turn the pages. Would anyone call Playboy or softcore videos “shocking” or “anxiety-producing?” Would either violate the expectations of a computer-literate boy over the age of 12? Neither compares with the “searching and seeking” of a multiple-tab Google prowl. Research confirms anticipation of reward and novelty amplfy one another to increase excitement and rewire the limbic brain. (see this reddit thread: I spend more time looking for the right porn video then I actually spend fapping).
The phrase “Variety is the spice of life” comes from a William Cowper poem (1785) about a guy who courted a different girl every week. But the Internet makes possible a never-ending stream of Tabasco sauce in the form of dopamine spikes. My Google search for “porn” just retrieved about 1.3 billion pages (with “Porn for the Blind” in my top ten). Constant stimulation can interfere with the way we think, even without erotic imagery. In fact, studies have shown that compulsive Internet use (videogaming) causes addiction-related brain changes.
“It was getting pretty bad. I would take a chick home and sometimes not even be able to get my d*ck up because porn had rewired my brain and conditioned it to have 5-6 girls at a time. One girl, even though she was there in person, was not doing the trick.”
Why is constant dopamine stimulation so addictive? As neuroscientist David Linden explains, smoking hooks a far greater percentage of users than heroin, even though heroin furnishes a bigger neurochemical blast. Why? It’s a question of brain training. Every puff of each of those 20 cigarettes per pack is training the smoker that cigarettes are rewarding. In contrast, how often can someone shoot up? At base addiction is “pathological learning.”
In the case of Internet porn, think of the constant novelty, the shocking or anxiety-producing visuals, and the clicks in search of the perfect shot as puffs, and orgasm as something stronger. Both train the brain. However, we hear from guys all the time with porn-induced ED, who will give up masturbation to try to heal rather than give up Internet porn. They instinctively know where the dopamine drip is:
“I tend to think it’s the porn that is the hyper-stimulus resulting in erectile dysfunction, not the masturbation. The odd thing I am finding about my personal experiment is that without online porn, I don’t really feel like masturbating. Even when I try, am not aroused enough to masturbate. My mind doesn’t fantasize anymore, like it used to when I was a kid in the pre-Internet days.”
Today’s porn use is more about dopamine hits than climax
Dopamine drives all arousal, but a steady stream of ever changing erotic stimulation is a far more powerful mind-training experience than occasional masturbation to orgasm. This is why online erotica can create powerful addictions in some brains.
Sadly, abundance of dopamine doesn’t equal satisfaction. Its message is always, “Satisfaction lies just around the corner, so keep going!” Behavioral addiction research on food, gambling and Internet videogaming shows that too much dopamine numbs the pleasure response of the brain. This indicates addiction processes are creeping in. A numbed brain lead to cravings for more; even the perfect shot will not satisfy. Today’s porn doesn’t just meet your needs; it distorts them.
For me, my addiction to seeking Porn images online seems like a gambling addiction. I find the vast majority of images online either boring or disgusting. Only a very small percentage turn me on, but there are the “jackpot” images that push all my buttons and make the hours of searching “pay off”. So each time I go online, I am gambling that I will find something arousing, and I hit the jackpot just often enough to keep me searching, even though I know the house is winning and I am losing vast amounts of time.
Watching a sunset, petting a cat, and watching your favorite team are not the same as more intense pleasures. With normal pleasures, you get dopamine signals and then your brain returns to homeostasis. In contrast, some activities have the potential to dysregulate dopamine long-term.
Indeed the medical doctors of the American Society of Addiction Medicine recently issued a statement citing sex, food and gambling as potentially addictive activities. They leave no doubt that all addictions—whether to alcohol, heroin or sex—are fundamentally the same. Psychologist Philip Zimbardo, too, has pointed to the dangers of “arousal addiction.” (TED talk The Demise of Guys?)
Even young men are warning each other about Internet porn. Bodybuilding thread: “The NO FAP thread to end all no fap threads” ; Reddit thread: “Ask a guy who quit porn for 2 months now anything.” They are also figuring out that porn causes escalation and creates bogus sexual tastes:
“Porn binges for 4-6 hours the last couple days. On the plus side, it did become obvious that transexual porn is unrelated to my sexuality. After watching for 30+ hours over the past 5 days , transexual porn started to become boring! I began searching for other, more disgusting and shocking stuff.”
The qualities of Internet porn affect the brain in unique ways. In addition to constant stimulation, there’s no inherent limit to consumption—unlike eating or drugs. Escalation is always possible because the brain’s natural satiation mechanisms don’t kick in unless one climaxes—which may not be for hours. Even then, users can click to something more shocking to become aroused again. Nor will Internet porn eventually activate the brain’s natural aversion system (“I can’t tolerate another bite/drink/snort!”). Who can’t bear to look at another erotic image? Reproduction is our genes’ top priority after all.
UPDATE: Virtual Reality porn
A user reports:
I found [Virtual Reality porn] more addictive and it put me over the edge, it made me realize that Virtual Reality is just going to get better and better and the Porn studios are going to get better and better at producing VR porn so it was likely better I get out now.
I was a relative early adopter of VR (Oculus DK2 back in Summer 2014) so I had almost 1 and a half years of VR porn use under my belt and during 2015 more studios got on board and things started to really take off but so did my addiction as a result. And I found myself going to pay sites for the first time in my entire life and actually paying for porn instead of just torrenting it! Because I didn’t want to wait for torrents to become available!
Become aware of the symptoms of excess
The belief that “porn use can cause no harm” arose in the era of monthly Playboy. Like it or not, Internet porn is as different from past erotica as “Super Mario” is from tic-tac-toe. Research and self-reports make this evident. Instead of being “just porn,” Internet porn is a new phenomenon, for which evolution has not prepared many brains. (Guys who used Internet porn during their adolesence need longer to regain their erectile health, see – Young Porn Users Need Longer To Recover Their Mojo. A story of sexual conditioning via Internet porn: A September 2015 TEDx talk by a young man who need extra time and relearning/rewiring to overcome porn-induced ED and anorgasmia –
Your ancestors had no Internet or memory banks of porn-based fantasy. If they masturbated, normal libido and their own imagination got the job done. If your sexual responsiveness is decreasing, or you need porn to climax, then you are, in effect, overriding your brain’s natural appetite mechanisms, and risking addiction. Wait until your brain returns to normal sensitivity. Withdrawal may be difficult, but tips and support are available.
Your brain didn’t evolve to handle today’s erotica-at-a-click. It doesn’t just see videos; it perceives endless fertilization opportunities, and it will use its dopamine “whip” to make sure you fertilize as many as possible—whatever the cost to you. Instead of getting off and getting on with life, today’s viewers often continue for as long as they can stay awake—unaware that they may be at risk for addiction or performance problems. As Eliezer Yudkowsky once wrote,
“If people have the right to be tempted—and that’s what free will is all about—the market is going to respond by supplying as much temptation as can be sold. Market incentive continues well beyond the point where a superstimulus begins wreaking collateral damage on the consumer.”
Learn the signals that indicate excessive porn use. (Read others’ self-reports.) You can’t go by what your friends are doing, or even by the advice of sexologists or doctors. Go by what you notice.
“Back in the day of dial-up, I was only able to download the occasional picture (very soft-porn) due to bad/slow Internet and not knowing where to find all the smuttery. But now with high-speed, even to mobile phones, it has made me continuously watch more and more and at higher resolution. It sometimes becomes a whole day affair looking for the perfect one to finish on. It never, ever satisfies. “Need more” the brain always says…such a lie.”
Post on r/NoFap – The Evolution of Porn
The depiction of sex was present before it was even video captured from the third century book of Kama Sutra to the sculptures in the city of Pompeii.
But it has only been in the last sixty years or so that porn has begun to spread like wildfire. The first was the Playboy magazine that began depicting nude women via still images back in the year of 1953. Keep in mind that back then it was a criminal offense to even publish such material as is the case of the convicted Samuel Roth.
It was only when Lasse Braun and his business partner, Reuben Sturman started peep shows with loops of film that the real trouble began. Sturman began setting up more than 60,000 peep shows that were set up with single booths displaying porn and had tissue boxes propped up. They were known as “pay and spray” booths. But videos had not reached mainstream yet due to the court ruling and the inability to view it privately.
That all changed when the VHS was brought in along with the Miller court case ruling. The result was astonishing, around 75% of VHC tapes sold in the US in 1978 were pornographic.
Fast forward to 1991 and the world wide web was introduced. Still images could now be brought to your display in an instant without going out to one of those peep shows. A couple of years later and the internet continued to spread and grow in its speed. This lead to the rapid growth of pornography as well as expansion in all genres. Suddenly, it was accessible, private and no expenditure on the user was required.
All the criteria of the ultimate addiction was fulfilled. But that was not all that the rapid growth of porn brought, it also affected the media and skewed the people’s perspective on what is considered as porn.
Back in the 1960s, a women topless or showing some skin was considered softcore porn. Look around you and specifically at your social media circle. Your feed on facebook from friends to ads has simply become the softcore porn of 1960s. The terms will continue to spread and sooner or later porn might become the norm for the coming generations. Another aspect to consider is today’s role models from kim kardashian to miley cyrus.
Even a music video today cannot be famous unless there is some shedding of skin or has women with revealing clothing acting in obscene ways. Your messenger is sometimes bombarded with texts to buy pornographic images from young women. People must wake up to this terrible ordeal and take action. If we continue down this evolutionary pathway, the beast will only continue to grow and I for one definitely don’t this for our future generations.
Some facts to consider about pornography:
By 2012, Xvideos had become the largest porn site on the web with 4.4 billion page views per months. Xvideos was three times the size of CNN or ESPN, and twice the size of Reddit. Pornhub dwarfs regular sites and sits next to google in terms of storage utilization. Today, Xvideos is the 43rd most popular website in the world.
So to sum it up, pornography is growing and evolving along with the technological tides (e.g. Virtual Reality), however technology can be used to also increase our awareness and motivate us to quit such addictive habits.
Post on r/NoFap – It’s crazy how porn use is not at all on the radar of most of our parents
I’ve been a chronic masturbator since my teens. I didn’t see a hell of a lot of porn in high school due to having to use the family computer but I saw my fair share, being sneaky and fapping later to the images burned into my brain. But once I got out of high school and had my own laptop I went nuts. Hours and hours of porn everyday and my twice a day masturbation habit exploded to five times a day. I chose to live by myself and masturbate and smoke weed as much as possible. Obviously my mental health deteriorated tremendously.
Later I moved back into my parents house but didn’t let that stop me from being on my laptop for porn as much as possible. My parents were on my case all the time for being unproductive. But they literally thought I was just lying in my bed watching YouTube videos and such. Porn was not on their radar at all.
Since I discovered nofap I have quit masturbating and porn and feel so much better that I’ve told almost everyone I know about my chronic masturbation and porn use and how I’ve ended it. Including my parents. I always assumed they knew I was addicted to porn and just didn’t want to acknowledge it. But it turns out they really had no idea! It’s like they don’t understand a porn habit because they grew up basically without porn. They never ever connected the dots and literally just thought I was lazy. I wasn’t lazy, I was addicted and my brain was mush from the constant masturbation.
Since I quit porn and MO, I have zero desire to just lie around like I used to. I never would have done that if it hadn’t been for the porn. My mom was talking about a friend”s son who is 29 and has done nothing with his life, still lives at home and spends all night on the computer. Again, his parents have made no connection to porn use, they just think he is lazy and hooked to the computer. I was like “hello?! It’s porn!!!!” and my mom was like “really? You think?”
In short, most of the older generation has no concept whatsoever of porn habits/addictions. Their kids are addicted to it and the parents have no idea because they just can’t wrap their heads around this whole porn thing. They’re not in denial, they literally just never think of it. The only ones who understand are those with porn use experience and that is rare with the older generation. They might have bought the odd skin mag back in the day but that is nothing compared to the galaxy of porn their kids are watching, probably every day. It’s sad because there’s a lot of frustrated parents out there who are just baffled by their unproductive sons. If they understood the anatomy of a porn habit it would really save a lot of families a lot of grief.
Excellent post – Mainstream porn’s descent into depravity (or why I’m quitting to save my psychological sanity and you should too)
(Using a throwaway account for personal reasons, also apologies this is a long read)
CW: discussion of PMO, rape, incest, child sexualization, various fetishes
Anybody else noticed this? I’ve been addicted to PMO for many years, enough to be more familiar with porn than I’m comfortable with. Despite this, I’ve only ever viewed relatively straight-forward, vanilla, man/woman porn and avoided the truly fucked up stuff. Thankfully I haven’t developed any horrible or bizarre fetishes and I’ve consistently found myself feeling deeply disgusted anytime I’ve been even slightly exposed to anything abnormal. I also suffer from intrusive thoughts and I’ve made an active effort to avoid anything that could fuel these persecutory thoughts.
Pornhub has been my website of choice for a long time now, and I’ve slowly noticed a sharp turn towards much darker content in many of the videos produced by mainstream companies and the videos posted on the FrontPage (specifically in the “most popular” section).
I’ve looked at the top of the front page of pornhub enough times and over such a long period of time that I’ve seen it happen first hand: where there were once relatively straightforward vanilla man/woman videos, suddenly videos with deeply concerning fetishitic concepts and taboos such as incest, domination or even pseudo-rape are among the most popular and promoted videos taking their place at the front of the website. Avoiding this kind of content has become a hard task, even the thumbnails seem to place emphasis on amplifying the deprived nature of these videos.
The adverts on the website are even worse often featuring foot fetishism and sexualised pictures of cartoon characters and again it’s often impossible to avoid exposure to this due to the adverts autoplaying at the side of videos and popping up every time you pause the video. (In fact, in many ways the adverts are the worst aspect, designed to display these taboo fetishes in an incredibly bold and attention-grabbing way in order to draw interested users’ interest and awaken latent fetishes that the user may not have been aware of until this point).
I’ve also noticed a concerning trend among many of the most popular porn companies where new porn stars seem to be getting more and more young-looking. now, this may be the result of me getting older (I started PMO when I was an early teenager and have continued it into my mid-20s) but i genuinely believe there is an effort on the part of porn companies to target the youngest-looking, most petite women in order to appeal to the taboo fetish of ephebophilia and whether they realise it or not I believe this will lead many down the dark and unredeemable path of genuine child/teen sexualization ie paedophilia/hebephilia.
After growing weary of pornhub (or any other widely used porn sites) I thought I’d turn to reddit gifs. reddit seemed a more controlled environment but i can’t count the number of times now that I’ve clicked on a gif of seemingly vanilla sexual content only to immediately rush for the back button after seeing the watermark for one of these companies that specializes in this kind of taboo content and the realisation that I just viewed a clip from one of those incest or domination videos. Or even worse, the gif starts normally but soon reveals its source as a domination video and shows a woman being brutalized in a horrifying way.
Now, of course, I don’t believe the reason for this is some kind of wide conspiracy designed to distort the sexual identities of an entire generation of men (or maybe it is, who knows?) but it’s important to remember these porn companies are businesses and their particular business is taboo. In order to keep the clicks and memberships and money coming, they need to be constantly reinventing themselves and keeping the porn users reliant on their content. for them this involves a descent into the darkest taboos while at the same time walking the fine line of social acceptability (in many ways it mirrors the descent many PMO users undertake in order to satisfy their uncontrollable lust, a descent into ever more deprived fetishes).
i find this deeply, deeply troubling. It seemed this kind of content was once relegated to the darker corners of the internet and deep web and now it’s slowly gaining traction on mainstream, widely-used websites. The porn that i was exposed to as an early teenager seems quaint compared to what teens in early puberty are being exposed to now. When I consider the hugely negative effect porn has had on my life, I worry about the psychological effect that it will have on many young, developing men (and women too). i even read an article a while back about a young kid who raped his sister after continued exposure to stepbrother/stepsister porn and I was horrified beyond belief, to me this is a possible outcome that can arise from the distorted sexuality that this content creates in young people.
Because of my addiction (and it IS an addiction) and the fact that I suffer from intrusive thoughts, I’ve tried repeatedly to invent new and increasingly contrived methods to avoid exposure to this abnormal content, but it always seems to worm its way through into my psyche and I’m coming to realise that my own moral values don’t line up with those of pornography (and this is a good thing I think).
For many years I’ve been able to justify my porn usage to myself largely because what I was watching wasn’t “too bad”, or convincing myself that “everybody else my age is watching it so why shouldn’t I?” but now I realise that porn acts in a similar manner to a “gateway drug”, only porn is a gateway into depravity and degeneration of the mind and soul.
When you watch porn, everything loses its innocence, everything is reduced to hyper-sexualisation and this opens a path to an endless void of debauchery and misery. All those cartoons you loved as a child and took value and meaning from are now consumed as fuel for your empty arousal. Every woman you meet or pass on the street is a possible whore. Even your loved ones can be reduced to nothing more than sexual objects fueled by a forbidden taboo. i can’t even look at somebody’s feet now without feeling a sense of disgust, self-persecution and a crippling paranoia that I may somehow be aroused by them, that I may be so far gone that I’ve collapsed into this void of total debauchery.
Every time I’m exposed to something like this now, because of the intrusive thoughts, I feel like I’ve been psychologically raped in some way (and I know that’s incredibly disrespectful and probably not a fair comparison so I deeply apologise if anyone is offended but I couldn’t think of a term that describes the emptiness and self-loathing adequately) I’m sick of feeling like the protagonist of a Lovecraft short story every time I finish masturbating, as though I’ve been exposed to an unexplainable horror (and much of it IS unexplainable, how would you explain any of this complex, ultra-sexual content to a parent or psychologist who has no experience of the internet, for instance?)
Thankfully, I’ve resisted much of my exposure to this disgusting content, but I know that there are perhaps those who haven’t. I want to let you know that it isn’t too late. acknowledging it as a problem is the first step and from there you can work on repairing the psychological damage it caused and making movements towards living a more fulfilling and happy life.
I think most people who become PMO users desire the true, wholesome love of Warmth and compassion but various circumstances lead to us being deprived of this, leaving a void and we desperately try to fill it with pornography or various other things we think will work. It never does but we are not beyond help, there is a way out.
tbh, I just wanted to vent about an issue that has damaged me greatly and that, I believe is damaging many others.
if you’ve read all this, then thank you, I hope you got something of value out of it.
tl;dr: I believe porn is heading down a dark path of debauchery and dragging down many others with it.
Relevant articles
- (L) Dopamine Makes You Addicted To Seeking Information (2009)
- (L) Is the Web Driving Us Mad? (2012)
- (L) Is the internet as addictive as tobacco? (2012)
- (L) Does life online give you ‘popcorn brain’? (2011)
- (L) High Wired: Does Addictive Internet Use Restructure the Brain? (2011)
- (L) We are addicted, quite literally, to information (2012): John Coates, Cambridge neuroscientist
- Nearly 20 Percent Of Young Adults Use Their Smartphones During Sex: Survey
Relevant YBOP material
- Porn/sex addiction? This page lists 40 neuroscience-based studies (MRI, fMRI, EEG, neuropsychological, hormonal). They provide strong support for the addiction model as their findings mirror the neurological findings reported in substance addiction studies.
- The real experts’ opinions on porn/sex addiction? This list contains 18 recent literature reviews & commentaries by some of the top neuroscientists in the world. All support the addiction model.
- Signs of addiction and escalation to more extreme material? Over 30 studies reporting findings consistent with escalation of porn use (tolerance), habituation to porn, and even withdrawal symptoms (all signs and symptoms associated with addiction).
- An official diagnosis? The world’s most widely used medical diagnostic manual, The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), contains a new diagnosis suitable for porn addiction: “Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder.”
- Debunking the unsupported talking point that “high sexual desire” explains away porn or sex addiction: At least 25 studies falsify the claim that sex & porn addicts “just have high sexual desire”
- Porn and sexual problems? This list contains 27 studies linking porn use/porn addiction to sexual problems and lower arousal to sexual stimuli. The first 5 studies in the list demonstrate causation, as participants eliminated porn use and healed chronic sexual dysfunctions.
- Porn’s effects on relationships? Almost 60 studies link porn use to less sexual and relationship satisfaction. (As far as we know all studies involving males have reported more porn use linked to poorer sexual or relationship satisfaction.)
- Porn use affecting emotional and mental health? Over 55 studies link porn use to poorer mental-emotional health & poorer cognitive outcomes.
- Porn use affecting beliefs, attitudes and behaviors? Check out individual studies – over 25 studies link porn use to “un-egalitarian attitudes” toward women and sexist views – or the summary from this 2016 meta-analysis: Media and Sexualization: State of Empirical Research, 1995–2015. Excerpt:
The goal of this review was to synthesize empirical investigations testing effects of media sexualization. The focus was on research published in peer-reviewed, English-language journals between 1995 and 2015. A total of 109 publications that contained 135 studies were reviewed. The findings provided consistent evidence that both laboratory exposure and regular, everyday exposure to this content are directly associated with a range of consequences, including higher levels of body dissatisfaction, greater self-objectification, greater support of sexist beliefs and of adversarial sexual beliefs, and greater tolerance of sexual violence toward women. Moreover, experimental exposure to this content leads both women and men to have a diminished view of women’s competence, morality, and humanity.
- What about sexual aggression and porn use? Another meta-analysis: A Meta‐Analysis of Pornography Consumption and Actual Acts of Sexual Aggression in General Population Studies (2015). Excerpt:
22 studies from 7 different countries were analyzed. Consumption was associated with sexual aggression in the United States and internationally, among males and females, and in cross-sectional and longitudinal studies. Associations were stronger for verbal than physical sexual aggression, although both were significant. The general pattern of results suggested that violent content may be an exacerbating factor.
- What about the porn use and adolescents? Check out this list of over 200 adolescent studies, or this 2012 review of the research – The Impact of Internet Pornography on Adolescents: A Review of the Research (2012). From the conclusion:
Increased access to the Internet by adolescents has created unprecedented opportunities for sexual education, learning, and growth. Conversely, the risk of harm that is evident in the literature has led researchers to investigate adolescent exposure to online pornography in an effort to elucidate these relationships. Collectively, these studies suggest that youth who consume pornography may develop unrealistic sexual values and beliefs. Among the findings, higher levels of permissive sexual attitudes, sexual preoccupation, and earlier sexual experimentation have been correlated with more frequent consumption of pornography…. Nevertheless, consistent findings have emerged linking adolescent use of pornography that depicts violence with increased degrees of sexually aggressive behavior.
The literature does indicate some correlation between adolescents’ use of pornography and self-concept. Girls report feeling physically inferior to the women they view in pornographic material, while boys fear they may not be as virile or able to perform as the men in these media. Adolescents also report that their use of pornography decreased as their self-confidence and social development increase. Additionally, research suggests that adolescents who use pornography, especially that found on the Internet, have lower degrees of social integration, increases in conduct problems, higher levels of delinquent behavior, higher incidence of depressive symptoms, and decreased emotional bonding with caregivers.
As one guy said:
Another guy said:
Post from MedHelp comparing Internet porn to “old porn”
Taken from this thread on ED and Internet Porn.
Broadband led to porn addiction
From another forum:
Comment of forum member:
Another comment on the evolution of porn
Posted elsewhere on this site
Comment from Reddit
Comment from Psychology Today
YankieWankie has commented on: “The Sky Is Not Falling”
Comment about need for novelty
posted of reddit.com NoFap
LINK
porn is about the hunt – posted on another site
comment from a forum
Thread on tabs
Important information every
Hentai
From another forum – age 38
Affecting college
How Often Did You Fap Before Starting?
My parents knew, but never talked about to me about my habits
Perverted, Horny Bastard Addicted to Porn, Day 3 And Counting…
From reddit – NoFap
It’s amazing how porn has desensitized us
Porn and hyperreality
A cautionary tale from someone about to turn 30
Couple of comments.
Are you implying that the
Are you implying that the people who said that were into child pornography?
My boyfriend mentioned not
Porn as Hyper-Reality
Anyone noticed how drastically world changed in last few decades
GUY 2)
from reddit nofap –
erection as barometer- from reddit
realized now just how much the media and porn has affected
Porn Isn’t Natural
cumming inside a woman, is now considered a special fetish
Coworker JUST discovered porn at age 37…his life is crumbling
Coworker JUST discovered porn at age 37…his life is crumbling before him. Masturbating in the company car while driving.
Many of us deal with this
I’d say porn is “worse” than fapping
My friend masturbates like 10-15 times a day.
Is fapping really the problem or is it the porn?
I never had a problem until I got my first high internet conne
It’s the faulty connections
I have tried both and come to
Porn is worse, and I think
Hey guys, new member to the
Hey guys, new member to the forums here.
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GUY 4)
The danger likely here is
this is the first generation in which the onset of the Internet
I’ll start by saying that I
Am Ithere? No, it’s just the beginning.
Pornfree much harder than nofap
can’t actually watch more than 30 seconds of anyone clip
How many vaginas have you seen?
How fapping ruined a 16 year olds social life
I read the post about having sores on your dick and actually chu
Who else feels emotions less because of porn?
porn has made it so that sex is more about theatrics
real sex didn’t live up to my experiences as the guy in the porn
NoFap makes me think of how sad it is to live in our times.
Achieved a great life and
I Quit porn 2 weeks ago and feel great.
75 Day Report: My Porn Addiction
For addicts (like me) P-free
Ive been thinking about this subject (the technological advancem
Owner of ‘porn cartel’ has been using porn since age 10. Aged 19
Highspeed streaming porn IS more stimulating than sex
PORN: How giving it up has changed my life (Blog)
POST CONTINUED…….
my urge to masturbate is much stronger than my urge to watch por
I find masturbating by itself immensely boring.
Porn Desensitizes & Screws your perception of “normal”
Comming back to the modern world some years ago was a shock
New Perspective On Porn
Increasing Public Awareness
most if not all my relapses started with such a kind of “seeking
I Didn’t Even Think I Was Compulsive Porn-User…
Surfing facebook for years did some strange things
Didn’t know I had a problem until I tried to stop….
four of the girls admitted that most of their sexual experiences
think in 5-10 years people will start to recognize that porn ha
Age 50, female – hooked after being introduced to Internet Porn
(Porn Now) I use sites that have large selections of videos…..
GUY 2)
No desire to fap without porn.
by nullhypo
comparing the average partner to porn stars is like
I have never told anyone what I am about to tell you. Please hel
if your porn addiction is getting so extreme that
go on for sometimes hours before I found the perfect clip to fap
I would search and search and search every single time to find
my fapping life is pretty much the history of porn.
laughed at my brain last night as it gave me an absurd reason to
Questions for people who switched from NoFap to PornFree
GUY 2)
I honestly think PMO is one of the most heavy addictions
Everything I hated about fapping to porn
This is what worries me about people who watch things like Henta
17 tabs of porn in my browser.
I would have never survived growing up with broadband/google/fac
I want to ask is question about such video format as FullHD
To all the younger members from an older dude
Guy’s comment on a forum
I’m younger than you, and
probably the OP as well. I’m still old enough to have started PMO with
softcore magazines and then VHS and hardcore magazines. As bad as those
were (and they were terrible), nothing prepared me for the crack
cocaine of wireless internet, a laptop and porn tube sites. Instant
access to an effectively infinite variety of porn is not good for anyone but it is especially bad for people who already have an addiction to porn/an addictive personality in general.
I got my first laptop about 6 years ago. Porn tube sites were a new
idea back then. I had been getting porn off P2P for years (since 1999
or so, any new technology’s first use is porn). Again, as bad as that
was, it was still small potatoes compared to porn tube sites. Torrents
take time to download, and the files are huge. The instant
gratification and endless novelty of porn tube sites did more damage to
my sexuality in 5-6 years than all of pornography had done in the
previous 20.
I’ve struggled with my porn addiction for years. I quit cold turkey
in early 2012 and deleted 400+GB of porn. I threw out a huge pile of
burned CDs and DVDs. I went 90+ days without PMO, but I eventually fell
off the wagon.
I’ve made several attempts to get “clean” again, but I’ve failed one
or or another every time. Invariably, I end back to PMO at least once a
day, usually before bed (but often other times too.)
This most recent time has been different. First off, I’m doing hard
mode. It is a lot tougher, moment to moment. Weirdly, it’s easier
overall. I have some wickedly strong impulses to look at porn and/or
masturbate, which are more intense than anything like them that I’ve
felt in the past. Overall though, the process has been, well, not
easier, but I’ve felt a stronger sense of direction. I have so much
built up sexual tension, I have to direct it somewhere
else. I’ve begun to exercise again. This is good for a bunch of
reasons. I’ve gotten quite overweight in my later years but also the
endorphins exercise gives off help counteract the need for PMO.
There was a post on here a month or so ago, saying that No Fap is not
the be-all end-all answer, and that really struck a cord with me.
Ceasing PMO is the first step in fixing a bunch of problems. View it as
getting back to square one, but from there you can begin to finally
move forward.
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1k0x7y/to_all_the_younger_members_from_an_older_dude/cbkgwq6
“The Machine Zone: This Is Where You Go When You Just Can’t Stop
If Facebook and other apps are this addictive, imagine how far into The Machine Zone Internet porn can carry you….
The Machine Zone: This Is Where You Go When You Just Can’t Stop Looking at Pictures on Facebook – Atlantic Mobile
“People love Facebook. They really love it,” Biz Stone wrote earlier this month. “My mother-in-law looks hypnotized when she decides to put in some Facebook time.”
She is not the only one. ComScore estimates Facebook eats up 11 percent
of all the time spent online in the United States. Its users have been
known to spend an average of 400 minutes a month on the site.
I know the hypnosis, as I’m sure you do, too. You start clicking through
photos of your friends of friends and next thing you know an hour has
gone by. It’s oddly soothing, but unsatisfying. Once the spell is
broken, I feel like I’ve just wasted a bunch of time. But while it’s
happening, I’m caught inside the machine, a human animated GIF: I. Just.
Cannot. Stop.
Or maybe it’ll come on when I’m scrolling through tweets at night before
bed. I’m not even clicking the links or responding to people. I’m just
scrolling down, or worse, pulling down with my thumb, reloading,
reloading.
Or sometimes, I get caught in the melancholy of Tumblr’s infinite scroll.
Are these experiences, as Stone would have it, love? The tech world
generally measures how much you like a service by how much time you
spend on it. So a lot of time equals love.
My own intuition is that this is not love. It’s something much more technologically specific that MIT anthropologist Natasha Schüll calls “the machine zone.”
“It’s Not About Winning, It’s About Getting Into the Zone”
Schüll spent more than a decade going to Las Vegas and talking with
gamblers and casino operators about slot machines, which have exploded
in profitability during the digital era as game designers have optimized
them to keep people playing.
What she discovered is that most
people playing the machines aren’t there to make money. They know
they’re not going to hit the jackpot and go home. As Roman Mars put it
in a recent episode of his awesome podcast, 99% Invisible, on Schüll’s research: “It’s not about winning; it’s about getting into the zone.”
What
is the machine zone? It’s a rhythm. It’s a response to a fine-tuned
feedback loop. It’s a powerful space-time distortion. You hit a button.
Something happens. You hit it again. Something similar, but not exactly
the same happens. Maybe you win, maybe you don’t. Repeat. Repeat.
Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. It’s the pleasure of the repeat, the security of
the loop.
“Everything else falls away,” Schüll says to Mars. “A sense of monetary
value, time, space, even a sense of self is annihilated in the extreme
form of this zone that you enter.”
In Schüll’s book, Addiction by Design, a gambler named Lola tells her: “I’m almost hypnotized into being that machine. It’s like playing against yourself: You are the machine; the machine is you.”
There’s that word again: hypnotized, like Stone’s grandmother. Many
gamblers used variations on the phrase. “To put the zone into words,”
Schüll writes, “the gamblers I spoke with supplemented an exotic,
nineteenth-century terminology of hypnosis and magnetism with
twentieth-century references to television watching, computer
processing, and vehicle driving.”
They said things like, “You’re in a trance, you’re on autopilot. The zone is
like a magnet, it just pulls you in and holds you there.”
Why these words, these metaphors? We don’t cognitively grasp the
state we fall into — we only feel its grip on us — the way we’ve
merged circuits with the inanimate. You are the machine; the machine is you.
And it feels … the words fail. In fact, it feels like words failing
because it is at the edge of human experience, bleeding over into a
cybernetic realm best expressed in data and code.
The machine zone is the dark side of “flow,”
a psychological state proposed by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi. In a flow
state, there is a goal, rules for getting to the goal, and feedback on
how that’s going. Importantly, the task has to match your skills, so
there’s a feeling of “simultaneous control and challenge.”
In a 1996 Wired interview,
Csíkszentmihályi described the state like this: “Being completely
involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time
flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the
previous one, like playing jazz.”
Schüll sees a twist on this
phenomenon in front of the new slot machines of Vegas, which incorporate
tiny squirts of seeming control to amp up their feedback loops. But
instead of the self-fulfillment and happiness that Csíkszentmihályi
describes, many gamblers feel deflated and sad about their time on the
slots.
The games exploit the human desire for flow, but without
the meaning or mastery attached to the state. The machine zone is where
the mind goes as the body loses itself in the task. “You can erase it
all at the machines,” a gambler tells Schüll. “You can even erase
yourself.”
You can get away from it all in the machine zone, but only as long as you stay there.
The Facebook Zone
When we get wrapped up in a repetitive task on our computers, I think we
can enter some softer version of the machine zone. Obviously, if
you’re engaged in banter with friends or messaging your mom on Facebook,
you’re not in that zone. If you’re reading actively and writing poems
on Twitter, you’re not in that zone. If you’re making art on Tumblr,
you’re not in that zone. The machine zone is anti-social, and it’s
characterized by a lack of human connection. You might be looking at
people when you look through photos, but your interactions with their
digital presences are mechanical, repetitive, and reinforced by
computerized feedback.
I’m not claiming that people are “addicted” to Facebook. Some of the
gamblers quoted in Schüll’s research do in fact have serious problems.
But I am using their stories as Schüll did — as sources of expertise on
the zone, not to say their experience with slot machines is exactly
like your average user’s time on Facebook.
I point this out because there is a tendency to toss around the idea of
addiction to various technologies like it’s no big deal. But it is.
All of this to say: I’m not making an argument about the totality of
services like Facebook. This is a criticism of specific behavioral loops
that can arise within them.
The purest example of an onramp into the machine zone is clicking
through photo albums on Facebook. There’s nothing particularly rewarding
or interesting about it. And yet, show me the Facebook user who hasn’t
spent hours and hours doing just that. Why? You can find the zone.
Click. Photo. Click. Photo. Click. Photo. And perhaps, somewhere in
there, you find something cool (“My friend knows my cousin.”) or cute
(“Kitten.”). Great. Jackpot! Click. Photo. Click. Photo. Click. Photo.
Facebook is the single largest photo sharing service in the world. In 2008, when the site had 10 billion photographs archived, users pulled up 15 billion images per day. The process was occurring 300,000 per second. Click. Photo. Click.
In 2010, Facebook had uploaded 65 billion images, and they were served up at a peak rate of 1 million per second. By 2012, Facebook users were uploading 300 million photos per day. And early this year, Facebook announced users had entrusted them with 240 billion photos.
If we assume the ratio of photos uploaded to photos viewed has not declined precipitously, users are probably pulling up billions of Facebook photos per day at a rate of millions per second. Click. Photo. Click.
It all adds up to a lot of time spent in the loop. According to a
2011 ComScore report, users spend 17 percent of their time on the site
exclusively browsing photos (which as Inside Facebook notes, doesn’t include “time spent reading news feed stories and notifications generated by photo uploads”).
To put these numbers in perspective, ComScore’s 2013 Digital Focus
report found that Facebook took 83 percent of the time spent on *all*
social networks on the web. That means that of all the time spent on
social networks, 14 percent of it occurs within this one behavioral
loop. That’s more than all the time spent on Tumblr, Pinterest, Twitter,
and LinkedIn combined!
If
all technological artifacts contain certain “prescriptions” within
them, if designers can inscribe intentions into the things they build, as in sociologist Bruno Latour’s theory, then we can say that some engagement mechanisms are more prescriptive than others.
What
Facebook and slot machines share is the ability to provide fast
feedback to simple actions; they deliver tiny rewards on an imperfectly
predictable “payout” schedule. These are coercive loops, distorting
whatever the original intention of the user was. What began as “See a
picture of person X” becomes “keep seeing more pictures.” The mechanism
itself becomes the point.
Slot-game designers, for their part, have had to grapple with the
ethical issues raised by exploiting the machine zone. And that grappling
hasn’t been pretty.
Schüll talks about one designer, Randy Adams. At first, he tells her
that he’s “morally” opposed to being machines that enable compulsive
behavior, which is an acknowledgement that it’s possible to do so. “But
on this point Adams was not consistent,” she writes. “[Adams] began by
locating addiction within the person, stating that ‘some people can’t
control the part that turns it from fun into addiction.’ When pressed to
specify ‘the part that turns it from fun into addiction,’ he replied:
‘It’s the design of the game,” and then added that this characteristic
of design was “not intentional on our part, just the way it happened to
evolve.'”
What would it mean for the project of social media if we understood
it to induce similar psychological states to machine-based gambling?
Would Silicon Valley employees struggle with their product the way
slot-machine designers do? I know a lot of coders and people who’ve
worked for various social companies; they certainly don’t see themselves
as being in the same core business as a casino. Most of them think
they’re “doing well by doing good.”
As a thought experiment, imagine there were incontrovertible proof
that certain web service designs caused people to enter the machine
zone, quadrupling time on site for a subset of users. Would designers
outlaw their use or would they all deploy the tricks for their
startups?
Things could be different. A site could encourage a
different ethic of consumption. To be a little absurd: Why not post a
sign after someone has looked through 100 pictures that says, “Why not
write a friend or family member a note instead?”
Shouldn’t these things be part of what web companies think about? Not
just encouraging users to consume more and more, but helping them stop.
The Problem of “Giving People What They Want”
You could argue that designers are simply giving the people what they want. The data says people spend a lot of time looking at pictures; so, Facebook serves up the pictures. Simple as that.
Engagement is usually the currency of the social network realm. Since
it’s much harder to measure whether someone is actually enjoying an
experience than it is to measure the number of minutes someone spends
doing it, engagement is typically measured by time. And so, Silicon
Valley has made the case to itself (and to the users of its software)
that we are voting with our clicks.
But there’s a problem. A definition of “what people want” got smuggled
in with the data. The definition starts logically: People go to sites
they like. But then it gets wobblier. They say that the more time you
spend on a site or part of a site, the more you like it. Of course, that
completely elides the role the company itself plays in shaping user
behavior to increase consumption. And it ignores that people sometimes
(often?) do things to themselves that they don’t like. Who “likes”
spending hours flipping channels — and yet it’s been a core part of the
American experience for decades.
What if the 400 minutes a month people spend on Facebook is mostly
(or even partly) spent in the machine zone, hypnotized, accumulating ad
impressions for the company?
Here’s my contention: Thinking about
the machine zone and the coercive loops that initiate it has great
explanatory power. It explains the “lost time” feeling I’ve had on
various social networks, and that I’ve heard other people talk about. It
explains how the more Facebook has tuned its services, the more people
seem to dislike the experiences they have, even as they don’t abandon
them. It helps explain why people keep going back to services that suck
them in, even when they say they don’t want to.
It helps me understand why social media, which began with the good
intention of connecting people, has become such a fraught subject. Among
the tech savvy, it is seen as an act of bravery to say, “I love Facebook.”
Because
designers and developers interpreted maximizing “time on site,”
“stickiness,” “engagement,” as giving people what they wanted, they
built a system that elicits compulsive responses from people that they
later regret.
At the very least, the phenomenon of the machine zone has to become a
part of the way we talk about the pleasures of the Internet. Perhaps,
over the long run, these problems will self-correct. I’m not so sure,
though: The economic forces at the heart of ad-supported social networks
basically require maximizing how much time people spend on a site,
generating ad impressions.
It just so happens that the user
behavioral patterns that are most profitable for Facebook and other
social networks are precisely the patterns that they’ve interpreted to
mean that people love them. It’s almost as if they determined what would
be most profitable and then figured out how to justify that as serving
user needs.
But I actually don’t believe that. You can say many
things about the entrepreneurs, designers, and coders who create social
networking companies, but they believe in what they do. They’re more
likely to be ideologues than craven financial triangulators. And they
spend all day on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, and Pinterest,
too. I bet they know the machine zone, too. And that’s why I have hope
they might actually stop designing traps.
In any case, fighting
the great nullness at the heart of these coercive loops should be one of
the goals of technology design, use, and criticism.
In the great tradition of the Valley, we’ll make a t-shirt: Just Say No To The Machine Zone.
amateu stuff only and I could no longer get hard with porn befor
Re: the damage of different porn types?
something I want to say about pornography
EXTREME Addict. Need Help.
Porn is not art.
On the topic of desensitization. (a bit off topic)
porn warps your mind. I know because I’m there. I feel isolated
our leading sexologist telling to the all young adolescent
ED fading, I already know I’m never going back
This place is gonna be bigger than you guys realize
here’s a substantial difference between the printed pornography
One-third (33%) of men between the ages of 18 and 30 either think that they are addicted or are unsure if they are addicted to pornography
The big change in porn viewing from 1980es to present era.
The big change in porn viewing from 1980es to present era.
had sex with a porn star and couldnt keep it up
had sex with a porn star and couldnt keep it up
I dont even want to masterbate, I just want the tabs open,
More than three decades of feeding my brain with P.
This is the phases I went through during the last 30+ years. (April, 2015)
PHASE 1 – Mainly Fantasies
Rewind to 1981. It all started pretty simple. Found some arousing pictures here and there when I was around the age of 11. When I was home alone this was enough to enjoy myself, so to speak. Saw some nude scenes every once in a while on television, enough memories to go on for some time 🙂
PHASE 2 – Magazines
At the time you where considered a pussy if you didn’t own at least a couple of Playboy magazines. I even put some centerfolds on my wall and my dad approved, seeing me as a healthy young boy 🙂
Still wonder how these magz became so :crunchy: – lol
PHASE 3 – Erotic channels and VCR
Now forward to 1985. The first time I was introduced to porn movies was in the famous Dutch FilmNet Night Club era. From 23:00 to early in the morning this was the place to be if you wanted to see the heavy action. We had a subscription to all channels. For a 15 year old boy, this was too good to be true. A lot of sleepless nights and a lot of wet towels 🙂 It got even better when I got my first VCR recorder. This allowed me to record my favorite stars and play it back during the day when I was home alone. I think 50% of all my tapes was P at the time. Carefully hidden in a box or labelled ”The Universe” and stuff 🙂
PHASE 4 – The Internet and DVD
Then 10 years later. 1995. Life was good, gorgeous girlfriend, lots and lots of sex. But during the relationship I discovered online porn. Started out with static images. When she was at work and my libido skyrocketted again, I would go online (you had to dial in then :)) and downloaded some fresh material. Movies where still too big for quick downloads, so initially I kept at static images. Rented some erotic stuff with girlfriend every once in a while, but didn’t turn me on like the stuff I downloaded from newsgroups.
PHASE 5 – High Speed Internet
Forward to 2005. Marriage. Libido started going out of sync with wife. The birth of online P sites. Started downloading movies now. Damn, so many hot women, so little time. Started collecting favorites, got really creative in getting the perfect ejac, sick 🙂
PHASE 6 – More, newer, novelty, comfort, fantasy world
It’s 2010. Divorce. Stuck in my tiny world, dropped friends, amped up the P intake 🙂 Gigabytes and Gigabytes of HQ stuff, neatly organized by ”actress”, PMO almost daily, social activities to a minimum. Going from ass-man to boobs-man and back again. Even my brain doesn’t know anymore what my real preference is. If I came home to an empty house, alcohol and PMO made me relax. Next day, all over again.
PHASE 7 – Too much of anything is not good for you
It’s now 2014. Even the hottest girls in videos don’t automatically turn me on anymore. They have to be in a certain position, have certain proportions and certain looks to trigger arousal. All other ”material” is just there to occupy space on my network (grown to epic proportions).
PHASE 8 – Why? Stop this downward spiral!
Jan 2015. I’m once again on a PMO binge. Three times in two days. My body and brain are exhausted. Instead of going out and chasing women, I’m going through my current collection to find anything that can heal my inner pain. When I ejaculate for the i-dont-know-which-1000th-time, something breaks. Why? Why??
And then during as search for people with similar problems I find NoFap. Read stories. Feel the pain and struggle everyone’s going through. Lurk for a couple of weeks and then I create an account, post some. Drop it again coz I feel ashamed. Create another one. Drop it.
And then my first real try. Badge and all. Two weeks. And then another two weeks. And then another week. Currently on the 4th try, but gaining momentum. After all, 3 MO’s in about 6 weeks is quite nice for a NoFap beginner.
So, to make this far too long story short. It will only get worse over time and it’s time to quit once and for all.
TL;DR: I’ve been escalating P in the last 30+ years, know almost every star/actress, but now I’m done with this shit 😀
LINK – More than three decades of feeding my brain with P. Almost prehistoric, so call me Fapster Erectus 🙂
by -h2o-
10 Hours of my vacation are gone because of porn.
10 Hours of my vacation are gone because of porn.
This is why artificial stimulation f***s your brain up!!!
This is why artificial stimulation f***s your brain up!!! EXPERIENCE
I Didn’t Realize How Long I’ve Been Influenced by Porn
I Didn’t Realize How Long I’ve Been Influenced by Porn
Cuckolding disaster.
[Cuckolding] disaster.
Our culture has change DRASTICALLY when it comes to porn
The taboo against going porn-free; Why people get so upset when you talk of the evils of porn, and the epidemic this is causing
Finally lost my virginity, and during it I was imagining porn
I finally lost my virginity, and during it I was watching porn in my head
Porn over the last few years has become much, MUCH more powerful, invasive, and addicting.
https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/9oabha/sex_helps/
6 Messed Up Ideas About Sex That Porn Normalizes